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HomeMy WebLinkAbout96-02186 "., ~ " I I , , , 1 ,'J " , ;', ~ J ~ ..... ') i ,I ,( , , " Since October 14, 1996, the children have visited their father under these supervised conditions as noted above, however, the petitioner continues to display an uncooperative nature towards the children, making several derogatory comments which shall be testit1ed about in court. Since the supervised visits have gone into place, the respondent attempted to complete a custody evaluation by Eugene Stecher, M,A, of Guidance Associates, to further establish a need for continued supervised visits as opposed to unsupervised visits. The respondent, through her attorney, attempted to include the petitioner in the evaluations so as to provide a complete custody evaluation for this Honorable Court to review, however, the evaluator was unable to complete such an evaluation within the given time frame of the December 18, 1996 hearing. Therefore, the respondent has agreed to a continuance of this hearing so as to complete a custody evaluation for review by this Court. However, the petitioner has refused to continue this hearing, Therefore, the evaluation performed by Eugene Stecher of Guidance Associates is limited to the review of the respondent and the children, Said evaluation is attached as Exhibit" A". Today respondent is still in agreement with a continuance of this hearing, however, the petitioner now wants different circumstances for the supervised visits, The respondent feels that supervised visits are necessary due to the petitioner's temper and lack of self control. A supervisor, therefore, needs to be able to control the petitioner, and the visits need to take place in a setting where the children are safe. II. POSITION OF THE RESPONDENT The respondent's position is currently that the children should continue to see their father under supervised conditions, Testimony will reveal that the petitioner has displayed violent mood swings and often lost his temper and abused the respondent and the minor children both physically and mentally. Additionally, it is the respondent's position that a full evaluation should be completed in this case due to the nature of the respondent's position. Specifically, the respondent teels that the petitioner has displayed an inability to control his temper, in addition to a temperament leading to violence and abuse. Due to this position, an expert in the area of psychology would be greatly helpful to this Honorable Court in reviewing the parties' positions, III. LIST OF WITNESSES a. Lisa A Straitiff: Relationship with the children, past events with the petitioner, current visitations, and future visitations, b, Michelle StraititT: Events that took place during the marriage in the marital home. c. Mel!na Straititl' Events that have taken place in the marital home during the marriage. d. Barbara Seward: Events which have taken place during the supervised visits. e. Eugene Stecher: TestifY regarding results of one-sided evaluation. f. DeMis Little: An event of uncontrolled violence displayed by Petitioner. g. Respondent specifically reserves the right to call any additional witnesses not listed herein as the hearing progresses. h. The respondent is specifically requesting that this Honorable Court speak with the minor children who are the subject of this hearing. Additionally, it is specifically requested that these children be interviewed out of the presence of both parents, preferably in chambers. Respectfully submitted, IRWIN, McKNIGHT & HUGHES o Rebecca R. Hughes, s 60 West Pomfret Str et Carlisle, Pennsylvania 170 I 717-249-2353 Supreme Court LV. No: 67212 Attorney for the Respondent, Lisa Ann Straitijf " ElIhibit ~ A" ,oil " " " , " " -' , , " , , , " " '('i,' ..~ l,' ,-:JL.J J.J:134 ~.J f~J StInk')' E ~h""HJct E..j LJ f'.<rn..~ C...j.j.,........."', ,.... 4;. hl.-,r,; r ...1 l...,npHiU "A 11011 C'~, ~ ..,;> . ~ I or Guidancr A~~oclates Or PA Branl:h Olfkli SJ. Norlh t:"'(',I)nd ~,t. <":harnb"r.hurH, I'A 1 nOI n~cember Ill, 1 ""r. k\l....."..H !r-ruh,,', M..\ 1.k.",W'l1 r.ych.,I, .~i'-l .,l Nn"...i\....'.n.i.:.' ('h."t,t...r~IILlr~ I'" 1;'!Ol /"I';'i:"I,Q\I): Rebecca Huches, Esq fin Wc,t ",'mll'el Street C1uh~lc, Pu 17013 He, !.isa Strn'lItrnnd her childll:n JIl~SC, age 13, b. 3/6/8.\, Rd''''l.'lt, Hlle I~, b, 9/13/8t, Lacyu. HMC l~, b ~I J0/78, lUId LarisilA, 8MC I a, b, 5/30/78 OCllr AlIomcy lIut,\hcs As per an initial requeslll'om your office J condllcled a' Cuslody Slud~ on December 4 allhe residence ofM,s, Slraitiffand her children I eonducled Ihe e\',llualion with the undt'rslandlng Ihal falher would not be involved. J intended to preparc a <<:1'" " t ba:\Cd on nlY "xlll'ri('n.'1l with ''''.'' h,r "".1 childrcn but was subsequenlly advised in conver'>illiollS wilh yourselrand Attomey Ir'.,u\ li,al Ituh"" Slrall;IT, Ihll children'. (alher, :II", ..ishc,11<> he ,neluded in lhis evaluarion, Th,~ pul Friday I receiveld (unher direclions (rom you, oOk.e to proceed wit" the repon since Mr Slraitiffhad withdrawn from panidpalion ' ~ flrit"r r.uliI.f lJ.u:kJl;rmlJuJ. I alll ad\'i~t.'\1 fflrlt the pa".'nr~ h:1\'t' ht't'lJ 111;Hrkd for sixteen YCRts and thall{obcl1 StrailllJ' IS Ihe nalul'01I tiuhcr of J~"c and Reb""Col and II,. adol'livc father of Larya md Larissa I undersland Ihal Cor rhc pasl Ihree years falher has ,,"n aelf-employed in the field of home improvements family .~)nl1icls I~<ll(> 1:,lher leaving Ihe horne in Novcmh,'r or 1995 Mother specifically r-ays Ihal (alher had become violent wilh Michelle (the oldesl dau~hter) and Ren.:~ca After luvinll, .he .,h'be's thaI he had frequent .c,'".. to Ihe hUllle until April of 1')'11' ...hen ,hc obla"'cd a PI',,\ SlIe . "'I"llt, falhe' ,1' ,.)ing i1t 11"11 tillll' rl,lal he was prayinll for permhsion to kill h.'r h om'" pril forward tllere had heen no conlaet between father and children ,:mil all 01'1.:, ".,' "c.j ill eMI)' Odobel which cSIltl>lishl'd 210 3 h\,\ur Sunday afternoon visits Illhe MJ MIlII '1 udale Ihere have bccn seven \;"talion\, and these are supt'rvised by a mutual limlty friend liart.." i. ~eward Ad,liti(\lIal int,'rwllliol\s havc ~pp01r('ntly indudcd ~cssions with Mark Deckurd, u Christian counselor, ..hooe UIliCll is in DlIllaslown. Mother advises thaI ahe and lhe dtil,llcn have anend.:d two I... ".hour "',,;,,ns ,jTl~e ^pril, and ~"< has ~I,,) h,ld. number ofpltonc "ails with Mr Dockard Father hA~ app.trcntly lalked 10 Mr. Dcel.:ard, as well, I bad Ihe opportunily 10 inlerview Barbara Seward at tht StrailiU'home. Mrs, S_ard i1aa' 61 a"d practiced a. an LPN for ZS years, with 15 ycal' spenl al the Harrisburg Slate Hospital. She has known Ihe Straitilf family for 11 yellls and .watchedthe children grow up" Her hu~.... CDcouraaed Je~se in his Ipon~ card eoll~"t,()n. She Ilaid, "My gr.ndlUds and LiM"kId. pllyed togelher." Mrs, Sewurd advised Ihal she has freqllenlly _II lhe children IIf her d.uehter', ( ,d rho \'1')01 . r~~, ""I"i.I..ll T....l.n~. - An...,~,. ~l..".lKl'Jfl""! . M.,Jiolllnn (:,btu~)'. Ltata,"ion " ,1','",1 ,': 1 .,'1" f;yj-:,r,~~l" :I,,';:LO' " I '.' . \ ,,/':;~~ .h. . ,J\.... "'.J:~'.J I ,t.....J ~\\4 ",sidl'l\ce and has wBlehed them in th..ir home ~chooljns activilies lIer view of mother and Ihe d1Jl.tn'n" (hat Ihc~ I\IC "~cnuine dun'lp"t ,... 1\.1", 1111'S ....hK' you ",...Ioday h II.., wny Iht'y arc. She h8Ii not viewed harshnen in mother ,^ilh rellarlllo lllsclpllne, . She will talk 10 them or leave the rl,om and say, 'We will ta'L: 'alt'r ,. She has nol willl"",'d mplh.'r!..'hild put downs !h!,.l,d,,,l' tlw ""rs "III> 1',tlllcr, M.. Se"Md advise~ tlllll n",'" ,'fth~ duld"m tlllk with their fill her llu';IIlIlh;, tinll' In Illlr "puuon this decisit'll was nOI 111.I(1c hy II'" bul was made amol18 the ,hildren them,d"" At one lime or anolher thl' children have all di~ussed .....ith her their fear of their fathers "screnmin~" and p'''<I''ly "10111 iIII'. ., I>."l' h.", hl"'" "" .qlll/t' (II "'\(1,,' ""LI'C She a<lvi '0" thai whir.. .lloinH to the Sundey visits she hfts observed .shaking" inlhe children and .whal it" lj""<1lons COllunH home th.'y 'end 10 t", "rcll"Hd" 811d arc I1IlH" 'rcla\t1d . Quesllons '0 be Addn'ssrd: What is Ihe nature of th<: relationship between mother and children'/ Given no wnlacl between the evaluawr and fa tllt'r , and no observations "fliuher ..lid ~hil.l'ell, what, if anythil1g, car: bc !aiJ about falhcr Blld ct"h1r.m" Me-.lde-nre-, TIlt' fam.') ha' I>ved at the cUlTent residence for approxlmately 6 years 'There are no immediate ptans to move A van WllS recently purchastld for lransporlation The home is 11 ~ years old and sin on 4 acres of ground which is abolll 2/,\ wooded area The home is largely IInnni.h~ un Il1e IIh"t" \', ith drywall not even in pla~e as yel There Is a large open area lI'ound the home wh.ich can be utilized for a vilrlety of a,,.ivities The hOllle Sils aboul ~O' oil' a rllral road The properly ",as pla,'ed fully in mother's namc ahoul 10 days allo Heatinll is by Oil/hlll air, and mother advises Ihat she recenlly pnrchased t ~o );:111",,, of fuel, Some heal is also supplied by a stove in the kitchen lJurinH my visitthc rcside'h"" \\ "s qllite cooUonnllre, Downstairs room spacl' COlls;sts of living room, kitchen/dining area, halh, and laundry alll\ utility areas Upslairs Ltu::~ ;~lt l!.n:l.:' Lc,;.