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HomeMy WebLinkAbout97-06919 1 2. .3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 2.3 24 25 .' - , '1'111'.: COUI,T: Mr. ({us"o. MH, HUSSO: Your 1I0nor, Peter Russo for the defendant in this matter) Kim Birgensmith. Your Honor, at this point the defendant would like to make a request to have Audrey Aarhus testify by telephone. And, obviously, we have talked with opposing cOllnsel about it. I am sure he will tell you his feeiings now. MR. KAYER: Your Honor, although we recognize under the rules that it is your discretion to allow telephone testimony, we object to the offer of Ms, Aarhus as a teiephone witness, THE COURT: Well, we have heard from this witness before, and [ think we can assess her credibility. I am also told that this matter, am I correct, involves the nature and extent of partial custody? We are not here 011 the underlying order or anything like that? MR, RUSSO: THE COURT: Partial custody, correct -- I hate to call it a minor issue, because I am sure it is very important to the parties. But on the scheme of things it simply relates to partial cllstody? MR. RUSSO: Yes, sir, MR. KAYER: That's correct, THE COURT: Those observations having been made, we will permit the telephone testimony. .3 1 2 3 4 5 6 '/ 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ,- MH, HU~;SO: You r lIonor, could we do that here in the courtroom or do we have to go into chambers? THE COUi''!': [ haven't the faintest idea yet, Why don't we take some testimony from your clients so I know what the issues are in this case, and then we will go from there. ~1R. RUSSO: Call Kim Birgensmith then. Whereupon, KIMBERLY BIHGENSMI'!'H, having been duly sworn, test i f.ied as follows: DIREC'!' EXAMINATION BY MR. HlJSSO: Q Would you state your name? A Kim Birgensmith, Q Could you identify with whom you live presently? A I live with my husband, Mark Birgensmith, my two children, Kayleigh and Matthew, and his two children, Shawnee and Chloe. Q Are you aware of the existing court order that was entered by way of agreement on June 5th of 1998? A Yes, I am, Q And June 5th was Gregory Cox's first visit, correct? A I believe it was his first overnight. It was probably the first visit after that -- there were 4 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 "-'-, visits prior to that, but after the ordor was in effect, yes, that was... Q How dld those visits go? A Well, not real good. The children told me that they had wished they could call me and say good night. And they came home with bruises, And my daughter Was bit by a Rottweiler. She had several bites on her. She had an earache from the cigarette smoke. And they were covered with di rt. Q And you are talking about these concerns came up as Mr, Cox began overnight visits? A Yes, Q Were there any other concerns that you had? A Well, yes. The lack of supervision that goes on. Every visit they come home with more bruises or scrapes or blisters. They also tell me that they don't see him much, that they spend their time with grandma and their Aunt Michelle and her children. They sometimes are not able to finish their homework when they come home due to being late, Or he shows up early sometimes and sits out there and waits and gets angry, but it is nqt time for them to go yet, Q With regard to coming home late, when are the children supposed to be home? A At 6:00 p.m. Sunday, 5 ~ 1 Q And what time do they get home? 2 A Well, sometlmcs It is only five or ten 3 minutes late. But there wcrc timcs whcn hc was an hour and 4 a half late. And that was -- we werc waiting to leave on 5 vacation, It was a (;ummertime visit. And we were waiting 6 to leave on vacation. And we had to postpone it an hour 7 and a half. Our house sitter was already there and trying 8 to get her things together, And we were still there 9 waiting. 10 My son came in, and he had a large bruise on 11 his back, which my husband and Greg got into an argument 12 about, I was not preser.t at the argument. I was taking 13 care of the ch i ldren. I don I t know wha t was said. 14 Q Were you ever able to identify how the 15 bruises occurred? 16 A Apparently he wrecked a bicycle when he was 17 at his visit. There was nothing mentioned about why they 18 were so late, My children tell me that they bad mouth us. 19 They tell us that we are not allowed to be they are not 20 allowed to call us mom and dad. They have to call us Mark 21 and Kim. 22 23 24 25 Q Have you made any other observations about your child ren since these overnight visIts have started? A They don't want to go. They Cl,y and they cry to me, and they tell me they don't want to go. But I 6 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 l7 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ,-, tell t.hem that they have to go, and r send them, They are increasingly more violent toward each other and toward the other children in our household, They are continualiy late for church during his visits, Fifteen, twenty minutes, a half hour late for church, Q Besides being late for church, are there any other problems relative to their Sunday school? A Well, they miss their you know, they miss the whole mor~ing devotion when they are late. They begin, YOll knoll". Q What time does Sunday school start? A 9:15. And they get there 9:30, 9:35. Q With regards to the children's school, have you seen any change in their school work since their overnight visits? A Well, my daughter had a couple of episodes with not listening to the teacher and acting out violently, which is not like her. My son has learning disabilities. And he has large amollnts of homework, And he struggles. On his those weekends his homework cannot be completed. And it has to go another day. Q Can you describe what your communication with the plaintiff has been like with Greg, how you guys have been able to communicate with one another regarding the children? 7 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 .,-.... A l3ilck in the summertime we did speak on occasion when we were picking up -- when he was picking them up. Or he would telephone me. Sometimes it got into an argument, But as of late, the past -- r would say since summer, he won't even speak to us. He won't acknowledge that we are there. My daughter has medication from time to time because of bronchitis or ear infections. And we attempt to explain the medication. And he just is very non-cooperative, He doesn't reply. He doesn't even acknowledge that we spoke to him. He doesn't even speak nicely to the children. It is always just get in the car. Q Have you experienced any problems regarding any of the holiday visits with the children and their father? " A Well, we don't really have a beginning time for when our holiday starts. His holiday is the only one listed_ And we have no start time for our Christmas or our Thanksgiving. So if it falls on his -- we don't have a time if it would fall on his weekend. Q Were you able to provide time for Mr. Cox's visitation with your children during their birthdays? A He never asked. He never replied. And on July 4th he never even showed up for his visit on July 4th. Q This present order has been in effect for 8 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ~, approximately six months. And you have been able to experience it for that period. Are there any changes that you would like to see Ln it? A I wouLd like to see it reduced to one overnight so that we don't have the conflict with church, There was one particular incLdent where it got into a very large battle outside the church. He was transporting children unsafely. And we offered to transport them for him. At which Ume it got very ugly. I took the children, and I put them in the van so that they didn't have to hear the argument, And as far as what was said, I cannot testify to that, because I ',;as not in the argument, Q Is there anything else about the current order that you would like to see changed? A Yes. Since he has shown no interest i~ the birthday, I think that we should remove that. I need to have a start time for my Christmas and my Thanksgiving. And the Memorial Day extra overnight, I am not exactly sure how that got put in there, but I really don't recall agreeing to tha t. And the fact that the children are struggling with their homework and their school work, I would prefer that that extra overnight be obsolete. Q Do you have any concerns about the vacation schedule that's in the present order? A Yes. Listening to my chiLdren they have ') --, 1 trouble staying the two nights, They want to come home. 2 And I really don't think that it would be good for them to 3 stay for an entire waek without baing able to call me or 4 without being able to see me, 5 The past summer we had the week visit. 