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HomeMy WebLinkAbout03-0306 BRIAN E. HOFFMAN, Plaintiff VS. IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYL VANIA NO. 2003- J6(.. C,u,L ~"l CIVIL ACTION - LAW CUSTODY THELMA 1. HOFFMAN, Defendant COMPLAINT FOR PARTIAL PHYSICAL AND SHARED LEGAL CUSTODY AND NOW, this 16th day of January, 2003, comes the Plaintiff, Brian E. Hoffman, by his attorney, Diane M. Dils, Esquire, and respectfully requests the following: 1. The Plaintiff is Brian E. Hoffman, an adult individual, who currently resides at 40 W. Green Street, Apartment C, Mechanicsburg, Cumberland County, Pennsylvania 17055. 2. The Defendant, Thelma J. Hoffman, is an adult individual, who currently resides at 6305 Locust Lane, Mechanicsburg, Cumberland County, Pennsylvania 17050. 3. Plaintiff and Defendant were previously married, and as a result of said marriage, two children were born; namely: Emily A. Hoffman, born July 17, 1993 in Camp Hill, Pa., and Jacob A. Hoffman, born June 9, 1997 in Hershey, Pa. 4. The parties hereto are currently divorced. 5. There has been no prior action for custody or visitation of the minor child in this or any other jurisdiction; however, the an Agreement was entered between the parties, and said Agreement was made apart of the parties' Decree in Divorce docketed to No. 01-6621 in the Court of Common Pleas of Cumberland County, wherein primary physical custody was granted to Defendant, and Plaintiff was granted partial custody as the parties agreed. 6. Cumberland County has jurisdiction in this matter, as Plaintiff, Defendant, and the minor children have resided in Cumberland County since 1994. 7. The Plaintiff, Brian E. Hoffman, believes that it is in the best interest of his children a specific schedule be made an Order of Court for his partial custody rights as follows: a. Every other weekend from Friday at 3:00 p.m. until Sunday at 6:00 p.m.; b. Every Thursday from 3:00 p.m. until 9:00 p.m.; c. Alternate holidays including Easter, Memorial Day, July 4, Labor Day, and Thanksgiving; d. Christmas to be shared between the parties - Segments A and B; e. Additional time during the weekdays, with Plaintiff giving pnor notification to the Defendant; f. Vacation time during the summer months. WHEREFORE, Plaintiff, Brian E. Hoffman, respectfully requests Your Honorable Court to grant him partial physical custody of his children. Respectfully submitted, . I I :4 w{ _1 11{i~~ I Diane M:, ils, Esquire 1017 J>f6rth Front Street Harrisburg, PA 17102 (717) 232-9724 I.D. No. 71873 VERIFICATION I verify that the statements made in this COMPLAINT are true and correct. I understand that false statements herein are made subject to the penalties of 18 Pa. C.S. Section 4904 relating to unsworn falsification to authorities. Z}z~- ~ Brian E. Hoffman Date: January 16, 2003 BRIAN E. HOFFMAN PLAINTIFF IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA v. 03-306 CIVIL ACTION LAW THELMA J. HOFFMAN DEFENDANT IN CUSTODY ORDER OF COURT AND NOW, Friday, January 24, 2003 , upon consideration of the attached Complaint, it is hereby directed that parties and their respective counsel appear before. Melissa P. Greevy, Esq. , the conciliator, at 301 Market Street, Lemoyne, PA 17043 on Monday, March 03, 2003 at 1:00 PM for a Pre-Hearing Custody Conference. At such conference, an effort will be made to resolve the issues in dispute; or if this eannot be accomplished, to define and narrow the issues to be heard by the court, and to enter into a temporary order. All children age five or older may also be present at the conference. Failure to appear at the eonference may provide grounds for entry of a temporary or permanent order. The court hereby directs the parties to furnish any and all existing Protection from Abuse orders, Special Relief orders, and Custody orders to the conciliator 48 hours prior to scheduled hearing. FOR THE COURT. By: Isl Melissa P. Greevy. Esq. (, Custody Conciliator TIle Court of Common Pleas of Cumberland County is required by law to comply with the Americans with Disabilites Act of 1990. For information about aceessible faeilities and reasonable accommodations available to disabled individuals having business before the eourt, please eontact our office. All aJTangements must be made at least 72 hours prior to any hearing or business before the court. You must attend thc scheduled conference or hearing. YOU SHOULD TAKE THIS PAPER TO YOUR ATTORNEY A l' ONCE. IF YOU DO NOT HAVE AN ATTORNEY OR CANNOT AFFORD ONE, GO TO OR TELEPHONE THE OFFICE SET FORTH BELOW TO FIND OUT WHERE YOU CAN GET LEGAL HELP. Cumberland County Bar Association 2 LibeJiy A venue Carlisle, Pennsylvania 17013 Telephone (717) 249-3166 ~- ,/'~ f.