\:f\.',('r1I~ and a rC\ll1l u;;,,'d 1"-'1' ~dliJJI ~lIrplics illld "c!ivltICS. The house is 4,;lan and orc.lr.rly Thc children have llIalt'~'sSl'S hllr n,,1 Iwds Tlw el,h,,' <laughters, Mkh.-llc (21) and Malina (19), &hare a room, the three middle dalltlhlc" sharc a I',l,)m, and Jesse hL' a rmlll) , Opcn walls make prh'ncy minimal, but the childTt'11 ""'Ill 10 arccplthe.c circumstllJlces and show appropriate mUlual respect I;, Id ll.ll. ;,;!ft'lllnJ: ;\1('11,,". r!,: ,1" 1"1("" "ll.illilC fr,'1I1 ",!'lllktll thl,lIC" tI,'r pan'nh live in Hllrri,hur~ I\S do three sisters am\tloe;, famili", Thcr~ are conlacts duri~!? the ye.\r, ""l my !mpr,",;ion is that the famil)' is nt'l ,1",-' \1"lt"" !\"'C l'>inh lU her first elllldas a Il1iddle Ittn and WL~ raising fOllr children hy the l'llle she me! hel currcnt husband Over rhe years she has home. Sdl<ltlll'tl thl' c1l1ldrcn, stlfllctllnes wo. ~ in~ oll"iil., Ih., home, mosl re~.'nlly al Ross from April 10 September Family IiviJ1i revolves around hom~' 'cholll and church ~C"VltICS There;$ fan,,!) involv~m"nl ~II"'O ,'hllr,~h,,< lht PalmMown Church and GI'ICC: Dapri!!, Mothtr Dtseribu Je-ssr, JPosse is In 7th grade Mothcr views him as an 8\'cragc studenl, well 1'~I'lflC', j, lrit'ndly, somcwhat .h)', I,,,,,~I.,, a hille laI~' ,,\lout chores, consistent Ind dependable, I d"ld .... h.. eru!s easily Itnd is C(1!1I1",,,,,,rlalc, .IIJ "ht' j, . V,) 10 b\' around. He plays football wirh Ihe boys at church, visits back and fo"h ...ilh lhree neighboring friends, paniclpatesln the Y family membeuhip, and is all"wed one hour of .'idco game~ pcr dllY, ills needs arc a role lIlod~I, 5t~hilil)', st.-':lIIity, umlerstand"'l:, prOh,.clion frnm "'ad influenccs, consiSltlfK:)' and struc,ture, groWlh in be~omin~ aware of his appearance, and heing a kid withoul c"'ccs~lve worries RighI (iA",l'usto.!yl.v,,!'SlfllititT '1 .' '-/'1 ' , "-',," ',..~l' \ ,.' ','" ~ 'I \,_ now Jl:~!>e's vocational gOlll i~ to be a professional foolballll!ajC' Mothcr 5Iate~, "lie b.\ Iinle young yellO know hi~ Sills and lalenl~. She "'an'~ him to lw "^ so'lly young man a ~"rint\ unll" ""lid ng "",1'311.1" ~I", rCl'ons ,liat I(~~\: J",', n, 'I h,I\ l kh;" "" p",tolClns, and hia bedtime is 103010 II PM, MOlher showoo m,' ~ome Jllcntrehlhal J..".. hR' rlrawn ~ince visits wilh father 1'<'" 'I , ' ,,'" IIn,"",plilll<:nt,\lY <,( f",h.,1' ~(:cl,t".." :"" tl"., rcr ,,'n (a pastor'), whom talher l>rlll~\ a) ,I illS, Ii~ spyin~ 0111 of a Illllhllee can MUlher :<aid Ihat ,he is tom bt'.ween allowing him to express his feelinss in lhis mll/lllCr IInd lelling him Ihat he shouldn', bl' disrespectful Mu.ht., II.'.."'U..'. H,'llI''''';!' Rclo,., ca " in Illth WOIdc Molher views her as a very good .Iudem, e,en all overa~hiever, a hillh hclf-mulI'Bwr, lIIuskltlly gifted, very pw1icular about hel mulie but sloppy wilh her olher W",I., so_what ofa worrier, be81nninll to come OUI of her shell IIOCIaIIY. comntemed on by other5 as a malur.. young lady, a real go Ilelter who ne.lds 10 be held back sometimes, and wanllng to be the be.tlllld to do II Bood job, Reb~ccOl t.u,;~5 piano Ie.som lUId ha~ achieved ulll 'O"y hi!::" len,1 Sho: also <-'njel)" ,olkr ".lillll, ""'.;"1> hllir a"e56orie., ,:ot)kifl14. I,,-hl.ll dl RI..t'viti~'~. nlld wntm~ In her vcr\' many pen flal~ ah"n~l Juily She h,,~ ('\00 \'c". HOuJ Ihend., une IWO huuses away alld one .bout I ~ miles away, MOlher views Rebecca's n..",/o as auidance to funnel her energy into profitable aclivilY, a ,olllin"illlcl nunllr<: ,,(her l1\u",'O.II,,'<'''I, suldance about female womanly things, the UlUrancc ofbeing loved, ac..eptanee of her appearance, reanurance that she docsn't need to comp<'h' with her 5i.I"", enc,ouragemenllo enjoy her childhoOO withollt worry ahoullhe fUlu'c, alld u/lller~l.ndl/lllthHI the family problem. arc I:<>t hcr f,,"lt Rcht'~".'s ,,"cationll' goal is lU l><: II conceit pilllliM, IInd .he Ilttk511boul ~..Ililll\ II IIIl1sk schollU'~hjr Rebecca is not view...d a. having bchavinr problems She can ~ mildly m,,>, 1,1: 0'..1 " !','.';'" ally very r"',"~nl Sh.. relreat' to the pial1,., \0 rcl,c\'t;, stre.. in antiripation of Sunday visits, · . MII.lIer J)c~crlbel Larya, Larya i. in Ihe 12th grade Molher views her as an averalle student, .hyet Ih.." her more OIlIllIx'YIl/lt twin, dedicated, level headed, faithful and dependable in her work, carinllliOOUI her own 1'''''<.111, OliO' who lo~... '1",,",,1, to the highest dqvCle. one who i~ confident in her own opinion and not ca<>Jiy swayed, and rrelt'rrinll pnvaey more than the other childrl'tl l.lIrya j, v cry ncll\C with her pen palo, laH.., fl~,,"e,,~I:.. '" ",..nd. on the phone and "( .," .r/o" . )rca~ion~lIy at lh)nJ~ :\Od ()lIt~idc the "'ortW ~l.l" not C:llrai:t'J if! f',l"lTIal d.I!:llj.; .',i :1,,11 ,;I,''/. in C'hlJrdl 8Cli"ltU."S mdudmg c.111ohng iJ,lld flla)~. au" "Ufk.~ 11'.r; .:vurun~~ II "c~k . I ".1 ,', II Ro!-~ f\f\)thN !!oC't"ti 1.:H)iJ1S nccd~ as rel\55UrMce .h.d hIt' i~ Il",. p,l~"'lnlt 'wr :') I ,.1 ; '1-.), nl,.~ ~jli'.t she !;:hU tini~h ~ch"H.)1 and lakt" ahe SATl\. instruction (In "ouumly th'rJ~~ iirlJ ~or.;j;,1 dill... .PI'! Ill,\flllt'!rs, enCtlUra,t'ltll1Cnt not to WOrt)' ahout pee. b'.",cptH.nct!', faith Ih:l' fit/llil) problems c^n he ovcrcome and thing. will gel beller. alld a ",".e ofbeinK OK about not being SUI~ ahnuI whar ~hl' want... \I) d.., with her life Mother al'l.l.... wantcd to indi&.:ale that moral instl\lctioll wI\:> mo~l impo'tanl for all of the children Larya's vocationat 80al is probably 10 work with animals in some WilY She is un,erll';" about <oollege but will be the fllurth I!irllo u.ke lhe SA Ts Larya d(le~ nnt have behavior prohlems, bul sh~ is subjecl to Iypical teen moods, MOlher Ducrlbn 1,.risSM, Larissa i~ in the 12th 8rad~ Mother views her 8$ an above averase ",,,felli, ""I!'oing. chet'lT)', congenial. overachie-.ing, hi"hly mOli..led, h;srd working, and a very he,"cs! pt'r"lll who sets others .tr&ishl MOlher descrihcs L...,i'M IL\ the spokesperson with lither fill the dLild.en 1. III is", velY much enJoy. her friend~, hut she al<lO ha5 done no fOllna' dating, (;AP'('u""dyrvaI/SURi,ifr 1 . 'I ,'I L 1. ~ '\JG Sh" II vcry creallve with crafts and is in"olved in Illllny or the ilctivili.,s alf\....1y n1C1ll10r1cJ ,'f Ih., olher children She ..ork, al Ross five evenlngs a week dividing goods into boxe~, MOlher sees Larim's, fk."d~ a~ bC:Iflt'. 5illlllar h.l thus,,- uflwr !lister tHIt abll 1111'1:111,11\.,..1 C:IIl,:OUlu~\'nll.:nt nul h.> work her sell to Ihe poinl of bumullt, reassurance Ihal family prvblem. willllel beller, and Ihallhe filmily can tI., "..mmil"'.. .'HI work toward ,0mnlOn I"'al, I.ari"" wo"ld probably ht'H,e1fprt'fer svmc 'H'e or 11~"d~ (.11 ""vrk ill II... lulu,.', I'"ll uti"" \e,.,,, I,., 11...\ ,he would male ag'eal polillclan I arissa does nol have behavior prnhlt'm~ ra,tnllnll Quutlons, Mother responded to thirty ~iluntions which requir('d a deei~i\m atloul how 10 reacl 10 child behavior lhe 'l"ebtiun, rang.'d frum infanl .'arc 10 teen Ille n.'C,h Here i, an example of mothc,'s respon""s In Ihe ~irualion pre'enled 1\ year old John IlIkes a hA~etlall lI'om a store withouI paying for it. The parents Ilnd oul, ealllh" Slor." and sendb 10hn back 10lhc store by himselfwilh Ihe ball MOlher's rarin\:: Poor to Fair parenling What would make il good parenling? "The parenl should \:" bael, t"lh,' SIlJII' with him" Ifl"\llenional ratings arc considered, mothcr agreed 70% orthe lime, ancllh"" wlllrillthe 'ange of ",,,sl p,lIent, who rC!'spund to .he~c ~itl!nti\HI~ . Chilc1",n'.lnttnic"s, I "'<plain,," In Ihe children Ihai 1 woul.! nnt hlh" 11r.' ,'pp'munifY I" meet II""r furher My basic 'i'le,li"n W8', "lIow do you feel aboul li.ing here "ith your mother?" J then asked, "How was il differenl when you, falher was h..,.."" The Ilnal 'Iu...110n WolS, "Whidl (,lmily nwm!'