6 However, I picked up the children daily while he worked, 7 And that's what made it acceptable for them, that they were 8 able to see me. 9 0 Is contacting them while they are with Greg 10 a problem for you? 11 A Yes, I do not know where they stay. They 12 tell me they stay with their Aunt Michelle, but I do not 13 have a phone number or an address where they are. I have 14 had to -- I called his father at one point when I needed to 15 reach him. There 'flas a snowsto rm, And he would not gi va 16 me the number. He had to make phone calls. And then he I" called me back. 18 0 Regarding calls to you, do you do anything 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 house? to avoid Mt'. Cox's ca 11 s? A No. T do not. Q Do you have any type of call block on your phone? A No. I do not. 0 Do you have an anSINer ing machine at your 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 '-'\ A Yes, I do, Q And have you received any messages from Mr, Cox? A No. I have not, Q Can you tell me how you and your husband discipline the children? A We use the one-two-three magic, which was a video we got from school about two and a half, three years ago. And we have been using it ever since. Q Are you aware of any other disciplinary' techniques such as placing pepper in the children's mouths? A When my husband and I first got together, he disciplined his children that way. And I stressed my concern. And I said that I didn't think that that was a good way. At which time we got the video from school. We called them and asked them about methods of discipline regarding specifically ADD children, because my son has ADHD. And his daughter has ADD. And it was a struggle for us at first, combining the families. And they sent us the video. And it has worked wonderfully. Q And when was the last time that your husband threatened to put pepper in the children's mouths? A That was three years ago at least, Q There has been some discussion about the parties in this matter going to a joint parenting skills 11 .--' 1 cross-examination, Let me just ask YOll about one thing, 2 because this is something t don't understand. That's all, 3 You said that you had a need for a ~- I think you said a 4 start time for Thanksgiving and Christmas? 5 THE WITNESS: Yes, There is none for us. 6 It is only listed for his. 7 THE COURT: I still don't understand. I 8 think the order presumes that the children would have been 9 at your hOllse on the day before Christmas and Thanksgiving 10 morning. 11 THE WITNESS: Right. But if it:. falls on a 12 weekend, I don't have a start time. Do you know what I 13 mean? 14 THE COURT: No. That's why I am asking you, 15 Thanksgiving never falls on a weekend. So we are talking 16 about Christmas then, 17 THE WITNESS: Okay. 18 THE COURT: Explain to me a scenario, and 19 then maybe I will understand. 20 THE WITNESS: If Christmas were to be on a 21 Saturday or a Sunday, he would have picked them lip Friday, 22 and I would not get my Christmas. 23 THE COURT: So you are talking about 24 Christmases that would coincide with his weekends of 25 visitation. That's when it would be a problem? 13 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 .'~ THE WITNESS: Yes, THE COURT: Okay. Now I understand, MR, RUSSO: To clarify that as well, I guess in paragraph 4 (a) (1) of the order we also have some holidays that I guess could potentially fall in the same scenario that don't have a beginning time. THE COURT: Okay. MR. RUSSO: Thank you. THE COURT: ~lr. Kayer. CROSS-EXAMINATION BY MR. KAYER: Q In your dIrect testimony you indicated that one of your concerns is that Kayleigh carne home with dog bites from a rottweiler? A Yes. Q Isn't it true that she has also been bitten during this period of time by a dog at your home? A She was scratched. And the dog was removed. It was a stray that someone thought was ours. And we attempted to find the owner. And after the scratch on her back, we took the dog to the Humane Society rather than find the home. Q Well, didn't the father express his concern about the scratch or bite that Kayleigh had, and initially you refused to get rId of the dog? 14 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ~...... A No, That's not true. o And ull:.i.mately thl~ reason you decldod to get rid of the dog was because it bit you? No. Okay, We got rid of the dog the week after that A Q A happened. 0 A 0 Did the dog bite you? It snapped at me, yes. Yes, it did, Kayleigh has described the incident where the dog snapped at you was when it saw that you were dragging Kayleigh down the hallway, Is that true? A No. It had gotten a small toy in its mouth, and I tried to get it out. o Now, you discussed a concern about a lack of supervision. Are you basing that on what the children ar.e telling you? A And on what I see. They are covered with bruises, and they are filthy when they come home. o Okay. A And also that they tell me that he is usually not with them when they are outside, that no one is with them, o Now, there has only been one occasion where Mr. Cox was significantly late, That's the hour and a half 15 -, 1 incident that disrupted the start of your vacation, is that 2 right? 3 A There were other late, fifteen, twenty 4 minutes, half hour, 5 Q Well, you testified earlier it was five or 6 ten minutes? 7 A Some of them. One I have -- it was the snow 8 weekend, and his mom called to say that they were late and 9 they were like thirty-five minutes late. 10 Q Well, you wouldn't want him 11 A They were stuck, They slid off the road and 12 were stuck in the snow is what my children said. 13 Q You wouldn't want him driving at an unsafe 14 speed when the weather is bad, would you? 15 A No. But he wasn't driving. They 'were 16 sitting there at his house or at his sister's. And they 17 were supposedly waiting for a tow truck, but they managed , . 18 to get out without the tow truck. 19 Q Now, the kids go to church every Sunday, 20 even though Sundays they are with their father, i~ that 21 right'! ?2 A Every Sunday, yes. 23 Q Okay, And that was an agreement made at the 24 conciliation conference that led to this ,Tune order, is 25 that dght? 16 1 2 ,.-.., , , A I believe so, yes. Q That was a request you asked through the 3 father? You didn't want to see their church disrupted? 4 , . , , 5 6 right? 7 A Right. Q And he accommodated that request, is that A He also had agreed to that prior to the 8 conciliation because his family goes there. And I would 9 think he would want his children to be of the same religion 10 that his family is, 11 Q So it is not your testimony that he h~s ever 12 kept the kids from going to church, it is just you are 13 not -- 14 A He is late for church every time, They miss 15 their prayer, They miss their devotion, And they miss the 16 story at the beginning, 17 Q Now, regarding your children's schooling, 18 you indicated that your daughter has had some episodes at 19 school this year that you are concerned about regarding her 20 behavior? 21 A 22 Q Yeah, 23 or her performance in school? You also expressed concerns about her grades 24 A 25 workincl more with her. Yeah, Well, she is improving now. I am 17 1 2 ] 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ........, ,-. o So her grades are going Up? A They arc just sort of leveling off. She was doing very poorly the first -- I think it was the first marking period. And the teacher discussed it with us. And we are working with her. Some arc going up, some are. o Now, with regard to Matthew and his learning difficulties, you had mentioned something about a transfer of Matthew of schools in your testimony? A Yeah, He doesn't go to the same school as my daughter does. o When did you transfer him to a new school? A We didn't. The school did, o When did that transfer take place? A Last year, It was in the summertime. They told us that there was a problem at the end of last school year, And they told U3 that we would know by the beginning of the next school year where he would be. o Did you complete the paperwork on that transfer after this June 5th order was in effect? A Yes, r did. o Did you advise the father at anytime that Matthew had transferred to a different school? A At that time we weren't speaking. Q Well, it was after this custody order was in effect? 18 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ......... AYes. That's what I am s~ying. He doesn't speak to us anymore. Q Did you attempt at anytime to notify the father -- A I have been sending -- he gets copies of the reports, The school that Matthew is in advised me not to send him anything, that they were taking care of it, Q Okay. Now, I am going to show you a petition that you filed in this matter, and specificallY direct your atte'ntion to paragraph 5-D. Could you read what 5-0 ha~ to say? A plaintiff has contacted the school administration where the minor children are in school and advised them that the defendant is psychOlogically unstable. He further advised the school personnel that he would be picking the children up from school. This is in direct conflict with the terms of the existing order of court. Q Now, what basis did you have when you made that allegation? A They ci.llled me at work. Q The school called you at work? A Yes, they did. Q v~ho from the school? l\ Mr, Nasher. 19 "'"'" 1 What's his role at the school? Q 2 lie is a guidance counselor. A 3 And it is your testimony that he told you Q 4 that he was advised by the father that you were 5 psychologically unstable? 