~. 147 JJ~- . f(};'~( ~/:t ~ ~~ [<7/}0/ m r :t! ~ ~f'f! EtJlx"'l \-I\'-\\II\\).;,S",\\'., \~,~;'~,..," . 1"\ :);'l (1" \,f\'.l..,..d'\\(,.) J-li'\\ \U ., . . ,.. , ('(\ \ " / .. '." .. t, () :'1'\ \J ,.. MAR 1 2 2003 ~. Plaintiff IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM CIVIL ACTION - LAW BRIAN E. HOFFMAN, v. THELMA J. HOFFMAN, IN CUSTODY Defendant ORDER OF COURT AND NOW, this 'T' day of March, 2003, upon consideration of the attached Custody Conciliation Summary Report, it is hereby ordered and directed as follows: 1. Leqal Custody. The parties, Brian E. Hoffman and Thelma J. Hoffman, shall have shared legal custody of the minor children, Emily A. Hoffman, born July 17, 1993, and Jacob A. Hoffman, born June 9, 1997. Each parent shall have an equal right, to be exercised jointly with the other parent, to make all major non-emergency decisions affecting the children's general well-being including, but not limited to, all decisions regarding their health, education and religion. Pursuant to the terms of Pa. C. S. 95309, each parent shall be entitled to all records and information pertaining to the children including, but not limited to, medical, dental, religious or school records, the residence address of the children and of the other parent. To the extent one parent has possession of any such records or information, that parent shall be required to share the same, or copies thereof, with the other parent within such reasonable time as to make the records and information of reasonable use to the other parent. 2. Physical Custody. Mother shall have primary physical custody subject to Father's rights of partial physical custody which shall be arranged as follows: A. To commence March 14, 2003, on alternate weekends from Friday at 3:00 p.m. until Sunday at 7:30 p.m. B. Each Thursday from 3:00 p.m. until 9:00 p.m. C. Father shall have periods of partial custody during the weekdays upon a minimum 24 hours notice and the mutual agreement with Mother. "', 'ilN'i^1~SN~~3d . I f \. 'r '''.'''' ,.",,, {"., "~".'"'lnf'\ J\,".." " i~ ,~, ~ ~ i',.-"::c I!:_f_<_'~,\ IV 2u :~ II I ~'r_ {} S I ~ljj!"l SD NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM 3. Holidavs. Unless otherwise agreed, the parties shall follow the following schedule for holidays: A. In odd-numbered years, Father shall have custody for Easter and Independence Day and Mother shall have custody for Memorial Day and Labor Day. In even-numbered years, Mother shall have custody for Easter and Independence Day and Father shall have custody for Memorial Day and Labor Day. B. Christmas. Father shall have custody for Christmas each year on December 25th from 10:00 a.m. until 9:00 p.m. C. Thanksqivinq. The parties shall share the Thanksgiving holiday each year in the following fashion: Father shall have custody from 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. on Thanksgiving Day and Mother shall have custody from 3:00 p.m. until 9:00 p.m. on Thanksgiving Day. 4. Vacation. Each party shall be entitled to two (2) non-consecutive weeks of vacation, to include the vacationing parent's custodial weekend. The parties shall provide each other with a minimum of 30 days advance notice of their intended vacation. In the event that the parties have scheduled conflicting vacations, the party first providing written notice of their vacation plans to the other parent shall have choice of the vacation time. 5. Neither party shall do or say anything which may estrange the children from the other parent, injure the opinion of the children as to the other parent, or hamper the free and natural development of the children's love and respect for the other parent. Each parent shall ensure that third parties also comply with this provision during his or her periods of custody. 