>", ,-.In youI"lk to the casi..st'!," and "Who would you !;,,~ :0 abOul a protllent'" J~se said, .olt's f1m\ M wh~~n :l~~:t'ct nholl' living with nh"ltht:r HI' ,">pl'r'taQ~)usly said, "J like it to<'!tCI here wlthulIl hlll1 (I:,lh') Ihan Will hi",," and he ,.tid .tner hllllrcr inquiry, "I don~ have 10 ", ,),!'\' a~''''111 "I'en he'll blow up" .Iesse lillther 5l1id, '" talk 10 Re,l) Iho.Pmosl" lie would talk 10 "llh.IIU" bll(l\H a problem Rebecca said, "Ever since he left ils been much heller I just like living wilh my mom." I'd be living ill fellr with daJ phy,lcally ahusive" Shc flirt her SIIi", "M\lbl of illY sisters I can lalk 10 aboul anything J would tell her (mom) aboul a prohlem first" '~I_1"\'a ".I'd, "I I' ~ I' li"lTl,l: ill! ': 1 dtlrl't ~,n. 1\\ ,11.l' I \\, II rill ,,' llllnf\ H Iilhlt- a.1l\V.IU,~I\' ,+.\~" ~hc doc~n'l C"el mo,~ ~omf()rtdhk lalkint! I" "'Ie "l.olll't, '" """ther, alld aboUI pr\lt>lcm~, ". really don'l talk thin~s Dill I 1\"1<110 b., bv 1II\,,,If ,,101" l.ary" rle'elit....,! her fufher when present as, . .\\,' .t' "'tl. \\(JUIJil'l ~;\) III \'I,lrk I'd IIk"'!(I thlnlo. Ih..1 nlfl,;\!" lll' l.:ould chant;~ and lhifl,tls would he ""II" " Of Ihe lI>ret' ch.ldrrn I.arya was the only ont' who sponlanCOUlly held ouIIWlpe tor a po,~itive chan~e in falhe, Larissa said, "I d\lll'l haVl' any prohlcms with hving h~re wirh lilY ramlly" She identifies wllh her older sislcr, and ~aid, "l\Ie and Malina at~ a Il.lt ahkc" St,.' a"", ,,,id, ". di~us~ ~lulT with my mom" Rc~ardin~ her fillher, "" prohle/ll~ wilh him being around. ..never know his mood ......never know what will sel IJlm off" (;enua. Obnrntlon: ..'.mi", All of Ihe childrcn arc polile, wt'1I mlUlllCrtlt, helpl\J1lo one anollier un.! 10 their III"IIICI, ~'lllc' td",,'d th"III,dves, an.lplll "",,"Uent elTo" inlo my requesti or O^P/('usfodyl'.vaVSrrlitift' 4 . . , .'- . .:' l'~ \.\ ~V1 th....m AjJ l1U\C tX.,;c,;IIl,,'llt (ll.r....il11.ll ',ill.... ,...Ib... ,did 1i;II.d:,,'IIIC 'l'II'C.~I.JI"d::' :\llll"..i :lIh.'q..Llfd) during the Ungame Olllcnllllon; Motla~r .nd Childrrn. 1n Iltnrr~1. the In\tractilln~ invulvcd ~,,()d humor amI 1'''lt~'':C: .:' IJ Wl,,'re kinJ Uf)J r\'~ ~",,'... tfdl, a' I~! ~1L':.'J;t".1 ~ , 011 I..\f ..It !' 'fit', HI iJllt.lh lit y '\t"1 t' "'1)1 in eYh;icrl~C:, "hele were no beha"i~n \lr cuUlnll'nl~ by IlIlJlhcf r-.;\~II Icttt:lIIllh"g IlItHllidalhHl, u il,,'I"OIIS, <,'I 1'''1 d, 'WlIS There werc no hrhavion 51111ReSlin(\ manipulation ofthe thoullhh Mnd Io"eh"l!.' \,flh.' )',,",,!.','r .."ildr,'" [,.,. II".' ,d,', ,hid!'.'" I nh,crvcd mother and children playin!! Ih.' l:nBamr, a conwr",tlonal board ~JOl" 11I.'11"1 \l1 .'nl'''l'l' Ih.> rlllllily in non.:uIIlI".tiliVl' interacli"" A t)'pical 1'\3'111'1.' "r inr.,:" I" "...t .'..i., ", li111"d in the fi,lJIlwmg exchangc Mother, "Arc you goirl!r to t~ll c the dog flil' a waIL J ad'"i.''''''' L:ui5S,'l '"I ",ill If I hitv.." ttmt' " \v..' ha",e in this e~';:""l'C ~ so:nbC IIf b...th fl.:cd..", J!,d ,..,pon,il,llil y t,lI tho: .hild Allol},.:r int.:rM~ti..n exampl.: follow~ Mother, "I did do a favor ror ,...,mCOntl ...day - .he di~tIO:'" Wo: hilv,: illthi< eommem ~ 5e'n<o: or nuihilily h} m,'lher and u,ual ".'>t"'lIsihil,ry fm II,.: dllll\ There f..!ld"" "",,,npl..s "rother responses "'Illlc~~inl\ fllirly n(lrlllul .nl",.,'.II' ,II ulldd ,h.' ~\'l\!UtHl)I\ lJIi"':fo"cnpC The family g('f1t"rilll) r1\'nidl,,'d ill c"'-'(lth C:'I(..:h..tJlg\.'~, fiH c,.ll....fIIPh:. \,h",'n Rc.:I,a'(;..'a wa~ i.l:iKcd to ~ai son""[hin~ Ill......... to "il,'h lTl"!llh'l pflb!;' fa/ui!;', :,iJL' l;:llflllllCutc:d 0111-, \.'11 artid..< Ord"lhin~ or h~ir '1ppearan~... Tile dllld,.:n IIH1Y b.: searching 10 identir)' Iheir I"'elill~s in th....,~ \hfth.:u1l tllll\.''S it... ,,'\'itlc'ncnl in 1 ar~"'~ ..t.tlt'r1I\.'fl' '11'm not mad:'io J guc!'~ that IlIcan!\ I'm ""i-I'Y. However. 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E-< 0 HU Ul UJ III ~ ~ "-<u E-< > ~~~ !~ 0 u\!) . ~ :l o...l t Q -<00 E-< ~:i! >-1.... -< O"l E-< C( ::>>-1 HN 0:; ,.,; ~ ~ 00:; :>' w Ul U"-1 H\!) al H al u"; 0 >-1 "-1:1: 0 0:; :Ii:::> Z '". U Z"-< - HO HAROLD S. IRWIN, III, ESQUIRE AnORNEY ID NO, 21120 35 EAST HIGH STREET CARU8LE PA 17013 (71n 24U01O AnORNEY FOR pmnONER ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, Petitioner : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA VI. : CIVIL ACTION. LAW LISA ANN STRAlTIFF, Respondent : NO. 96.2186 CIVIL TERM : CUSTODY I. ~TATe"ENl Q.E FACTS.ISSUE~ AND PETlTI9NER'~ POSITION> The parties were married on November 29, 1980, and are the parents of six children, four of whom are the subject of this aCI.ion, Larissa (age 18), Larya (age 18), Rebecca (age 14) and Jesse (age 13). Since the time of the parties' separation in November, 1995, the children have been residing with respondent. Between the time of separation and April, 1996, petitioner was permitted limited colllact with the children, In April, 1996, respondent filed a petition for protection from abuse, stating therein various allegations of abuse on the part of petitioner, Petitioner steadfastly maintained a rigorous denial of any abuse on his part, but, on April II, 1996, in order to resolve the matter amicably, did enter into a voluntary consent order, Thereafter, the respondent relused to permit any contact whatever between petitioner and the children. ,_J> ( On April 17, 1996, petitioner tiled the instant petition, requesting that the parties be granted joint legal custody and that respondent have primary physical custody, but that petitioner be granted specified periods of temporary or partial physical custody and visitation with the children subject to this petition, Pursuant to that petition, a conr.i1iation conterence was held on July 19, 1996, at which timc petitioner agreed, in his continued hope of arrivins at an amicable resolution of this matter, thut he would pay tor and partir.ipate in family counseling. Respondent continued, however, to rcfusc any contact between petitioner and the children, Following the conciliution conterence, respondent proposed that the parties utilize Mark A. Deckard tor family counscling, Family counsel ins was scheduled and carried out by Mr, Deckard on Ausust 22,1996 and August 29, 1996, In Mr, Deckard's report, a copy of which is attached to this memorandum as Exhibit "A", he recommended that a limited torm of supervised visitation be pursued initially, avoiding overnight stays, with all parties continuins the counsel ins sessions throushout the period of these visilS. On September 20, 1996, petitioner, throush his counsel, agreed to thcse recommendations, proposed a schedule and three possible supervisors, and indicated his willingness to continue with the counseling sessions, Nevertheless, respondent, in spite of Mr. Deckard's recommendations, continued to refuse any contact between petitioner and the children, On October 14, 1996, petitioner tiled a petition for special relief, requesting that the Court implement a schedule of supervised visitation pending the hearing scheduled for December 18, 1996, After a conference with the Court between counsel for both parties and respondent, durinS which the Court indicated its preterence that the parties allempt to resolve this interim maller, the parties did enter into an agreement tor such visitation on October 15, 1996, Respondent named the times, location and supervisor for these visits and, again in the spirit of attempting to reach an amicable resolution, petitioncr agreed to those matters as proposed by respondent. Supervised visits, in accordance with the agreement of the parties and Order of Court dated October 15, 1996, have taken place since that time, However, the visits have been " , " lrustratinll and dillicult for petitioner and the children, The public nature of the location lor the visits, the fact that the supervisor is a personallriend of respondent and otherwise totally unknown to petitioner, the leeling that respondent may be observing the visitations 3nd other factors have made the visits quite uncomfortable and virtually unworkable, It is petitioner's desire, in the absence of the parties being able to resolve this amicably, that the Court fashion a custody arrangement where the parties will have joint legal custody, giving both panies equal opponunity lor input into important matters affecting their children, such as education, religious instrucllon, medical care and other legal custody issues, The petitioner does not desire