6 No. That's not what he said, lie said that A 7 there was possibly mental problems, and that I may not have 8 filled Matthew's paperwork out correctly, And later that 9 same day I got the exact same phone call from Mrs, Keener, 10 which is Kayleigh's counselor. 11 Q So this statement here that you made in your 12 petition that you accused Mr. Cox of telling the school 13 that you were psychologically unstable is not a truthful 14 one, is it? 15 A I don't know. That's what they told me over 16 the phone. Psychologically unstable -- that wasn't my 17 words. They said there was mental problems, that I 18 possibly had mental problems and hadn't filled the 19 paperwork out correctly. 20 Q Okay. Well, your filling the paperwork out 21 correctly has nothing to do with what the father told the 22 school? 23 A No. But that's what their issue was. 24 That's why they ~alled me. 25 Q Okay, And theso individuals also advised ~o , I 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10. 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 you that the father would be picking the children up from school? A They -- yeah. They said that there was possibilities that he would be coming to pick them up. And I said our order doesn't say that. And they advised me that I did not have -- which at that time I didn't have a copy of the newer order. And I told them that I would get it to them as soon as I could. Q Has the father ever picked the kids up from school? A No. Q Has the father ever comprollllsed your ability to work with the school administration? A No. Other than that incident where they called me and told me all those things. Q But you never told him that Matthew transferred? A He got the -- he already knew. He gets all the paperwork from the school. That was the entire conversation with the guidance counselor. And they told me to stay out of it and that they would send him all the paperwork. Q Now, you testified that you don't have any call block installed on your phone? A No. I do not. 21 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ~, Q Do you have called 10? A YOB, I do. o Do you UHe caller [0 to determine the identity or a person telephoning you before you pick up the phone? A Sometime:J, yeah. Most of the time. o Have you ever chosen not to answer the phone based on what your caller 10 indicated to you? A Occasionally. o Have you ever done that when Mr. Cox has tried to call you? A No, I haven't. o You testified that he never asked for any time on the children's birthdays? A No. o Do you recall receiving telephone calls on the children's birthdays from Mr. Cox? A No. Q You testified that you have got concerns about Mr. Cox transporting the children unsafely. Could you be more specific? A He was buckling them into the same sBat belt in the front of his pickup. Q Did Mr. Cox offer an explanation to you that he had checked with a state trooper to see if this was 22 ,....., 1 acceptable? 2 A Yes. That's what he said. And so did we, 3 and the police told us that each child should be in a 4 separate seat belt. 5 0 Now, this day that there was an argument at 6 church you said Y0U put the kids in the van to keep them 7 away from the argument? 8 A Yes, I did. 9 0 Isn't it actually true that you put them in 10 the van so that the father couldn't take them? 11 A No. We offered to transport them for him. 12 And the argument broke out. And I took them away from the 13 argument, because they did not need to hear that. 14 0 One of the concerns you expressed about why 15 you want these visits reduced is the lack of telephone 16 contact between you and the kids when they are over at the 17 father's house, is that right? 18 A Not necessarily. If they would like to call 19 me and say good night to me, I think they should be allowed 20 to. 21 0 If we included a provi.sion in the order that 22 allowed the children to make those telephone calls, would 23 that address your concern? 24 A That would address some of it, but. there is 25 still the issue of church and the constant conflict and 23 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 .'"\ they are always late. o How do you feel personally about the kids visiting with the father? Do you think it is important? A T. have some mixed feelings about that because I had thought that he was going to try to make a positive influence on them. And all they are learning is just what I thought I didn't want them to learn. They are learning violonce and anger. o Now A And they don't want to go. o You and your husband don't talk kindly about Mr. Cox in the kids' presence, do you? A No, we don't. We don't talk about him at all. o Don't you insult him in front of the kids? A No. We do not. Q Do you deny saying to the kids that it makes no sense to send written instructions to daddy Greg because he can't read them anyway? A No. Q Do you remember saying that to them? A No. Because I have sent him written instructions. o And has he complied with those instructions? A I don't know. [am not there. As far as I 24 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 -." know. Q Now, you tried to terminate Mr. Cox's paternal rights earlier? A Yes. Q Would it be a fair statement that it is your preference that his rights should still be terminated today, that you would prefer to see an adoption go through? A I would like to see that. But I want what's best for my children. However, [ would prefer to have the visits be with grandma rather than him. Q Your children call your husband dad and have them call him daddy Greg, is that right? A No. They call him daddy. Q You have not instructed them to call him daddy Greg? A No. That was something they started in Audrey's office, because they were trying to differentiate the two. But now that they see him it is daddy and daddy, daddy herB and daddy there. MR. KAYER: I have nothing further. THE COURT: I am trying to get a handle on this holiday thing. The paragraph on the holiday says that the visits are from 1: 00 p.m. to 7 :00, so I think it is understood that if you get custody, it would begin at 1:00 p.m. On Christmas may I assume that it would be your 25 --'''', 1 preference to have them from Christmas Eve at 6:00 p.m. 2 until the next day when he picks them up? You haven't told 3 me what time you were going to suggest. 4 THE WITNESS: When we were at the 5 conciliation, I think we attempted to break it up from 8:00 6 to 2:00 Christmas Day, and then alternate years. But he 7 was unhappy wi th tha t. So I don't know. I don't know what 8 the answer is. 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 THE COURT: I . will sort it out. What time , does church start? THE WITNESS: 9: 15. THE COURT: So if the children were there at five or ten minutes after 9:00, they would be on time? THE WITNESS: Yes. THE COURT: All right, thank you. Anything else? MR. RUSSO: No, sir. Nothing. THE COURT: Thank you. You can step down. MR. RUSSO: Mark Birgensmith. 20 Whereupon, MARK BIRGENSMITH, having been 21 duly sworn, testified as follows: 22 DIRECT E:XAMINATION 23 BY MR. RUSSO: 24 Q Can you state your name and your 25 relationship to the defendant in this matter? 26 "~', 1 A Mark 8irgensmith. I am her husband. 2 Q I am going to try and limit YOl\r testimony, 3 so let me ask you about any problems that you have 4 encountered regarding the Sunday school visits? 5 A Whenever we had a concern about them being 6 transported safely, that incident Kim was talking about in 7 church, I walked up to Greg, and [ had asked him, you know, 8 how he was transporting the kids. And he said he was 9 putting them in the same seat belt. And I said that that 10 was unsafe. And if he needed us to transport them to 11 wherever they needed to go, we would be more than happy to 12. do that. And he got upset. And I told him it was a 13 concern of my wife's and, you know, I wanted to try to 14 resolve the problem. And I told him that we would, you 15 know, take the kids wherever they needed to go. And he 16 insisted that we were keeping him from his children. 17 And at that time Kim started to take the 18 kids to the van. And he grabbed Matthew by his arm. And I 19 had told him, I said, Gan you pl"ase let go of his arm, you 20 are hurting him. And he did let go. And then I continued 21 to try to discuss it with him, to talk with him about it. 22 And he was really angry. He threatened to pound me into 23 the ground and scrape up what was left. And at that time 24 our pastor come over, and he tried to help us with the 25 problem. 