6. In the event that Father would want to relinquish a part of his weekend period of partial custody, prior to contacting a third-party caregiver to care for the children, he shall contact Mother to offer her the opportunity to spend the additional time with the children. However, in the event that Mother is not available during that time, it shall be Father's responsibility to arrange for alternate care. 7. Transportation. Under the present circumstances, where the parties presently reside approximately a five (5) minute drive apart, Father shall provide all transportation incident to his periods of partial custody. However, in the event that the parties' residences do not remain comparably convenient to each other, Father reserves the right to petition to modify this paragraph of the Order. NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM 8. Father shall not take the children to his place of employment and have them in locations which his employer has designated as places where children are not permitted. Neither parent will leave the children unattended in the absence of adequate adult supervision. BY THE COURT: Dist: Diane M. Oils, Esquire, 1017 N. Front Street, Har. Isburg, PA 17102 James W. Abraham, Esquire, 2157 Market Street, Camp Hill, PA 17011 J. ~ ~ .3_/'f;03 t+.~ BRIAN E. HOFFMAN, IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA Plaintiff NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM v. CIVIL ACTION - LAW THELMA J. HOFFMAN, IN CUSTODY Defendant CUSTODY CONCILIATION SUMMARY REPORT IN ACCORDANCE WITH CUMBERLAND COUNTY RULE OF CIVIL PROCEDURE 1915.3-8, the undersigned Custody Conciliator submits the following report: 1. The pertinent information concerning the children who are the subject of this litigation is as follows: NAME DATE OF BIRTH CURRENTLY IN THE CUSTODY OF Emily A. Hoffman Jacob A. Hoffman July 17,1993 June 9, 1997 Mother Mother 2. A Custody Conciliation Conference was held on March 3, 2003 pursuant to Father's Petition for Partial Custody filed on January 21, 2003. Present for the conference were: the Father, Brian E. Hoffman, and his counsel, Diane M. Oils, Esquire; the Mother, Thelma J. Hoffman, and her counsel, James W. Abraham, Esquire. 3. The parties reached an agreement in the form of an Order as attached. .3IJD/tJ3 . U~ ~ Date Melissa Peel Greevy, Esquire Custody Conciliator :210571 BRIAN E. HOFFMAN, Plaintiff : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA v. : No. 03-306 - CIVIL ACTION - LAW THELMA J. HOFFMAN Defendant : IN CUSTODY WITHDRAWAL OF APPEARANCE Kindly withdraw my appearance on behalf of Defendant, Thelma J. Hoffman, in the above-captioned matter. Date: /()/fJ~ 'f =-~ James W. Abraham, Esquire 2157 Market Street Camp Hill, PA 17011 (717) 763-1700 ENTRY OF APPEARANCE Kindly enter my appearance on behalf of Defendant, Thelma E. Hoffman, in the above. captioned matter. Respectfully submitted, Date: I(H,), 0'-/ Richard S: Fr' 600 N. Secon Street Penthouse Suite P.O. Box 984 Harrisburg, P A 17108 (717) 236-8000 FRIEDMAN & 40, P. , , ! () ._.1 '-0 . :-'~, \.' v. : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA : NO. 03-306 : CIVIL ACTION - LAW : IN CUSTODY BRIAN E. HOFFMAN, Plaintiff THELMA J. HOFFMAN, Defendant PETITION FOR MODIFICATION OF A CUSTODY AND VISITATION ORDER 1. The Petition of Thelma J. Hoffman respectfully represents that on the 13th day of March, 2003, an Order of Court was entered for the custody and visitation of the minor children, Emily A. Hoffman, born July 17, 1993, and Jacob A. Hoffman, born June 9, 1997. A true and correct copy is attached. 