to change the primary custody of the children enjoyed by the respondent. However, petitioner does wish to have a program of visitation and temporary custody which has as its goal an eVllntual, "normal", partial or temporary custody arrangement with the children and petitioner, Such a program could begin with additional visits of the children with petitioner supervised by the children's paternal grandparents at their home, followed by a period of unsupervised, non-overnight days of temporary custody with petitioner, tbllowed by Saturday/Sunday stays with petitioner which include overnight, followed by full weekend stays. Petitioner also desires that a schedule be developed for holidays and vacatton time. Throughout these proceedings, petitioner is aware that the children have expressed a certain lack of interest in spending time with him, However, he feels that this is primarily the result of the long period of separation from them and conditioning they have received from respondcllt. The pctitioner bclieves that it is imponant for him to have contact and input with the children and be permitted to have a relationship with them, It is for both of these reasons that although he has very strong desire to spend as much time as possible with the children, he is willing to phase in his contact with the children. In addition, he remains willing to participate in any family counseling recommended or required by the Court to assist the family in working outÿthese difficult issues, II. IDENTITY OF WITNESSES TO ~ CALLED AND SUMMARY Qf TESTlMQNY: There is one issue regarding witnesses that petitioner desires to have the Court address prior to the start of the hearing, As mentioned above, the parties had agreed to submit themselves and the children for t110Iily counseling with Mark Deckard, whose report is atlached, On November 22, 1996, counsel tor respondent indicated that respondent desired to have a custody evaluation performed, but insisted that it be done by Eugene Stecher, rather than Mark Deckard, On November 29, 1996, counsel for petitioner advised Counsel for respondent that petitioner would agree to the evaluation by Eugene Stecher and to contribute toward its costs, but only ifit could be accomplished without a delay in the hearing and only if petitioner and the children were evaluated on the same basis as respondent and the children, Eugene Stecher eventually informed the parties' counsel that he could not perform a complete evaluation in time for this hearing, Due to the delays already experienced and the unwillingness of respondent to permit any meaningful contact between petitioner and the children prior to a hearing and order of Court, petitioner was unwilling to agree to a continuance of this hearing in order for the evaluation to be completed, Accordingly, although Eugene Stecher did meet with respondent and the children at their residence, he has not met at all with petitioner, nor has he completed a thorough custody evaluation, Furthermore, petitioner's counsel has not been given any report from Eugene Stecher about any observations he has made. It is petitioner's belief and position that the Court should address the issue of having Eugene Stecher testilY at all in this case, if called upon by the respondent, due to the incomplete nature of his involvement with these parties and the children up to the present time. If the Court feels that input from Eusene Stecher is necessary to the Court's disposition of this malter, petitioner remains willing to participate in a full and thorough custody evaluation performed by Eugene Stecher, However, petitioner submits that pending completion of the evaluation and disposition by the COUrt, reasonable additional visitation between petitioner and the children should be urdered by the Court. Petitioner suggest that such visitation could be adequately supervised by hi, mother It '* home, since it is evident that the present arrangement is so unsatisfactory, 'J of At the hearing in this matter, petitioner intends to call the following witnesses: A, Robert T, Straitilf(Petitioner): Relationship with children prior to separation; circumstances of separation; efibrts to reconcile with respondent; elTorts to provide financial support since separation; visits between November, 1995 and April, 1996; circumstances surrounding PF A consent order and etfects thereof on relationship with children; present conditions of supervised visitation; cooperation with counseling and custody evaluation; living arrangements that would be in effect during partial custody stays with him; future family goals; reasons for his desire to have a relationship and contact with his children; and related matters. B. Beverly Straitilf(Petitioner's Mother): Her observations about petitioner's relationship with the children prior to and during the separation; her observations at present supervised visitations; her observations about petitioner's ability to care for the children ifin his custody; her observations about elTorts of respondent to prevent petitioner from maintaining relationship with children; and related matters. C. John Berry (Family Friend): Relationship between his family and parties' family; observations about the relationships between members of StraitilT family; his observations about petitioner's relationship with the children prior to and during the separation; his observations at present supervised visitations; his observations about petitioner's ability to care for the children if in his custody; his observations about efibrts of respondent to prevent petitioner from maintaining relationship with children; and related matters, D, Nancy Berry (Family Friend): Relationship between her family and parties' family; observations about the relationships between members of Straitiff family; her obllCrVations about petitioner's relationship with the children prior to and during the separation; her obllCrVltiona It present supervised visitations; her observations about petitioner's ability to care for the cbildnn If in his custody; her ob3ervations about etlbrts of respondent to prevent petitioner fiom maintaining relationship with children; and related matters, " I, .. " , , EXHIBIT "A" _A .) Ui ' , .- ''';) ,,',r,' ()(' . ',' ) ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, I IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF Plaintiff I CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA I v. I CIVIL ACTION - LAW I LISA ANN STRAITI FF, I NO. 96 - 2186 CIVIL TERM Defendant . . I CIVIL ACTION - CUSTODY r'~ " AND NOW, this day of consideration of the attached Custod ordered and directed as follows: , 1996, upon Report, it is 1. A hearing is scheduled in Courtroom *~ of the Cumberland County Courthouse on the I" ." day of (, ,),1: I'.' " , 1996, at ; ''-' -L.:...-.m.. at which time testimony will be taken in the above'case. At this hearing, the Father, Robert '1. Straitiff shall be the moving party and shall proceed initially with testimony. Counsel for the parties shall file with the Court and opposing counsel a memorandum setting forth the issues before the Court, a summary of each party's position on these issues, a list of witnesses that will be called to testify along with a sununary of the anticipated testimony of each witness, This memorandum shall ba tiled at least ten (10) days prior to the hearing date. 2. The Mother and the four minor children, Larissa, Larya, Rebecca and Jesse are directed to cooperate in any family counseling sessions scheduled by the Father on the condition that Father pay for these counseling sessions and allow the counselor to have authorization to deal with both parties and their respective attorneys with respect to providing information. BY THE COURT, l ') I") " , f " , \ . r . ) < , ." er, J. r...) " cc: Gregory R. Reed, Esquire Harold S. Irwin, III, Esquire ~.+,-''''' ",,,(4.Q.~l 71~/~~ ../; ,f'. .' ..... ~,,...; i ~~.