27 1 2 3 4 5 6 '7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 """ r- Q So it would be safa to say you don't have a great level of cownunication with Mr. Cox? A I have no problems talking with him and discussing things with him, but [ don't think he can talk to me. You know, I don't knbw if he hates me or doesn't like me. But I have no problems. I am raising his kids, and I have no reason to hate him. Q Can you briefly tell me if you have made any observations about the children since these overnight visits have started? A We have had problems with Kayleigh and her temper. She is a very loving kid. She is very temperamental now. She has a lot of problems with her mom with, you know, listening. And she gets very defensive with her. She argues a lot with her. And I talk with her. She sor~ of -- she understands me. She listens to me better. You know, r can sit down and talk with her and try to help her through her problems. But she is having a tough time. She has had a tough time in school, ber temper in school. She didn't want to learn. She just -- like I didn't care. She had that I didn't care attitude now. And before she loved school. She had a great time in kindergarten. She had a little bit of problems the first part of the year. But, you know, r had a talk with her. And she is doing much better now. 28 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 Q Hegarding any type of derogatory comments towards Mr. Cox in the household, does that occur? A No. We don't talk bad about him at all. . If anything, I tell the kids that they need to see their father. They need to have that bond. I mean, I have been a single father too for several years, I understand. He needs some time with his kids. And I would never talk bad about him to these kids. Q The final question to you. Do you recall receiving a telephone call at your home on either of the children's birthdays? A No. MH. HUSSO: Nothing further. MR. KAYER: I have no quest.ions. THE COURT: Thank you, sir. THE WITNESS: Thank you. MR. RUSSO: Your Honor, briefly, Paster Greg Beech. Whereupon, PASTOR GREG BEECH, having been duly sworn, testified as follows: DIRECT EXAMINATION BY MR. RUSSO: Q Can you state your name and .identify your relationship with the parties here? A [am Pastor Greg Beech. Pastor at the 29 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 Newville Church of the Brethren whore Mark and Kim go to church. I had no association with Mr. Cox until the confrontation outside our church back in September. Q Were you present in the courtroom when Mr. Birgensmith and Mrs. 8irgensmith described the events of that day? A Yes, I was. Q And to the best of your knowledge, were they accurate? A That was fairly accurate, yes. Q Is thore anything you want to add about that event? A Only that I was trying to attempt to find a compromise, to get the confrontation down to a point where there wouldn't be any injuries occur. That included talking with Kim, talking with Mr. Cox. I even called thr" State Police at one point to determine about the seat belt issue. The policeman told me that he would recommend that each of the children WQuld be placed in a separate seat belt, and that the female companion was not required to wear a seat belt. And that that's what he would recommend. When I went out and suggested that, Mr. Cox still found that unacceptable. It wasn't until Mrs. Walker, who lives across the street, suggested that she would transport the children. And that was acceptable to Mrs. Birgensmith and 30 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 to Mr. Cox at the time. And so thcn thc children were givcn to him on that principle, that she wOllld transport them to hi:> home. And that's basically all I have, except that eventually after everything cleared out the children and Mr. Cox and his wife left in the truck. Q Was anything said to you by Mr. Cox that you recall? A One time during the conversation Mark was saying he wished they could make this exchange without there being so much tension. And he made the comment that essentially that he wanted the children to have a relationship with Mr. Cox, but he wished for them to stay out of their life, meaning he and his wife's personal relationship. And Mr. Cox made the statement, well, once his kids are eighteen I will be out of your life. MR. RUSSO: Nothing further. CROSS-EXAMINATICN BY MR. KAYER: Q Did you hear any threats between either Mr. Birgensmith or Mr. Cox? A I had heard that he was going to beat Mark into a pulp at one point. And I did hear the comment about he was going to beat hl~ into the ground. Those are the only two [heard. Otherwise, [ was shutt ling back and 31 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 TilE (OURT: We call them parishioners. I don't know what you call them. THE WITNESS: Right. THE COURT: So you have had occasion to see other incidents since then I assume of pick-up? THE WITNESS: No, I haven't. THE COURT: You have not? THE WITNESS: No. THE COURT: Why is that? THE WITNESS: I am usually inside the building. Our doors are such a way that it is kind of the parking lot is around the corner of the church. THE COURT: So you don't know whether there has been any incident or what things have been like since then? THE: WITNESS: No. I haven't. THE COURT: Thank you very much. MR. RUSSO: Ms. Aarhus. THE COURT: Why don't we take a brief recess. And I think we will go ahead and set up in chambers. r don't believe we have the capability yet for a conference call here in the courtroom. What we will do is we will let the parties sit in the back of my office. And we will have counsel sit up at my desk. And we will have the stenographer there. 33 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 BY THE COURT: Q A Q before? A Q 1 ,-- (Whereupon, a recess was taken.) M''l'E:R HECESS (Whereupon, the following proceedings occur rod in chambers.) (Whereupon, the testimony of Audrey Aarhus was taken via telephone.) You are Audrey Aarhus? Yes. Hi, Judge Hess. You have been I guess in my courtroom I have. I understand you are prepared to offer some testimony in the Cox and Birgensmith matter? A Yes. I had said they could call me if they needed to talk to me. Q Are you okay now as we speak? Have I caught you at an okay time? A It didn't occur to me to bring my records with me, but I will do the best as I can from my memory. Q We will handle it that way. I have counsel in my office. It is a little easier than doing it in the courtroom. Their clients are here together with my stenographer. r will briefly administer the oath. (Whereupon, the oath was administered.) 34 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 .-., THE COURT: Mr. Russo will address you first. lie represents Ms. Birgonsmith. DIRECT EXAMINATION BY MR. RUSSO: Q Good morning, Ms. Aarhus. A Good morning. Q Have you ever testified as an expert before in a matter? A Yes, I have. Q In what area? A In the area actually I am a clinical social worker, which means that I am Board Certified to counsel in matters of individual, marriage and family. MR. RUSSO: We would like to offer her as an expert in those categories. MR. KAYER: I villl not object to that. THE COURT: There has been no objection to your qualification, so we are going to proceed to the heart of the matter. BY MR. RUSSO: Q Ms. Aarhus, you have had several sessions with the subject children, Kayleigh and Matthew, correct? A Yes, 1 have. Q And you last testified at a termination of parental rights hearing, is that correct? 35 '5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 '---, 1 2 3 4 A That's correct. Q Since that time have you had the opportunity to visit with these children again? A Yes, I have. Q And how frequently? [know you don't have your notes? A Well, I have seen the family as a family in various constellations probably every other week from the time that I testified the last time. I see the children alone sometimes if there are issues -- and that means all four of the children, and see them together. But the last two sessions that I wrote about in the letter that I sent for your consideration, one was in December and one was the beginning let's see, sometime I think the beginning of February. I had actually talked to the children about how things were going with dad. We talked about it before but not the depth that we talked acout it in those two sessions. Q At this point have you -- without telling me what they are, have you made any conclusions or recommendations about this situa"ion with these children? A Yes, I have. And I don't know -- did the judge and the other counsel have a chance to read the material that I gave you on Tuesday? Q Counsel and I talked about it and agreed we 36 "1 1 would prefer your testimony. :.! A Oka y. Bas ica II ywha t the bot tom line here 3 is I have made several n,commendatiorw. The one 4 recomJnendat ion was that the ch Lldren -- the len<Jth of 5 children's visits be looked at. Matthew is very opposed to 6 visiting at all. Kilyleigh is not ilt all opposed to 7 visiting, but she talks more in terJns of visiting with 8 grandmother and the cousins. And one of the things that 9 did come out in the two sessions that they really spend 10 very little time with dad while they are there. And I had 11 recommended that because of Matthew's tremendous resistance 12 and feelings and his unwillingness, and they are both at 13 different places in their feelings, that consideration be 14 given to perhaps having a one day, one night visit with 15 father, really being the center of the visits with the 16 children. I feel that they need that time with him. 17 I think it is wonderful that grandmother and 18 cousins are involved, but I am wondering what real time 19 they are spending with father. I have recommended that.. 20 And another recommendati.on that I made was that it is very 21 important for these children to resolve issues that 22 happened either at mother's house or at father's house in 23 the home where they happened. And one of the things that 24 came out was that there were some things that went en that 25 -- one incident particularly it was Kayleigh, that she 37 ,"'" 1 really was very unhappy with an i.IlLer-dcL ion between herse l f 2 and her father. I said did you tell your dadoy how you 3 feel, and she said no. Sho didn't [eel that she could talk 4 to him. And I saId, well, can you toll your: grandmother 5 how you feel. Alld she said, well, her: daddy wouldn't like 6 her to do that. And 1 feel that it is really important 7 that communication be better between dad and the chIldren 8 around issues of differences they might have. 9 And I even suggested in my recommendation 10 that dad might want to look at a counselor of his own, 11 because I know a lot of times when issues come up in the 12 family in mother's home they are processed in the office. 