2. The Petitioner, Thelma J. Hoffman, wishes to terminate all periods of visitation of the Plaintiff/Father, Brian E. Hoffman, for the following reasons; A. The Plaintiff/Father is expressing a clear preference for Jacob A. Hoffman, and totally ignoring his daughter, Emily A. Hoffman. B. The Plaintiff/Father has not visited with either of the children in accordance with paragraphs 2A and 2B of the Order for well over a year. C. The Plaintiff/Father has not visited with the children in accordance with paragraph 3 since the Order was entered. D. The Plaintiff/Father has not exercised his right to summer vacation with the children since entry of the initial Order. E. The Plaintiff/Father is visiting his son, Jacob A. Hoffman, at school on occasion and refuses to visit with his daughter, both of which are contrary to the best interests of each of the children. WHEREFORE, Petitioner requests that the Court modify the existing Order for custody and visitation because it will be in the best interest of the children, Emily A. Hoffman and Jacob A. Hoffman. Respectfully submitted, FRIEDMAN & KING, P.C. Date: ~(O,~') I /1 " i // Richard S;Friooman, Esquire 600 N. S~cond Street Penthous'e Suite P. O. Box 984 Harrisburg, P A 17108 (717) 236-8000 f/p: hoffman \modification VERIFICA TION I, Thelma J. Hoffman, hereby acknowledge that I am the Petitioner in the foregoing action; that I have read the foregoing Petition for Modification of a Custody and Visitation Order; and the facts stated therein are true and correct to the best of my knowledge, information and belief. I understand that any false statements herein are made subject to penalties of 18 Pa. C.S. Section 4904, relating to unsworn falsification to authorities. Dated~lOI;)t.\:h (, JItJ I*-' C0i--i f'------- Thelma 1. H9fIin,an )[, '-.../ .' MAR -I 2 2003 ~ Plaintiff IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM BRIAN E. HOFFMAN, v. CIVIL ACTION - LAW THELMA J. HOFFMAN, IN CUSTODY Defendant ORDER OF COURT AND NOW, this } 3 ~ day of March, 2003, upon consideration of the attached Custody Conciliation Summary Report, it is hereby ordered and directed as follows: 1. LeQal Custody. The parties, Brian E. Hoffman and Thelma J. Hoffman, shall have shared legal custody of the minor children, Emily A. Hoffman, born July 17, 1993, and Jacob A. Hoffman, born June 9, 1997. Each parent shall have an equal right, to be exercised jointly with the other parent, to make all major non-emergency decisions affecting the children's general well-being including, but not limited to, all decisions regarding their health, education and religion. Pursuant to the terms of Pa. C. S. 95309, each parent shall be entitled to all records and information pertaining to the children including, but not limited to, medical, dental, religious or school records, the residence address of the children and of the other parent. To the extent one parent has possession of any such records or information, that parent shall be required to share the same, or copies thereof, with the other parent within such reasonable time as to make the records and information of reasonable use to the other parent. 2. Physical Custody. Mother shall have primary physical custody subject to Father's rights of partial physical custody which shall be arranged as follows: A. To commence March 14, 2003, on alternate weekends from Friday at 3:00 p.m. until Sunday at 7:30 p.m. B. Each Thursday from 3:00 p.m. until 9:00 p.m. C. Father shall have periods of partial custody during the weekdays upon a minimum 24 hours notice and the mutual agreement with Mother. NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM 3. Holidavs. Unless otherwise agreed, the parties shall follow the following schedule for holidays: A. In odd-numbered years, Father shall have custody for Easter and Independence Day and Mother shall have custody for Memorial Day and Labor Day. In even-numbered years, Mother shall have custody for Easter and Independence Day and Father shall have custody for Memorial Day and Labor Day. B. Christmas. Father shall have custody for Christmas each year on December 25th from 10:00 a.m. until 9:00 p.m. C. Thanksqivinq. The parties shall share the Thanksgiving holiday each year in the following fashion: Father shall have custody from 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. on Thanksgiving Day and Mother shall have custody from 3:00 p.m. until 9:00 p.m. on Thanksgiving Day. 4. Vacation. Each party shall be entitled to two (2) non-consecutive weeks of vacation, to include the