~ . r11 , ) '\"J .',\.:;)I 'II . '1:,) ~ j""- 'r'\~ . , :=.:! ~q .... ROBBR2' 2'. S2'RAI2'I 1'1', : IN 2'HE COUR2' OF COHHON PLEAS OF Plaintiff : CUMBERLAND COUN2'Y, PENNSYLVANIA : v. : CIVIL AC2'ION - LAW : LISA ANN S2'RAI2'IFF, : NO. 96 - 2186 CIVIL 2'EM Defendant , . , CIVIL ACTION - CUS'l'ODY , PRIOR JUDGE: HONORABLE GEORGE E. HOFFER CONCILIATION CONFERENCE SUMMARY REPOR2' IN ACCORDANCE WITH CUMBERLAND COUNTY CIVIL RULE OF PROCEDURE 1915.3-8(b), the undersigned Custody Conciliator submits the following report: 1. The information pertaining to the children who are subject of this litigation is as follows: Laris~a Straitiff, age 18 Larya Straitiff, age 18 Rebecca Straitiff, age 14 Jesse Straitiff, age 13 2. A Conciliation Conference was held on July 19, 1996, with the following individuals in attendance: The Fat.her, Robert T. Straitiff, with his attorney, Harold Irwin, Esquire, and the Mother, Lisa Ann Straitiff, with her attorney, Gregory R. Reed. 3. The parties separated in November of 1995. In April of thi8 year, a Protection From Abuse Order was entered against the Father by a consent agreement. Father has not had any meaningful visitation with the children since la8t November. He did see them periodically at the family home between November and April, but he has not seen them since April. 4. The Mother suggests that the children did not want to visit with the Father because of the Father's conduct toward. the. in the past. 5. Father suggests that he wants to have liberal visitation with the children. He suggests that the Mother i. alienating the children from the Father, , -t, '1 ,- I'd ~, -f, 'J " h I L_ o.J " el) ~1 ,~ I; " J \), .j '.J IJ I," (1'\ l- I In (j (~ ,-,1 , II'\ I If) , , 0 'J , ::r- '"FJ ;1 ff.. It .J ('/ " C'J Ul 00: loloO: ~ ...:Ip.. lol p.. '~E-< Z >- 00: " OE-<...:I_ X Z I ~ x::> ~ 00 ~ uuzu o ~AH<l' OZE-<O 00: U co E-<...:I00: ..... p:p: ::> lol...:l I 8 flJ~ 1.0 St-i O'l wuu :r: E-<~ 0 o Z Z H .. 'OJ ~l:: ~o H,.... ......, H.,,,,,., ,o:+> P:OJ ...p.. Ul Z z ..: ..: Ul H H . > , g; ~ H rei ... '0 H l:: ..: OJ P: .... ... OJ UlA el III o .", ..., ,'" ..., 41 110 " 111~~ i ~ ~ .... ~ ~ ~ ~; ~ tJ fI'... . I ~ '. - "' ..........., '.; ~ ... ~ ::::: ...... ~~ illl ~;'l e;:" !:Iii ~I::l :l ",q: o~ 'l:: "l:: :t: . ... Eo- P: W Pl o P: HAROl,D S, IRWIN, III, ESQUIRl: ATTORNEY ID NO, 19910 J6 SOUTH PIT r STRUT CARLISLE PA 17013 (717) 1..J-6090 ATTORNEY FOR Pl:TITIONER ROBERT.... STRAITWF, Petitioner : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA : CIVIL ACTION - LAW NO. 96 - ;;!\\'t.> CIVIL TERM : CUSTODY VS. USA ANN STRAITIFF, Respondent NOW, this ~)V)<( _ day of/Vi(, / , 1996, on consideration of the attached petition, it is hereby directed that the parties and their respective counsel appear before Hubert X, Gilroy, Esquire, the conciliator, on the 4th Floor, Cumberland County Courthouse. on the -i..::/!:day of '-:'r~\f\(' , 1996, at ,0 leI/. M, for a Pre-Hearing Custody Conference, At such conference, an effort will be made to resolve the issues in dispute; or if this cannot be accomplished, to det1ne and narrow the issues to be heard by the Court and to enter into a tcmporary order. Failure to appear at this conference may provide grounds for entry of a temporary or permanent order, By the Court, ",' , ~l "../'" ,/ 1/ BY:l "~l. ustody Concihat \i , , ;&1, YOU SHOULD TAKE THIS PAPER TO YOUR LA WnR AT ONCE. nr YOU DO NOT lIA VE A LAWYER OR CANNOT AFFORD ONE, GO TO OR TELEPHONE THE OFFICE SET FORTH BELOW TO FIND OUT WHERE YOU CAN GET LEGAL IIELP. Court Administrator Cumberland County Courthouse Carlisle, PA 17013 (717) 240-6200 . , -5 .3 ~~ 5J'Y~ .5 :3,9'- ". ",' , I.I~!, (Iv!, (~ 1'1r'dtV ~ ~c.~ ~M.~:'" J:'k" IM'h./!/ ~ ~ {~4f ;~;,-.t:./'-. 'I/. J&/~~ , ' ,-t " 'I ;\' ' ',\ I 1;',1' '1'1' ,', I " 'j' 'I':" ,\ " II ," 01'1 ,""1 , " , " , , )'11, , " I , , i, ,I I', , 1 " ,". ," '1'1 , , " "1., " " " ,1'1, :l '" " I' 'I 1,/11 i , , I"" " " -(,,', 't:.I:\ '\1' .'.( ,I, -1'1" 'I '" \ ,-,,',It. I " " , j,' 'I' " ,,, " /-"lr,\ , ,,' ',,, , ,'1 ,-,' ,,,' " ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, Petitioner VS, : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA CIVIL ACTION - LAW NO. 96 - -::J.i\(,; CIVIL TERM CUSTODY LISA ANN STRAITlFF, Respondent NOW comes the petitioner, Robert T. Straitin: by his allorney, Harold S. Irwin, III, and pr"sents the following petition for custody, representing as follows: I. The petitioner is Robert T. Strllitin: an adult individual residing at 170 I Maple Street, New Cumberland, Cumberland County, Pennsylvania 17070, 2, The respondent, Lisa Ann StraitilT, is an adult individual with an address of7 Kutz Road, Carlisle, Cumberland County, Pennsylvania 17013, 3, The parties were married on November 29, 1980. 4, The pal1ies are the parents of two adult and four minor children, namely, Michelle (age 20), Malina (age 19), Larissa (age 17) Larya (age 17), Rebecca (age 14) and Jesse (age 13). 5. The children resided with the petitioners until their recent separation, Since that time, the respondent has had primary physical custody of the children and since at least the beginning of April, 1996, has relu"ed all contact between petitioner and the children, , , I I, I " , 6, Petitioner is subject to a protection Irom abusc ordcr , having entered into a consent agreement with respondent on or about April II, 1996, wherein he specilically denied any allegations of abuse, threats of abusc or harassment of respondent or the children. 7, Petitioner believes and Iheretor avers that the best interests and permanent welfare ofthe children requires that the parties have joint legal custody of the children, that respondent have primary physical custody and that petitioner have specilied periods of temporary custody wilh the children in accordance with a schedule which may be agreed upon at II conciliatton to be held in this matter, WIIEREFORE, petitioner respectfully requests that the court enter an order providing fo! the legal and physical custody of the children as aforesaid, AprU.L1.,1996 iL HAROLD S. IRWIN, Attorney ror petition 36 South Pitt Street Carlisle, Pennsylvania 11013 (717) 243-6090 Supreme Court 1.0. No. 29920 1:", ,.,1 , I', ' "',i'.1' " , 11; 'i: I,', ','1',' ./"d , ,'I ~ I do hereby verilY that the acts setlbrth in this petition are true and ..orrect. I understand that false statements herein are made subjeclto the penalties of 18 Pa,C,S, Section 4904, relating to unsworn tillsitlcation to authorities, AprU11..1996 , , iI' )1 ',' I 'Ii' " ': ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, Plaintiff V. LISA ANN STRAITIFF, Defendant : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA . , : CIVIL ACTION - LAW : 96.2186 CIVIL TERM ~ AND NOW, September 30, 1996, hearing In the above-captioned custody matter shall be continued from October 14, 1996, to WEDNESDA V, DECEMBER 18, 1996, .. 9:30 ..m. The remainder of the Court Order of July 25,1996, shall remain In effect as written, HAROLD S. IRWIN III, ESQUIRE 36 SOUTH PITT STREET CARLISLE, PA 17013 GREGORY R. REED, ESQUIRE 2423 NORTH THIRD STREET HARRISBURG, PA 17110 By the Court, J. L "If........ ".",.:.J..t. <'f /30 'ft.. ..;/> ."P, " r',. , . 'Ill' j'," , ' , (, : ~ \'J' ' (,I , , I I.) I " :' . ' ,'j " c.., . I r, : , '0.1 ii ... ... J 'p ~ I 0 ~ .~ ~ p. 2l ~ . .IP_ I . . ~~I > I ~ ~ ~~ ~ IiiI' ~I~~~ ~ ! .'E ! ~ ~ ~~ ~ ~ ~ " . ,. . .? , , IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY. PBNNSYLVANIA ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, Plaintiff civil Action - Law v. No. 96 - 2186 LISA ANN STRAITIFF, Defendant CUSTODY R!.l.ttE AND NOW, this .J.!1 day of ~ ,1996 on motion of Gregory R, Reed, Esquire, ~Il & ~.OA- ~ Defendant'., L:i-ea Aftft .&t~*-f:h-t:o--SRO~' of Gregory R, Reed, Esquire s~t C&YS8 ~RY the appearance be withdrawn. Rule returnable on the _ day of _ " '" ~.iU....At. o'clock. . N. in-the--GOUl'tl'OOI!lof t;he--elb.cL....ltmd- COtmty' Courtllou_,t.'el'liele.,- Penneylvonie-, AH- p.. oceedifl96' to, ficty-"JRUR'A"Ri] 9 By the Court / /) ./ ~.' . \U;(' ,'., 'I, ,': Ib /q 1) j\J(1/1 (l f I ) · , ""f~l . ( , , " ft, II I ~ I ^ .:J ~ f L" 'L {^. ( ((r f ~ ( S , , i f , I 'I '.. , " If I, " I.. , , \:,' t. ,: '/\) \'.'.11 !.! rt.'l' ~ .. IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY. PENNSYLVANIA ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, Civil Action - Law Plaintiff v. No. 96 - 2186 LISA ANN STRAITIFF, Defendant CUSTODY PETITION TO WITHDRAW 1. The Petitioner is Gregory R. Reed, Esquire, with an address of 2423 North Third Street, Harrisburg, Pennsylvania 17110. 2, The Respondent is Lisa Ann straitiff, with an address of 7 Kutz Road, Carlisle, Penn Township, Cumberland County, Pennsylvania. 3. The Respondent retained Petitioner to defend her in the above referred to Custody/Visitation action. 4. Petitioners representation of Respondent began on or about April 4, 1996 when he filed a Petition For Protection From Abuse for Respondent to No. 96-1804 in Cumberland County. 5. All of Petitioner's efforts have been on a strictly pro bono basis because of the obvious need and the lack of funds. 6. Unfortunately, Petitioner and Respondent are not in harmony in the way her defense in the instant case should be pursued. 