13 I think that it isn't good for issues to be coming up in 14 either to be dragged into the other home. If that makes 15 any sense. So those are some of the things that I thought 16 might be looked at. 17 The length of the visits and also dad might 18 want to look at getting a counselor or someolle who will sit 19 down with him and the children when the children have 20 issues, so they can build that kind of dialogue and rapport 21 that's important so those issues aren't brought back and 22 told to mother. 23 Q Ono of the things that's been discussed 24 among the parties is the possibility of some type of joint 25 parenting skills counseling. Do you have any feelings ]8 1 regarding that? 2 A I think that that would be a very good idea. 3 And I know that Mr. Cox might not particularly want me to 4 be -- to facilitate that because I kno\~ that he, you know, 5 has feelings about my testifying in the previous trial. 6 But I think that any good counselor sitting down and 7 working through that would be fine. S Q Do you think it at all important that the 9 judge meet with Matthew at all to discup~ his concerns? 10 A If the judge is willing to do that, I think 11 12 13 14 15 16 can't just say [ am not going to do it. But I do think 17 'that the judge needs to if the judge feels he needs to 18 hear from Matthew, I think that would be good, because 19 Matthew is very verbal about it. And he said that the last 20 time he talked to the judge Matthew thought that this was 21 going to be a one time visit. And said once and it is 22 over. And he is really having a problem with the 23 continuing visits. And I think maybe if he heard the judge 24 say this is the way it is, it would help him understand. 25 ~J[-{. RUSoiO: Thank you. I have no other that it would be good. One of the things that I have tri,ed to say to Matthew ilnd have him understand is that both mother and father are involved in his life. And it is really important for him to, you know, to work around those issues with dad. It is hard for him to understand t.hat he 39 ~"-'.. 1 questions. 2 THE COURT: Beforo I give you over to 3 counsel, I am looking at a letter. It appears to be a 4 report that you generat'ld on f'ebruary 1.5th, 1999. 5 THE WITNESS: Right. 6 THE COURT: That was the letter that you 7 just had reference to in your testimony a moment ago? 8 THE WITNESS: Right. 9 THf.: COURT: As I g lance through it, it 10 appears to be a helpful summary of your findings. Both 11 counsel have had the opportunity -- 12 MR. [{AYER: No. I have not had a chance to 13 see that. 14 MR. RUSSO: We discussed it but did not 15 produce it. 16 THE COURT: The reports are customarily 17 entered as long as there is an opportunity to cross-examine 18 with respect to them. W"ll, okay. I don't know if we can 19 take the time now to do that. If he had had a chance to 20 see it before, I would have given him the chance to 21 cross-examine on it now and admit it into evidence. 22 THE WITNESS: I think basically what I said 23 is what I put in that report at the end on recommendations. 24 THE COURT: Okay. 25 THE: WIna-:SS: ~ly bottom line concern 1s that 40 -~ 1 the children's best interests be served always. We have a 2 chanco to look at this right now because I think that it is 3 helpful to look at what the children need and then to, you 4 know, work with that. And I know that Mr. Cox wants to do 5 that. And r know that the Birgensmiths want to do that. 6 So, you know, I am hopeful that my suggestions and 7 recommendations would be helpful in making things a little 8 smoother for everybody. 9 THE COURT: Go ahead. 10 CROSS-EXAMINATION 11 BY MR. KAYER: 12 Q Can you describe to me to the best of your 13 knowledge what the basis is for Matthew's vocal resistance 14 to visits? 15 A Matthew is a very sensitive child. And I 16 think that this has been very stressful for him, to be 17 introduced to his father, you know, after this period of 18 time. And I think that it is just that he doesn't feel 19 comfortable with dad. And that's understandable because 20 this situation is relatively new. And I feel that he feels 21 he can't talk to dad. And Kayleigh feels she can't talk to 22 dad. Both of thew said they don't feel they know their dad 23 real well. I recommended more time be spent with dad. 24 They indicated much of the visits are spent with 25 grandmother and cousins. Dad i.s there some of the time, 41 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ,'_' but he is also not there some of the time. His resistance is he doesn't feel very comfortable at this time with dad. Q I am somewhat confused on your recommendation. I hear YOLl sayinCJ on the one hand that it is important to emphasize contact between father and children, and yet your recommendation is to cut down his time with the children, essentially in half? A Well, yes, and I understand your point. But what I was saying there, if you had had a chance to read it, because of the extreme difference of opinion here with the children, Matthew saying I don't want to go at all, and Kayleigh saying I will go and I will play games with my grandma and my cousins. I am looking how can we best facilitate things. I think that it is important for them to spend most of the time with dad. But I also know that Matthew finds the couple days too long to be away from home, what he considers home. And my feeling was that maybe a shorter time to accommodate Matthew's feelings but also more time with dad when dad is there. Now, I can't speak to how much time dad is spending because, you know, children are not a hundred percent reliable in their reporting. But both of them independently said Matthew said he doesn't know his dad. That's not what he said. He knows his dad but his dad doesn't know him. And Kayleigh said that she doesn't 42 1 spend much time with her dad, that a lot of the time he is 2 gone. So my feelinq was a shorter period of time with a 3 lot marc conccntration with dad mlght accommodate 4 everybody's best int.ercsts. 5 Q Now, do you recall at the termination 6 hearing previously you indicated at that time that Matthew 7 ,craved contact with his father? 8 A I think Matthew did Matthew wanted to 9 know that his father cared about him. 10 Q And at that time you also stressed that if 11 there was going to be a relationship between father and 12 children, that it should be somethi.ng constant so that 13 there wouldn't be, you know, a long period of interruption 14 of contact. Do you recall that? 15 A Absolutely. 16 Q Is there anything that you have heard in 17 your counseling of the children or the family to indicate 18 that Mr. Cox has not regularly been visiting with the 19 children? 20 A Only that they are saying that when they go 21 there he is not there. He apparently is not there a lot of 22 the time. I don't know that, but they both complained that 23 he is not around that much. 24 Q OkdY. Now, you also indicated in YOllr 25 recommendations here that. it. I.s not good for issues from 43 1 Matthew has feelings about that. But how that can best be 2 done, I don't know except to say that if they are going to 3 be there for the two full days they need to have extensive 4 contact with father. Rut I think one of the things that 5 needs to happen here is that there be better communication, 6 because neither child feeiH that when there are some 7 problems that they can go to dad. That's the only way that 8 we are going to be able to be sure that you don't have the 9 cross-over home to home. 10 You are going to have some of that anyway, 11 but it is not good for the children not to feel that there 12 is someone they can go to in each home who can resolve any 13 issues that they might have, either with them or with the 14 other parent. So I don't know that it would be 15 tremendously good to have the two days until some of this 16 is resolved. I would say maybe one day of some counseling 17 and some work on communication to, you know, facilitate 18 communication between dad and children and then go and look 19 at it again to see if two days is more realistic at that 20 point. But I think it is a long time when the children 21 don't feel that they can express what they are feeling and 22 get results at that moment at that time. 23 Q Now, you indicated that you also are 24 counseling the whole family essentially in stages, is that 25 right? 115 .