vacationing parent's custodial weekend. The parties shall provide each other with a minimum of 30 days advance notice of their intended vacation. In the event that the parties have scheduled conflicting vacations, the party first providing written notice of their vacation plans to the other parent shall have choice of the vacation time. 5. Neither party shall do or say anything which may estrange the children from the other parent, injure the opinion of the children as to the other parent, or hamper the free and natural development of the children's love and respect for the other parent. Each parent shall ensure that third parties also comply with this provision during his or her periods of custody. 6. In the event that Father would want to relinquish a part of his weekend period of partial custody, prior to contacting a third-party caregiver to care for the children, he shall contact Mother to offer her the opportunity to spend the additional time with the children. However, in the event that Mother is not available during that time, it shall be Father's responsibility to arrange for alternate care. 7. Transportation. Under the present circumstances, where the parties presently reside approximately a five (5) minute drive apart, Father shall provide all transportation incident to his periods of partial custody. However, in the event that the parties' residences do not remain comparably convenient to each other, Father reserves the right to petition to modify this paragraph of the Order. NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM 8. Father shall not take the children to his place of employment and have them in locations which his employer has designated as places where children are not permitted. Neither parent will leave the children unattended in the absence of adequate adult supervision. BY THE COURT: / s / 'f~ (,2 ;..k~ I I J. Dist: Diane M. Oils, Esquire, 1017 N. Front Street, Harrisburg, PA 17102 James W. Abraham, Esquire, 2157 Market Street, Camp Hill, PA 17011 rr.-N ,H'" . . . t H.){' \f' If I I" f' f""'f"'; r tot n . :ti1~;mtln""_.',, ',d"'".N ~.~l 'f ''''''', ilfKJ ihu ~"i ,.' r "lttJ n.';'i\" J.;1. ~.L.";Ji, "....1",:.. ~"..., i i'.', '",;,.'.' >A~, f<;;,)'''''' , '-~':::+"_;J6,,' {,t"' lO'l. - _LfI7r~'-~;::;' ~~ Prottflm(jt~r" v. : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS : CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA : NO. 03-306 : CIVIL ACTION - LAW : IN CUSTODY BRIAN E. HOFFMAN, Plaintiff THELMA J. HOFFMAN, Defendant CERTIFICATE OF SERVICE I, Richard S. Friedman, Esquire, hereby certify that on June [0 , 2005, I served a copy of the within Petition for Modification of a Custody and Visitation Order, by depositing same in the United States Mail, first class, postage prepaid, addressed as follows: Allen Moyer, Esquire 8150 Derry Street Harrisburg, P A 17111 FRIEDMAN & KING, P.C. /1 t ! " i // Richard s/tfribcrman, Esquire 600 N. second Street Penthouse Suite P. O. Box 984 Harrisburg, PA 17108 (717) 236-8000 ~\ ---- ("'- V'\ - ..() - ..{) ..0 W ~ 8 ~ ~ r -~ (') .--" ,.....;) c,;:;. E~ (-:::: c.,: :E<~-,~ ~ -.! :LI1 rnE ....~.1 jt""!-j -:; '; f:~~ .~~~~ -1'':'),- ell ~ w -0 ...-.',}i' --'" <-;'? CJ \,0 BRIAN E. HOFFMAN PLAINTIFF IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA V. 03-306 CIVIL ACTION LAW THELMA J. HOFFMAN DEFENDANT IN CUSTODY ORDER OF COURT AND NOW, Monday, June 20, 2005 , upon consideration of the attached Complaint, it is hereby directed that parties and their respective counsel appear before Melissa P. Greevy, Esq. , the conciliator, at DJ Manlove's, 1901 State St., Camp Hill, PA 17011 on Friday, AU2ust 12, 2005 at 1:00 PM for a Pre-Hearing Custody Conference. At such conference, an effort will be made to resolve the issues in dispute; or if this cannot be accomplished, to define and narrow the issues to be heard by the court, and to enter into a temporary order. All children age five or older may also be present at the conference. Failure to appear at the conference may provide grounds for entry of a temporary or pennanent order. The court hereby directs the parties to furnish any and all existing Protection from Abuse