7, Petitioner is not willing to continue his representation of Defendant in light of Defendant's unrealistic expectation. and -.' ~ desired result in this case. WHBRBFORE, Petitioner prays your Honorable Court to allow him to withdraw as counsel for Defendant in the above referred to matter. "~t.:u,,, 2423 North Third street Harrisburg, PA 17110 (717) 238-0434 . i; " , , 'I' .. " " ,r, 'i" I." ,'j 'I'" i, ' :,11: , I;' . CERTIFICATE OF SERVICE AND NOW, this d-day of October, 1996, I, Gregory R. Reed, Bsquire, Attorney for Plaintiff, do hereby certify that I have served by first class mail, a copy of the attached Petition to Withdraw, this day to the following address: Lisa A. St>:aitiff 7 Kutz Road Carlisle, PA 17013 Harold S, Irwin, III, Esquire 36 East High Street Suites 201 and 202 Carlilae, PA 17013 'i f , I " G'~ 2423 North Third street Harrisburg, Pennsylvania 17110 (71 7) 238-0434 Attorney I.D. 23705 , 1 1'1 I',,,, ; . .'i J I ! ~, 'T :~ ,,:'M , , ," ~J ~" ~ 1$ ~ ~ ~~ ~ ,,{j -...' ~ <;)..... '..... ," -jft j} . III "" .. . III . II: ..:I III .. lIlo :::: ., llo Ilo III lIlo ~ ... .. " ...... Ii . . .. .. ~~ c .. ..:1..:1 .. = = ,.. lIlo .. .~ c .. r:~ ~~ c 1:1 0.. .. ~~ u 0 ..u . III U .. 0 ~~ ~I ~~ lIlo UIll ... . 0 Q "ID .. .. ~Cl~ ...' . ... ... !i 0: ~ .. .. ..:IN .. .. :5 ,..It:: .. ..I ..., III .. 1:1 .. ~Ill Ilo III O>c c IlIl ..Cl\ III '( U .. U C "l" III . .. ::t: IlIl II: 0 III 1:1 . .. U . 110 .. 0 ~ ~,. ". . ,; .. .. "-'. ~- 1 j , :3 ..A.... _......_...~ " ....,... " ' ~-~---.....~".-.. .. ,--- --~ ..- . " .;)' .. ...... ....'( , . _.. "I . ...... ' ..., ~ , . ,/I .' .. ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, Pelltioner : IN 'filE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA : CIVIL ACTION - LAW v, : NO. 96 - 2186 CIVIL TERM LISA ANN STRAITWF, Respondent : IN CUSTODY PETITION FOR SPECIAL RELIEF NOW comes the petitioner, Robert T. Straitill: by his attorney, Harold S, Irwin, III, Esquire. and files the this petition lor special reliel: representing and follows: I. The petitioner is Robert T, Straititl; an adult individual residing at 170 I Maple Street, New Cumberland, Cumberland County, Pennsylvania 17007, He is thtl plaintift'in an action for custody filed &tthis term and number. 2, The respondent is Li~:\ Ann Straititl: an adult individual residing at 7 Kutz Road, Carlisle, Cumberland County, PennsylV1l11ia 17013, She is the defendant in an action for custody filed at this term and number. Defendant's attorney of record is Gregory R. Reed, Esquire, 2423 Nonh Third street, Harrisburg, Dauphin County, Pennsylvania 17110, 3, The parties were married on November 29, 1980 and are the parents of six children, namely Michelle (age 20), Malina (age 19), Larissa (age 18) Larya (age 18), Rebecca (age 14) and Jesse (age 13) 5, The children resided with the petitioners until the parties' separation sometime in November, 1995, Since that time, the respondent has had primary physical custody ofthe " ,"" '" . .i , I children and since at least the beginning of April, 1996, has refused all contact between petitioner and the children. 6, Petitioner is subject to a protection Irom abuse order, which order, however, was entered pursuant to a consent agreement with respondent on or about April II, 1996, wherein petitioner specifically denied any allegations of abuse, threats of abuse or harassment of respondent or the children, 7, Petitioner believes and theretor avers that the best interests and permanent welfare of the children requires that the parties have joint legal custody of the children, that respondent have primary physical custody and that petitioner have specified periods of temporary custody and visitation with the children, 8. On or about April 19, 1996, petitioner filed a petition for custody, requesting the court to enter an order providing for the custody of the children in a format such as is suggested in paragraph seven above, 9. Pursuant to that petition, a conciliation conference with the parties was not held until July 19, 1996, at which time petitioner agreed that he would pay for and participate in family counseling, but respondent continued to refuse to permit any contact whatever between petitioner and the children. 10, It was pointed out at the conlerence that although the children, Larissa and Larya are now eighteen years of age, they are still attending high school and are proper subjects of this custody proceeding along with their younger siblings, ~' '~..... t ,II. , , ..j ,,' I J. On July 25, 1996, this Court entered an order selling a hearing before Judge George E, Hoffer for October 14, 1996, at 9:30 a,m" outlining the Pl'ocedure to be followed for this matter and directing respondent and the four children mentioned herein to cooperate in any family counseling sessions scheduled by petitioner, A copy of the prior Order of Court and the Custody Conciliation Report are attached hereto as Exhibit" A", 12. Thereafter, by an exchange of letters between counsel for the parties, copies of which are llttached as Exhibits "B" and "C", the respondent suggested and the parties agreed that they would utilize the services of Mark Deckard, Christian Counseling Associates, Dallastown, Pennsylvania, to carry out a program offamily counseling for the family, 13, Counseling sessions were held on August 22, 1996 and August 29, 1996, as indicated on the report prepared by Mark A Deckard, a copy of which is attached as Exhibit "0", No joint sessions have been held to date and to date respondent has not complied with the Order of Court directing that she also have Larissa and Larya participate in these sessions, 14, On September 14, 1996, Mal'k A, Deckard provided a written report of the counseling sessions which have been held, recommending therein that a limited form of visitation be pursued, He further recommended that at this time, these visits be supervised and initially should avoid overnight stays and be limited timewise, He also suggested that the parties and the children meet with him during this initial period of vis itati 011 for continued counseling, 15, On September 20, 1996, petitioner, by his counsel, advised respondent, through her counsel, that petitioner would agree to the recommendations of the counselor and suggested three possible supervisors for the visitation, a schedule of 10:00 a,m, through 8:00 p,m, every other Saturday and continued counseling through this initial period, A copy of counsel'aletter i, attached as Exhibit "E", , . ,# . 16, Petitioner's counsel has sent two lbllow up letters to the one da',ed September 20, 1996, copies of which are attached as Exhibits "F" and "G"; however, respondent has still not agreed to any form of contact between petitioner and the children, 17, On September 30, 1996, due to apparent schedule conl1ict~, the Court entered a new Order of Court, rescheduling the custody hearing in this case to December 18, 1996, 18, Respondent remains unreasonably and unjustitlably opposed to all contact between petitioner and the children, while petitioner, on the other hand has been totally cooperative to the suggestion or counseling, has fully participated therein and is willing to tbllow the guidelines and suggestions of the counselor proposed by respondent to assist the family in this maller, 19, Petitioner has already been denied by respondent all contact with the children since April, 1996 - over seven months, Due to the continuation of this hearing until December 18, 1996 and the refusal of respondent to permit contact between petitioner and the children, petitioner will be prevented trom all contact with the children for an additional two months. 20, As a result, by the lime oflhe hearing, it will have been over nine months since respondent has seen the children and about thirteen months since he will have had the opportunity to spend any time with the children outside the company of respondent. 21, Petitioner believes and therefor avers that the refusal of respondent to permit the visitation between petitioner and the children as recommended by the counselor and agreed to by petitioner is unreasonable and unjustified and contrary to the best interests and permanent welfare of the children, 22, Petitioner believes and therefor avers that the present situation is extremely harmful to his relationship with the children and that permitting an additional two months to " , ! 'I . ~ j~ .