~ 1 A Yes. 2 Q In your convBrsations with Mrs. Birgensmith 3 have you been able to determine if she has shown any 4 ambivalence about the father exercising his custody rights? 5 A I think that probably there is some 6 ambivalence on everybody's part here. This has been a very 7 difficult time for everyone. And I think it is hard when 8 parents divorce and go on with their lives. And there are 9 10 11 12 13 14 you in the presence of the children? 15 A I can't remember of anything specific -- 16 that specific in the experience of the children. That's 17 why I see them separately. You know, I might see the 18 parents together. I might see Mark and Kim together. I 19 might see them with or without the children. But usually 20 when we have discussions of concerns the c~ildren arB 21 excluded. 22 Q Okay. Can you determine if any of the 23 ambivalence that mother feels about the custodial situation 24 has somehow been transferred by her to the children? 25 A r. imagine that it has been. And, you know, feelings. And while we don't like to think that they affect children, I know that they do. And I think that probably on both sides there are a lot of feelings that may creep in that we would wi.sh would not. Q Has she ever expJ:'essed that ambivalence to 46 "' 1 I think that we do that sometimes not knowing that we are 2 doing it. I can't say specLfically It has. But I think 3 even a shrug or a tone of voice can transmit messages to 4 ch.lldren about their other parent. I find that in my work 5 with parents this happens a lot, both sides. 6 Q Do you think that has impacted Kayleigh and 7 Matthew's perceptions of 'their father in what we have 8 reported to you? 9 A I don't believe that it has. I talked to 10 them specifically, about, you know, how they feel about 11 mom's home, how they feel about dad's home. And, no, I 12 don't believe so. I think Matthew's resistance is 13 Matthew's. 14 15 16 BY THE COURT: MR. KA YER: Okay. I have nothing further. MR. RUSSO: I have no redir.ect. 17 Q Judge Hess again. You say you do foresee, 18 Ms. Aarhus, eventually in this plana restoration of a two 19 day pattern? 20 A I think that hopefully as the children get 21 to know their father better. They would want to spend more, 22 time with him. 23 Q On that past point where you said it was 24 Matthew assuming that mom has insisted that there be 25 compliance with the court order, and that's a good thing. 47 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 -, A I think that if it is laid out well. And if they are going to have a chance to spend, you know, a lot of time, I don't mean all the time. They love to spend time with their grandmother and cousins. If it is a well laid out period of time. And, you know, if dad is going to be very involved. I think that that would be great. I think that it might be nice though prior to that to have them get some help in thei r commun ications. Some idea how they are going to handle it when differences come up. MR. RUSSO: Thank you. RECROSS EXAMINATION BY MR. KAYER: Q This is Mr. Kayer again. Would there be any merit again crafting an order that would have Matthew be returned to the mother on Sunday morning when the parties go to church and have Kayleigh then spend the rest of Sunday with the father and then be returned at a separate time"? A That might work. That would be something that they can go with. As I said, Kayleigh is much less adamant about not going there than Matthew is. Q Would that send any right or wrong messages to either of these kid3? A Well, J, don't know that Kayleigh would look at it as right or wrong. I think Matthew needs to 49 ~ 1 understclrld the reason behind that. 2 THE COURT: He would have to know why __ he 3 should know why it is being done and so forth. 4 THE WITNESS: And I don't think that that 5 would hurt. I think it would give dad a chance to have 6 some time with Kayleigh himself. And that's always nice 7 too when we can spend individual time with the children. 8 , THE COURT: Thank you. Thank you very much 9 for making yourself available. And have a very good day. 10 THE WITNESS: Thank you. 11 THE COURT: Bye-bye. THE WITNESS: Bye-bye. 12 13 THE COURT: Okay. We can reconvene in the 14 courtroom. 15 (Whereupon, the following proceedings 16 OCcurred in open court.) 17 THE COURT: Mr. Kayer. 18 MR. KAYER: We will call Greg Cox to the 19 stand. 20 Whereupon, GREGORY COX, having been duly 21 22 DIRECT EXAMINATION sworn, testified as follows: 23 BY MR. KAYER: 24 Q Can you state your name for the record, 25 please? 50 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 2:' !''''''''l A Greg Cox. Q Where do you live? A 441 North College Street. Q And who lives with you? A My father daDS. Q Okay. Now, under the current order how much time are you supposed to be with the children during the school year? THE COURT: I am familiar with the current order. MR. KAYER: Okay. Very good. BY MR. KAYER: Q How much time are you actually utilizing under the current order? What's your visitation been like? A Well, I pick up the children. I usually try to make sure there is somebody with me. And I take them over to my sister's place, because that's where my mom is, because a couple accusations that we weren't bathing the children. So I make sure now there is always somebody with me and somebody around me the entire time the children are around so they can verify or back up anything that does go on or something that does happen. Q Okay. Has there ever been a weekend that was supposed to be yours that you didn't use? A The one time Cor the 4th of July, I didn't 5l 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1.1 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 '--, Q That was tlw day Ln question that she complail1ed about them beinq an hour ilnd il half late? A Oh, yes. And she called the cops on me and everything else. When [ (jut to my dad's house, there w,~s a Carlisle police officer sittin(j there waiting for me on my doorstep wanting to know why [ had the children out past his time and everythinq e1'lc. And I asked him what the problem was. He says, well, she called hysterically and said that apparently that you were tryin(j to run off with the children. And he wanted to find out what was going on. And when I showed him my court -- that I was supposed to have the children extra time, then he went ahead and left. Q Did you try calling her that day when it became apparent that you were goinq to be running late? A Yes, I did. But I got no answer. Q Now. have you encountered difficulties with Kim regarding getting the children? A I get off work at exactly 5:00 on Fridays. And my employer knows that I have a court order to pick up the children on every other weekend. So he has no problem with letting me go on time. And he makes sure that I am out the door at 5:00. am on the highway at 5:00 -- I am on the highway, and I am sitting down the street from her house. I pull up down the street from her house. There is a little pull-off. And I sit there exactly until it is ~L3 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 e 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ......., like five minutes to go. And then at 6:00 I am there in her driveway. And nine out of ten times I sit and wait an extra ten minutes for her to send them out the door. Q Okay. There have been concerns expressed by the mother about safely transporting the kids? A I did call the State Police officer. And I asked him. And his words were straight up. He told me that if the children were under a hundred pounds, the two together, and if they fit nicely in the seat belt, and neither one of them was cramped or pushing on the other one, then it would be okay in a pickup truck to have four people in the cab of a pickup truck. And $0 that's what I did. And, you know, I had no problems with it until the one day Kim come out of the church. And I was holding the children's hands, and she come up and took them from me, you know. And that's when all that started. That's when the argument and the fighting began on that. I mean, I was holding Kayleigh and Matt's hand when she come up and pulled them from me. And Mark started yelling at me you are hurting them. When I was already standing there and holding them and she was dragging them up over the hi ll. So I left go. I was not going to have a tug of war with my child in the middle of it. Q Sure. And once sh~ took the kids from your S4 ~ 1 hands, did she take the kids into the van then? 2 ^ She started taking them quickly and yelling 3 at them like I was some ax murderer. Quick, run to the 4 van. Quick, run to the van. Ancl that's when she was 5 running the children up to the van. And Mark kept stepping 6 in between me and her and the children. That's when I 7 threatened him. I did tell him straight out that I would 8 pound him into the ground if he did not get out of my way 9 between me and my children. But he kept jumping in between 10 me and the kids. 11 Q Now, what happened next at that point? 