orders, Special Relief orders, and Custody orders to the conciliator 48 hours prior to scheduled hearinl!:. FOR THE COURT. By: Isl Melissa P. Greevv, Esq. Custody Conciliator ?ill , The Court of Common Pleas of Cumberland County is required by law to comply with the Americans with Disabilites Act of 1990. For information about accessible facilities and reasonable accommodations available to disabled individuals having business before the court, please contact our office. All arrangements must be made at least 72 hours prior to any hearing or business before the court. You must attend the scheduled conference or hearing. YOU SHOULD TAKE THIS PAPER TO YOUR ATTORNEY AT ONCE. IF YOU DO NOT HA VE AN ATTORNEY OR CANNOT AFFORD ONE, GO TO OR TELEPHONE THE OFFICE SET FORTH BELOW TO FIND OUT WHERE YOU CAN GET LEGAL HELP. Cumberland County Bar Association 32 South Bedford Street Carlisle, Pennsylvania 17013 Telephone (717) 249-3166 ~$w '7-~ ~ 5o.~.9 ~P:f'-~ ~ 5t70C'-'"? ~ ~ 't-~ ~/;pv So.oC'-1 ',. \-/:; AJJ\:",:'C(I I~! ~. -~:;";:/.!(V''\ ..'i;lJ 8+r :8 Hd 061!nr SOOl AU\JIO't\!i"I.! I r."d :lHl '0 .\"J l~.VU -' :J j81 ~jO-{J31lj RECEIVED AUG 2. 3 1~llflf Plaintiff IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM CIVIL ACTION - LAW IN CUSTODY BRIAN E. HOFFMAN, v. THELMA J. HOFFMAN, Defendant HESS, J. --- ORDER OF COURT AND NOW, this "Z'tO day of August, 2005 upon consideration of the attached Custody Conciliation Summary Report, it is hereby ordered and directed as follows: 1. This Court's Order of March 13, 2003 is VACATED. 2. Leaal Custody. The parties, Brian E. Hoffman and Thelma J, Hoffman, shall haye shared legal custody of the minor children, Emily A. Hoffman, born July 17, 1993 and Jacob A. Hoffman, born June 9,1997. 3. Phvsical Custody. Mother shall have primary physical custody subject to Father's rights of partial custody which shall be arranged by mutual agreement of the parties. However, Father must exercise custody of both children contemporaneously and Father shall not exercise his periods of custody at the children's schools. Dist: Ahard S. Friedman, Esquire, 600 N. Second St., enthouse Suite, P.O. B"x 984, Harrisburg, PA 17108 -.AJfen Moyer, Esquire, 8150 Derry St., Harrisburg, PA 17111-5260 ~rian E. Hoffman, 5006 Seneca Orive, Mechanicsburg, PA 17050 \\;rP C{)' ~ o ..,\,-,",','\I("V"\ ,-'" ");',n b.J S S :l \ Wi 1-]2:Jl1V SOOZ AHV10i~OHlOdd 3\-\1. ~O :nu~o-a31\:l - Plaintiff RECEIVED AUG 23 1005/1!' IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM CIVIL ACTION - LAW IN CUSTODY BRIAN E. HOFFMAN, v. THELMA J. HOFFMAN, Defendant CUSTODY CONCILIATION SUMMARY REPORT IN ACCORDANCE WITH CUMBERLAND COUNTY RULE OF CIVIL PROCEDURE 1915.3-8, the undersigned Custody Conciliator submits the following report: 1. The pertinent information concerning the child who is the subject of this litigation is as follows: NAME DATE OF BIRTH CURRENTLY IN THE CUSTODY OF Emily A. Hoffman Jacob A. Hoffman July 17, 1993 June 9, 1997 Mother Mother 2. Mother filed a Petition for Modification of a Custody and Visitation Order on June 13, 2005. A Custody Conciliation Conference was scheduled for August 12, 2005. Mother's counsel served Father's counsel for the child support matter with a copy of the Petition on June 10, 2005. A copy of the Order scheduling the Custody Conciliation Conference was sent to Father's counsel in the child support matter on June 22, 2005. Father did not appear for the Custody Conciliation Conference. Counsel did not appear for the Custody Conciliation Conference. Neither did counsel contact the Conciliator to indicate that he would not be appearing. 