~ '.. , , . , , .. . VERI FICA TION The foregoing petition is based upon information which has been gathered by my counsel in the preparation of this lawsuit. The language of the document is the language of my counsel and not my own, I have read the petition and to the extent that it is based upon information which I have given to my counsel, it is true and correct to the best of my knowledge, information and belief. To the extent that the content of the petition is that of counsel, I have relied upon counsel in making this verification. I understand that false statements made herein are subject to the penalties of 18 Pa.C,S,A, Section 4094, relating to unsworn falsitication to authorities, October 14, 1996 '),~" ROBERT T, STRAITIFF J , , ,:1 .' .. . , " ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, Plaintiff : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA CIVIL ACTION - LAW I, ~ : V. I' 1 ' ., LISA ANN STRAITIFF, 96-2186 CIVIL TERM Defendant , I ;'1 i t J ' : I I" j [' ; ~ ~ . ~~ QBl2t;R OF COURT AND NOW, September 30, 1996, hearing in the above-captioned custody matter shall be continued from October 14, 1996, to WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER ..I .~ 18,1996, It 9:30 I,m. The remainder of the Court Order of July 25, 1996, shall '1 I 'J 'I :~." ""~ ~! 'r ~ remain In effect as written, By the Court, J. / HAROLD S. IRWIN III, ESQUIRE / 36 SOUTH PITT STREET V CARLISLE, PA 17013 GREGORY R. REED, ESQUIRE 2423 NORTH THIRD STREET HARRISBURG, PA 17110 '11, , " I' ," , " " ", , " 2. ...;, , . . ~ .. ~,) '(h, I,>"" },.... ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, . IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF . Plaintiff . CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA . . . v. . CIVIL ACTION - LAW . . . LISA ANN STRAITH'F, . NO. 96 - 2186 CIVIL TERM . Defendant : . CIVIL ACTION - CUSTODY . COURT ORDER AND NOW, this ~'1.k day of ~}t consideration of the at tached Custody on il iation ordered and directed as follows: , 1996, upon Report, it is 1 , A hearing is scheduled in Courtroom ~3 f the Cumberland County Courthouse on the I ~:d... day of c..~,-" 1996, at q; ~o L.m., at ",hich time testimony'" 11 be taken in the above case. At this hearing, the Father, Robert T. Stniti!! shall be the moving party and shall proceed initially ",ith testimony. Counsel for the parties shall file ",ith the Court and opposing counsel a memorandum setting forth the issues before the Court, a sununary of each party's posi tion on thofse issues, a list of ",itnesses that ",ill be called to testify along ",ith a sununary of the anticipated testimony of each witness. This memorandum shall be filed at least ten (10) days prior to the hearing date, The Mother and the four minor children, Larissa, Larya, Rebecca and Jesse are directed to cooperate in any flUlJily counse.ling sessions scheduled by the Father on the condition that Fathe~ pay for these counseling sessions and allow the counselor to have authorization to deal ",ith both partie. and their respective attorneys' with respect to provid.1ng information. BY THE COURT, "S/~ ~, )"'~,1~ George E. olfer, oJ.' cc: Gregory R. Reed, Esquire Harold S. Irwin, III, Esquire TIlUI COrt '10M "COlD 'n r"'lmony W,,",'r: "', I "".un" lit ""... .nd the IN' of ..Id Cowt it C.... Pt. ' Thl. ....,~~..~.... of ~ .',....,' OL,. ".' -, ....., , ........ _..........,,)l~ n~','. ' '.' "":.'" .~,. ..;"';J\I',~ . .. '''..' ':.. '_ ,I, J ,-I;I':~ .\ ',' .~ ~. "',,",,\1,\ , '.. .. - .. .. '." :.., ..',.., ~. ,I, .: " \ iJ ' .. ' .., " ' ; i, ... .." \ <. "~\ I';, " '~l', \ .., 'I I,," :,.-_:il )1_" -, - , , , , . . . ROBERT T. STRAITI FF, I IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF Plaintiff CUHBERLANDCOUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA . . , v. . CIVIL ACTION - LAW . . , LISA ANN STRAITIFF, NO. 96 - 2186 CIVIL TERM Defend.Jnt . . . CIVIL ACTION - CUSTODY . PRIOR JUDGE I HONORABLE GEORGE E. HOFFER CONCILIATION CONFERENCE SUMMARY REPORT IN ACCORDANCE ,WITH CUMBERLAND COUNTY CIVIL RULE OF PROCEDURE 1915.3-8 (b) , the undersigned Custody Conciliator submi ts the following report I 1. The infortllation pertaining to the children who are subject of this litigation is as followsl Larissa Straitiff, age 18 Larya Straitiff, age 18 Rebecca Straitiff, age 14 Jesse Straitiff, age 13 2. A Conciliation Conference W4S held on July 19, 1996, ",ith the follo",ing individuals in attendance: The F4ther, Robert T. Straitiff, with his attorney, Harold Irwin, Esquire, 4nd the Hother, Lisa Ann Straitiff, ",ith her attorney, Gregory R, Roed. 3. The parties separated in November of 1995. In April of this year, a Protection From Abuse'Order "'a. entered against the Father by a consent agreement, Father has not had any meaningful visitation with the children .ince la.t Nov.-ber. He did see them periodically at the fuily hOlM bet.,..n November and April, but he ha. not .een the. .inc. April. 4. The Mother suggests that the children did not "'ant tov1.Jt ",ith the Father bocause of the F.ther'. conduct tow.rd. th.. in the past. S. Father suggests that he wants to have liberal vi.itation with the children. He sugge.t. that the Hother i. alienatin, the children from the Father, . . . , , , . . . . , 6. The part,'es iIIere not able to reach an agreement, so a he.ring is nctcessary. The Father is willing to p.y for family counseling in an effort to address some of the issues set forth abovo, but he does not iIIant to delay the scheduling of a hearing pending that counseling. 7. The Conciliator recommends an Order in the form as attached. IJ!-;;v!tlt? Date Hu~ert x. Gilroy, Esquire Custody Concil tor " , " "i' 'I " , , " , , , '.;" "I ,"il ," "I ,,' ,:1' ""'-' -.", , . . " .. . " 'n ;1'/ ,,\ :!\ ,'. '\ ,<, ~ ; i I, I '1' !.:Ii:" I" ~,'~;, ,'" ,', : :' EXHIBIT "BH , ,I', . ! ... , ,j ! I . . , . 9,.t!'1o"2.'n.~: :JI.t!t!d 2423 N Third 51, . Horrl,bu'g. PA 17110 (7171 238-0434 lax (7' 7) 238,8469 July 29, 1996 Hal s. Irwin, III, Esquire 36 South Pitt Street Carlisle, PA 17013 Re: Straiti!! v, Straitiff Dear Mr. Irwin: Mrs. Straiti!t is unwilling to voluntarily agree to visitation prior your client receiving counseling. We recommend as the counselor, Mark Deckard, Christian Counseling Associates, Dallastown, penneyl vania, ( 71 7) 843-5695 (home telephone number) or (717) 246-0344 (o!fice telephone number) . GRR/na pc: Lisa Strait!f! " ",' \ 'i' I , , " )I':'.l "'j ",' '" '" ,.,1' ,j' \'1",_\ ' " I" , , I,.,' " ,.j ,.,' , , ,:. '" " , " . I .. , , I' , , . " i-t , " ~ J, I' " .,i! 'li' 1:/ 11,-: EXHIBIT" F" " .. ", 'I EXHIBIT "6" , " , " " " '; II', ,I , " J 'j' , ", "'-..., ......1.,1 " " .. , , " , " '" I " " ,)1 '\ 'Ii , , " " " " 'I' " II!..' 'I' " ';1 " .' ,... . ." HAItOf.D So, IMIH, ", Jor So ZlIIANe. ~.......... LAWOl'~'OI' HAROLD S. IRWIN, III A rrORNIY.A T./.AW HrrNIR HOUSI SUIT'S 201 Md 20Z ~5IAST HIGH STRUT CARUSI..I, PENNSYLVANIA 17013 www.cenpftlfl.comllrwlnl rr(F))~V 717.I4UOH - 717.:IU-'200 ,..-. I~.n.t October 8. 1996 GREGORY R REED ESQ 2423 N 3RD ST HARRISBURG PA 17110 RE: StnitllT Ii '. Dear G"I: I' Due to the continuance of the 10/14 hearing by the Court - and especially since it hu been continued untU December 18th, Bob hu asked tbatl apin write about at least a temporary lil'eement, &Ions the lines reconunended by the counselor. We really need a response to this and I think you would asree that the continued refusal to permit any contact. even that recommended by the counselor - is uncalled for, particularly in Iisht of this long delay, 'I 'j,\ I Also. Bob should have received at the house his registration for his vehicle, The registration IUns out this month and we would appreciate it if the renewal application would be turned over to us so that he can take care of that. " !' Thank you for your cooperation in this malter, Sincerely, ~Q)[PY Harold S, Irwin, m , ,l\ Hsa I: " , , .. ., " " EXHIBIT "H" . " " )"1 , , " , "il ':1 ' ", 'I ',I , , I': ", "~I' " . , :'" ,,'1,1 . . '," "I' ',I I' " ,...,......, ) t' ,'.. , 4' I . , '., . HAROt.D .., IMW, ", JOY" D/tANCI -- LAW OI'F'"' 01' HAROLD S. IRWIN, III ATTORNf!Y.AT.LAW HITNf!R HOUSf! SUITES 201 end 202 35 EAST HIGH STREET CARUSLf!. PENNSYLVANIA 17013 _.CMpenn,Com/II'WInI 717.24M0I0 - 717.243-.200 '~C.