12 A Well, that's when my aunt came over and 13 she -- she was standing there. And she was trying to 14 resolve what was going on. There was also another lady 15 there also from inside the church. She was trying to help 16 the problem. Right. And finally the preacher came out, 17 and he talked to both of us and stuff. But my aunt had 18 twice offered to tak~ the children home. And they refused. 19 Q Is that ultimately what happened? It was 20 your aunt who took the kids home that day? 21 A No. I ended up taking them home, because 22 the police officer said it was just fine for them to go 23 ahead and sit in there. And that's what we did -- we did 24 what the second police officer said to do, put them both in 25 separate seat belt5 to resolve the issue, and just let my 55 '-" .-' , ' 1 fiance sit wherever she pleased. 2 Q Now, since that incident occurred, are you 3 still driving the pickup truck? 4 A No. No. I now use my girlfriend's truck. 5 She has a Chevy blazer. It has got a seat belt for 6 everybody. 7 Q Okay. Now, have you encountered other 8 difficulties with Kim interfering with your custody rights? 9 A Well, she a couple times -- well, like she 10 told me she like the bit with the dog incident. Well, I 11 took the kids over to a friend of mine's house. He has a 12 puppy rottweiler. It was six months old. It is a puppy. 13 It come down the driveway. They have a real long driveway 14 that's off the main road to begin with. And the kids were 15 riding bikes up and down the hill with his children. And 16 the puppy, you know how a puppy is, chases after people and 17 stuff, you know, he was playing with the kids, you know. 18 Kayleigh never once indicated that it hurt her or that it 19 attacked her or anything. 20 Bu t you know how a puppy do"s, it grabs 21 ahold of your clothing and stuff. Well, the one time she 22 yelled about it. I guess she claimed the dog got her, you 23 know. But I went clown and looked and checked. There was 24 no mdrks on my child. 25 Q Was she playing in your presence at that 56 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ~~ ,-" time? A Yas. I WQS stQnding at the top of the hill. The hill is approximately five feet tail. And it rolls down onto a nice long gravel driveway. I would say the gravel driveway is over two hundred feet to get to the first main road. Q Now, at anytJ,me during this incident with the rottweiler, was there a time that you didn't supervise Kayleigh? A No. Anytime that I wasn't there my mother is there or my sister is there. And I can't think of any time. Q Have the children talked to you about conversations they have with their mother after your visits? A Yes. They tell me straiyht out that after -- when I drop them off for church, that every morning they have to go quickly and directly into the kitchen. And this is where they stand and talk to morruny about what they did with me the entire weekend before she lets them back out. That's how she also knew that, you know, that they were in one seat belt only that day. Q Okay. Have they reported to you that she criticizes you in their presence? A Yes. They tell me little things that I 57 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 with me and not daddy Greg. And I am always -- I consider it an insult to be called number two. Q Have they indicated to you why they call you daddy Greg? A They said tnat Audrey Aarhus and mommy and daddy has said that this is how it is to be said. That I am daddy Greg. And that's what I am to be called. Q Okay. How did YOll find out that Matthew changed schools this past year? A My mother read it in the newspaper, and started to inquire what happened and why. So she called the school board -- or not the school board, the school that Matthew was supposed to have gone to, and they told her that she should call the other school counselor. They gave her name and all this stuff. Well, the woman refused to talk to her without a letter from me, saying, you know. So mom wrote up the letter. I read the letter, signed the letter. And then we sent it in. And then the woman went ahead and sent us some information and stuff back. Q Is there any reason why you weren't making those calls, you had your mom do it? A Because" work between the hours of 8:00 in the morning until 5:00 at night. And where I work we are not allowed personal phone calls outwards. So if my mother makes the phone calls and stuff for me, and I sign whatever ~9 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ""'" fI""'I paperwork has to be signed. But I read over or she reads to me exactly what is being said. Q Did Kim tell you at anytime that Matthew had transferred schools? F, No. She doesn't tell LIS anything. I didn't even get my first report card sent to me until the other day when the school finally sent it to us. And the school did tell us outright, and Kim claimed twice to them, expressed to them, that she was taking care of all the report cards. And that she was to hand it to me. And we never got anything. I mean, the counselor straight up said that this is what she was telling them, that she was taking care of it all. Q Now, Kim also testified she is concerned about a lot of bumps, bruises and scrapes that seem to happen at your place to the kids. A I have no problem' with the kids playing. If they want to play, I don't stop them from playing. As far as riding bikes and stuff, I taught Kayleigh lately how to ride a two wheel bike, because the grandmother just bought them bikes. I bought them roller blades. And we have been taking them every Sunday after church to skating. And as Ear as bumps and bruises goes and stuff like that, I believe most of that comes from being a child. But the one t1me when all this did start was 60 ,...., I was helping my daughter take a bath. Because she claims 2 she did not know how to. so, you know, I was helping her 3 out. And since then -- sine!.? I was accLlsed, I have not 4 given my children a bath. r let my mother do it for me, 5 for the simple fact that, you know, I mean I guess the 6 only thing she can aCCUse her of would be molesting Matthew 7 then I guess. I ha ve no idea. 8 Q What type of activities do you do with the 9 children 7 10 A Like I said, I taught Kayleigh lately how to 11 ride a two wheel bike. When the snows came, I went out and 12 bought the kids metal sleds and stuff. And we have been 13 Sledding. Every Sunday we take the children out to the 14 skating rink after church. This is pretty much a constant 15 ritual. You know, as far as the Saturdays go, when I __ 16 start off, Friday when I pick them up, it is right after I 17 get off work. And the kids are Coming out. Apparently 18 they always just get done eating before I pick them up. 19 And so I take them over to my sister's house from there. 20 That's where the kids normally, nine out of 21 ten times, we break out card games. Or they go in Daniel's 22 room, which is the nephew. And they play video games, 23 which I am not real happy about, but I figure it is a fad, 24 everYbody is doing it. My kids claim they have never done 25 that type of stuff. They don't have that type of stuff. 62 " I i~ . 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ........ But I figure it il; a fad, YOll know, if they want to learn it, they can learn it. But: 1.t: is P[(;tty much a game. Then conw Saturday we do just about anything the kids want to do. You know, we play. Like I said, there is a big, I mean, it is a huge yard. But the kids play outside or whatever. Sometimes we sit in there ~nd watch new movies and stuff. You know, but there is always at least two or three parents or adults there at the house. Q Where do the kids spend overnight? A They spend their overnights now at my sister's place since I was accused of molesting Kayleigh. I figure I don't want to be off at anytime where, you know, it was just one parent. Q Do they have adequate sleeping facilities there? A Yes. My sister's kids, she has two children of her own, a boy and a girl. And there are just a couple years difference in the ages. So Kayleigh sleeps with her daughter in her room. And Matthew sleeps with her son in his room. Now, they each have their own separate cot type beds that they sleep on. Q Do you put the kids to bed at night? A Yes, I do. I kiss them good night each night. And I make sure there is somebody in the room also whenever I do that. 63 ,~ 1 2 place'l 3 A Th~t's the only thing I don't do, because 4 there is not enough space for us. But I could sleep on the 5 floor if r have to or on the couch. 6 Q Are you the~e in the morning? 7 A I am there in the morning when they get up 8 in the mornings. I make sure that I show ~p on time. 9 Q Okay. What type of medication do either of 10 the kids have to take? 11 A Matthew is on learning disorder medication. 12 And, therefore, for a while she complained that I was not 13 giving the child~en the medicine and stuff. So I made sure 14 every time Matthew shows up I take the medicine out of his 15 bag. I hand it to my mother, and she gives it to him in 16 the morning and in the afternoon just like -- well, like 17 Kim s~ys it is supposed to be done. The doctor claims he 18 is supposed to be given the medication three times a day. 19 Kim only sends medication for two times a day. I give the 20 children exactly what -- we give the children exactly what 21 they are supposed to have. 22 Q Has there ever been a time where you did not 23 comply with the mother's wi,shes about medication? 