3. Mother's position on custody is as follows: Mother wants to terminate all of the partial custody schedule provided for Father in the Order of March 13, 2003. She wants to do so because Father has not used any weekend or Thursday evening time provided in the Order for a period of in excess of one year. Mother further states that Father has never asked for the additional time contemplated in Paragraph 2C of the Order, nor has he used any of the vacation provided in Paragraph 4 of the Order. Mother reports that Father has completely discontinued any contact at all with the parties' daughter and has visited the son only at school. Father has had no contact with the children since May of 2005 when she told Father that he could not have any periods of custody with the son jf he did not also include the parties' daughter. Mother reports that Father has provided gifts and cards for the son on occasions, such as Christmas. However, he has not given the parties' daughter holiday cards, birthday cards or gifts. When the parties' son came home excitedly after a visit with Father at school, the daughter became distraught because she was left out. She had been performing very well academically prior to this incident. She subsequently NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM failed a test at school a short time after this incident. Mother also reports the parties' son is feeling bad and having difficulty enjoying the time that he has been able to spend with his Father because he knows that Father is not seeing his sister and that she is distressed by this. At some point the parties' son developed a tic, which the pediatrician thought was a manifestation of emotional distress. The child was sUbsequently seen in individual psychotherapy and, once he was able to talk about his feelings, his tic symptoms subsided. Mother is very disappointed and is feeling very protective of the children because of the emotional harm which she perceives to be a result of Father's actions. She reports that Father has recently remarried a woman who refused to allow the children to attend at the wedding. She relates that Father's new spouse has referred to the children in derogatory and vulgar fashions, the specifics of which will not be included in this report. Mother learned about this when the children came home asking her what these various names meant. Mother has also learned that the parties' daughter was told that she should stop coming to her visits with her father because she causes him too much stress. She later learned that Father allegedly told the child to lie to Mother about her reasons for not going to the visits. A second part of Mother's motivation for seeking the modification of the Order is that the Order provides specific times that she must produce the children for Father's periods of partial custody should he decide to do so. Because he has not been exercising the periods of partial custody provided in the Order, she does not want to be in a position where she could be held in contempt for failure to comply. To require her to produce the children just in case Father decides to exercise his period of custody places limitations on the children's schedules. Mother requests the Order be modified to provide Father with periods of partial custody which would be initiated by Father and negotiated through mutual agreements of the parties. She further requests that Father exercise custody of both children simultaneously, rather than leave out the parties' daughter. Finally, Mother asks that the Court direct that Father not exercise any periods of custody at the children's schools. 4. Father's position on custody is not known because he did not attend the Conference nor did counsel appear on his behalf. 5. The Conciliator does not believe it to be in the best interests of the children for Father to selectively participate in periods of custody with Cine child while excluding the other. Not only does this put the excluded child at great emotional risk, but it causes a subsequent harm to the relationship between the two children and inhibits the child who is being visited from being able to fully enjoy the visits with his Father. It is also the Conciliator's opinion that it is not reasonable for the Mother to be required to limit the children's schedule so that she can produce the children for a parent who is not willing to participate with the children. This is unduly restrictive on the children and on the Mother. NO. 03-306 CIVIL TERM Accordingly, the Conciliator makes the attached recommended Order to the Court which will be p;,"""" ~ ,,"n,,' ,n' to F,th" " h< t,,, '<>own """:??:v ~ M,H,,, Peel G",,"Y. E'q"'''' Custody Conciliator MPG:ead:256784