- . ~.ne' October 14, 1996 ROBERT T STRAITIFF 1701 MAPLEST NEW CUMBERLAND PA 17070 , , ~QQQQQQQQQQQQ~OQQQO~OQQ~QQOOO~Q~ For Proressional Services rendered as rollows: In re: Petition for Special Relief Draft petition and revisions Conference with client Conference with Judge Hoffer Phone calls to client and Attorney Total Time 2,00 hours .50 .50 ~ J. 4 5 hours 3,45 hours@ $125,00 $431.25 Attorney Fees Due $431.25 THANK YOU! ACCOUNTS DUE BEYOND THIRTY DAYS ARE CHARGED INTEJUlST, AT THE RATE OF 18% PER ANNUM, .. ",., , \, ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, Plaintiff : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA CIVIL ACTION. LAW 96.2186 CIVIL TERM V. LISA ANN STRAITIFF, Defendant ~ AND NOW, December 18, 1996, hearing In the above-captioned custody matter shall be continued to Friday, February 7, 1997, at 9:30 a.m, The following changes to the visitation arrangement shall be in effect pending further Order of Court: 1, The supervisor of the visitation shall be Barry Knerr; 2. The time of the visitation shall be from 2:00 p,m, until 4:30 p.m. each Sunday, unless at the request of the supervisor an adjustment in time is necessary; 3, The parties shall meet at the Bonanza Restaurant In the Chambersburg Mall; it Is anticipated that they will eat at Bonanza and go shopping or go to see a movie or some other activity; 4. The persons present at the visitation shall be the children, the petitioner, Barry Knerr, petitioner's mother, and Michelle and/or Melina Straltiff, and no other family friends unless agreed to in advance; 5. Petitioner shall pay any expenses of the supervisor during the visitation; 6. The parties will cooperate In completing the custody evaluation with J , , e \.0 ci Q\ ..... ~f~ r'il ~J , , ,,91 :; - ~C; '~ ~~., . " 1:.i.'J ".. :e:(... ;':'" ',1 ""~, .,,~ - 5'" - ~ .- (.~ ~- " .. ..":1 ,:!:) ~ "" "l ';:) -<; .... " " . 11.., l;- ~.'\! v ..!!.. '1 1 ~ f E-< Z ~ ~ ~ w :::::: ~ ~ w ., H H i>: ..... ~ E-< E-< c.:J ;<: ~ H H .0: ~j i:i i:i ~, ~~ E-< E-< &.l ~ ~ ~ !~ Ul fE Ul Ill;:! :<: . .0: . w ~J E-< ..; H e"j~ E-< ~ Q ~ ,:<, E-< ..; E-< t;)~ U i>: Ul W ~ ...,Jl: ~; w H Ul a:l H 0", 0 W ~ ~ c.:J ..; ~ H i>: ~ . .. " NOW, THEREFORE, in consideration of the mutual covenants, promises and agreements as hereinafter set forth and intending to be legally bound, the parties hereto agree as follows I, The parties shall have joint legal custody of the children To that end, upon Father's initiative, Father shall be permitted to receive copies of the children's medical and educational records and certilicates of participation and achievement as well as any other information regarding the children's well-being, health and welfare, Such records shall be secured from the medical providers and/or educational authorities whenever possible and where available therefrom, rather than from the Mother, 2, Mother shall have primary physical custody of the children, subject, however, to the Father's rights of visitation with the children as follows: A Father shall have visitation with the children no less than the weekends of March 28. May 16 and June 27, 1997, and thereafter on the fourth weekend of each month, beginning on the weekend of July 25, 1997, B, The supervisor of the visitation shall be Barry Knerr or anyone of the parties' adult children, If on a particular weekend neither Barry Knerr nor one of the parties' adult children are available to supervise the visitation, the parties shall either select a supervisor by mutual agreement or change the date of the visitation to the weekend prior to or after the scheduled weekend, C, The duration of the visitation shall be for at least 2 'h hours, unless the parties agree otherwise. D, Unless otherwise mutually agreed in advance of the scheduled weekend visitation, the children and the Father shall meet at the Bonanza Restaurant in the Chambersburg Mall; it is anticipated that they will eat at a restaurant, go ~-_,I ,I shopping, see a movie or some other activity and it is understood and agreed that their time together after meeting may be at some other location then the Chambersburg Mall E, The persons present at the visitation shall be the children, their Father, Barry Knerr, the children's paternal grandparents, any of the parties adult children and no other farnily or friends unless agreed to in advance, F The children will not be discouraged by the Mother from conversing and interacting with the Father during the visitations, G, The parties agree that the children Larissa and Larya shall not be required to attend these visitations unless desired by the chidlren, 3, Nothing herein shall prevent the parties from agreeing to provide additional times ofvisitlltion or panial custody of the children by the Father specifically on holidays, the children's birthdays and on Father's Day, or such other times as they may agree. Mother shall permit additiorW contact between the children and the Father if the children, or any of them, request additional time with their Father 4, The Father shall be permitted by the Mother to have telephone contact with the children once per week while they are in the Mother's custody, ifat the time of his call they or any of them desire to speak with hirn, If desired by the children, they shall be permitted to contact the Father by phone, Likewise, Father will be permitted to send mail, cards, gifts or other anicles to the children and the children will be perrnitted to receive them or respond to them free of any interference from the Mother, S, The parties agree to attempt to cooperate in obtaining and participating in family counseling provided reasonable financial arrangements can be made, a mutually agreeable counselor can be secured and it does not contlict with the children's schedules, - COMMONWEALTH OF PENNSYLVANIA: :SS: COUNTY OF CUMBERLAND On this, the 7" day of February, 1997, before me, the undersigned ofticer, personally appeared Robert T, Strait iff, known to me (or satisfactorily proven) to be the person whose name is subscribed to the within instrument and acknowledged that he executed same for the purposes therein contained. 1.\ ,1'/ (SEAL) '" 'd, ,0.1.."1,;,, COMMONWEALTH OF PENNSYLVANIA: :SS: COUNTY OF CUMBERLAND On this, the 7r day of February, 1997, before me, the undersigned officer, appeared Lisa A Straitilf, known to me ( or satisfactorily proven) to be the same person whose name is subscribed to the instrument, and she acknowledged that she executed this agreement for the purposes therein contained, Ii I, _(SEAL) I' ," ..,'"" '} '1"1, . 'I ii " , , " " I' , , I" , , " , ,'I' , , ,t ;, I " i ',., "I , , EXHIBIT "A" 4,) Respondent shall pick up the children at the Food Court entrance to the MJ Mall on or after 5:00 p,m, followins each such visitation; S) Petitioner and the children will be permitted to leave the 11.11 Mall during the visitations, but only in the company of the supervisor of the visits as aforesaid, and 6) The parties shall continue the tamj(y counseling with Mark Deckard throughout this initial period of supervised visitation and in this cOMection it is ordered and decreed that both of the panies and all four of the cllildren subject to this maner participate as may be recommended by the counselor, By the Court, ? ~ E ~"rtdA 1. ROBERT T. STRAITIFF, Plaintiff : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA V, , , : CIVIL ACTION - LAW LISA ANN STAAITIFF, Defendant , . : 96-2186 CIVIL TERM IliB.E: HEARING DATE Q,RQi..R OF COURT AND NOW, December 18, 1996, hearing In the above-captioned custody matter shall be continued to Friday, February 7, 1997, at 9:30 a,m. The following changes to the visitation arrangement shall be In effect pending further Order of Court: 1. The supervisor of the visitation shall be Barry Knerr; 2. The time of the visitation shall be from 2:00 p,m. until 4:30 p,m. each Sunday, unless at the request of the supervisor an adjustment In time Is necessary; 3. The parties shall meet at the Bonanza Restaurant In the Chambersburg Mall; It Is anticipated that they will eat at Bonanza and go stlopplng or go to see a movie or some other activity; 4. The persons present at the visitation shall be the children, the petitioner, Barry Knerr, petitioner's mother, and Michelle and/or Melina Straltlff, and no other family friends unless agreed to in advance; 5. Petitioner shall pay any expenses of the supervisor during the visitation; 6. The parties will cooperate in completing the custody evaluation with lA' Eugene Stecher, which will Include Dr. Stecher meeting with petitioner and the children together at petitioner's home; Dr. Stecher to arrange the details with the parties. , , , , .' , , , . : By the Court, . '. I, ~ : 'I ; , . I I I I I . . I , . offer, J. Harold S, Irwin III, Esquire 35 East High Street Carlisle, PA 17013 For the Plaintiff Rebecca Hughes, Esquire 60 West Pomfret Street Carlisle, PA 17013 For the Respondent I , !, .' I' I, I I, I