24 A ~Io. Medication is always given. 8ven Q A~e you staying overnight at your sister's 25 though I am not too sure about giving the medication, I 64 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 J.9 20 21 22 23 24 25 ,"-, ("- always did give the medic~~ion. Thero is no timo ever that the meJication bottle went back full. [t always went back there. A few timos she claims that we don't send the medicine bottle back. If we don't send it back, how come when she sends the next bottle it is still the same bottle that's marked? Q Now, on Saturdays, do those visits that take place at your sister's home, or do the visits take place anywhere else? A No. They take place at my sister's house. Q Are you staying at the house typically on those Saturdays? A Yes. Q Has there ever been occasion when you left the home and left someone else to watch the kids? A I left my mother and my sister and her husband, because my girlfriend's car broke down for like an hour or two. I had to go back and pick her up. She was broke down. So I went down and picked her up. Q That's the only occasion you have ever left the children behind? A Pretty much, yes. Q Okay. Now, Sunday mornings, you have agreed to get the kids to church on time, is that right? A Well, [ agreed to church, but I didn't 65 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 1'""'1 that GounsQling might be a good idea? A [would say separate counseling other than her. Because when I talked to the school counselor, they did not think too highly of her. They did not have a good rapport. Q If there wer.e arrangements made to have some type of fam[ly counseling, using someone besides Ms. Aarhus, would you agree to that? A I have requested someone else other than Mrs. Aarhus and was told no. But I would definitely like counseling with someone else. Q Who told you no? A Kim told me that this is her place, and they were staying. This is her family doctor or whatever. Q Do you perceive a need to change this custody order? A I do not think it should be changed. I don't want a shorter time. I just want less of the cons~ant bickering and the calls where my children dre coming to me and telling me we are not allowed to do this. Mommy says we are not allowed to do this, or we are not allowed to talk this way. That's all I ever get. So I don't know where my limits are. You know, I just don't know what to be able to say to the children without Offending them one way or the other, because it offends 68 -" 1 their mother. 2 MR. KAYER: I have nothing further. J CROSS-EXAMINATION 4 BY MR. RUSSO: 5 Q Mr. Cox, regarding these allegations of 6 molestation, isn't it true that the simple question to you 7 or the simple situation to you was to bathe the children 8 separately, and that you were bathing Kayleigh and cleaning 9 her private parts, and she was old enough to do that 10 herself? 11 A No. I actually got paperwork stating that 12 apparently that I was trying to ~olest my daughter. 13 Q Who did you get that from? 14 AIt was either you or her, but I don't 15 remember which. But somebody sent me paperwork claiming 16 that it came through the mail, wanting to know what I was 17 doing with my child. And that's how I took it, you guys 18 were accusing me of molesting her. I gave her a simple 19 bath. 20 Q There have been no other allegations of 21 improper conduct since you let your mother bathe Kayleigh? 22 A It was supposedly sent to Mrs. Aarhus. Mrs. 23 Aarhus sent me the paperwork that allegations were stated, 24 and she had to by law follow through with letting me know 25 that I was being investigated for it. And that she would 69 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ''"'\ ,...... have to give it also to the State, the information. Q And since that time have there beon any other allegations that you are talking about? A No. From then on out, that day forward I have made sure that I have had two other parents or adult with me. Q Were you bathing [\ayleigh? A Yes. I gave Kayleigh a bath. Q Would you clean her private parts? A I washed her with a wash rag and soap. Q Okay. Regardi~g tell ing your children not to call Mark daddy, do you recall telling the children if they called Mark daddy he would be a dead daddy? A I never said that, never said that. Q Does your father or any of your other family smoke around your chitdren? A No. Q Do you know how your daughter would have gotten burned with a cigarette? A No. She never got burned with a cigarette. Q When you bring the children -- A Well, they might have got burned with a cigarette the week she took them down to Florida. Both my children came back and told me the entire time they were in Mark's father's hOLlse and he smoked. And mommy told them 70 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 ;"",\ that we cannot tell him where he can smoke and not smoke in his own house. But yet you tell my father where he can smoke and not smoke in his own house. Q When you bring the children to church do you typically groom their hair? A Yes. Q And they are typically always children when you bring them? A Yes. Q Have you ever missed taking your children back to Kim? A What -- taking them -- did I never take them 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 back? Q I will withdraw that question. Regarding counseling, didn't Kim come to you through me and say we want to engage in that counseling and that we would have to find somebody who would aCgept the insurance that the Birgensmiths A Repeat the question. I am not getting what you are saying. Q Isn't it true that the Birgensmiths never insisted on having Ms. Aarhus do the counseling, rather have somebody that would take their insurance do the counseling? Does that sound familiar to you? 1\ I only think it is her doctor, and that's 71 '""'" ('"", 1 who the school or who his company goes through or something 2 like that. 3 Q Regarding thc children, whcre do they sleep 4 on Friday and Saturday nights, at your sister's? 5 A Ycs. 6 Q And you said they slept where, in a bed? 7 A They have what they call -- there are -- I 8 don't know the exact name, but there are -- they are like 9 camping type beds. They are beds. 10 Q On the floor? 11 A No. They are camping type beds. 12 Q Cots? 13 A No. It is not a cot that stands up. It is 14 a thick foam pad about so thick. You fold them out, and 15 you take them camping. Her children also have them. It is 16 like a sleepover. Even though they have their own beds, 17 they fold their own out and also sleep on them. 18 MR. RUSSO: Notning further. 19 MR. KAYER: No redirect. 20 THE COURT: Thank you, si r. You can step 21 down. 22 MR. KAYER: At this time we will call Kay 23 Cox. 24 Whereupon, !<AY COX, having been duly sworn, 25 testified as follows: 72 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ~ THE COURT: Before you start, Mr. Kayar, there was one question I did want to ask Mr. Cox that has come to mind. I will just ask him from where he is sitting. What is your weekend work schedule? MR. COX: I am supposed to work every couple weekends. I am supposed to work as a mechanic also up there. But since I requested every other weekend definitely off, they haven't asked me to do any work for the weekends. THE COURT: So you are telling me basically you have Friday night, Saturday and Sunday off on those weekends you are with your children? MR. COX: Yes, sir. THE COURT: I am sorry. Go ahead. DIRECT EXAMINATION BY M~. KAYER: Q Mrs. Cox, can you state your name for the record, please? A Kay Cox. Q Where do you live? A 441 North College Street. Q And you are Greg Cox's mother? A Right. Q Now, how frequently have you gotten to see 73 !~ ~ 1 Matthew and Kayleigh since this order went into effect in 2 June? 3 A Every time he has them. In the beginning, 4 the first three or four visits, they were coming to my 5 house, and I was there on Friday nights. Then my 6 daughter's work schedule changed, and I had to be at her 7 house on the weekends. And Greg started bringing them up 8 there. 9 Q Okay. So you have essentially been there 10 each of these visits the whole time? 11 A Yeah. Except when he takes them someplace, 12 like skating. In the beginning he took them to friends' 13 houses. You know, like they would go for the afternoon or 14 something and come back. 15 Q How much time does Greg actually spend with 16 the kids during his visits? 17 A Well, he is with them all the time except 18 sleeping. He leaves at night when he is at my daughter's 19 house. 20 Q What type of activities does he do with 21 Kay1eigh and Matthew? 22 A We play games there and watch tapes on the 23 T.V. Or they go outside and play. They have in the 24 basement like a game room I guess you call it with things 25 for the kids to do down there. They roller skate down 74 " 1 there. It is very large. They also go to the roller { ' I I I I I I 2 skating ring. And they play individual games. And 3 sometimes the girls go in the girls' room and play dolls or 4 something. And Greg is out in the living room. He doesn't 5 follow them around. He is not with them constantly, unless 6 they bring a game to him or we do something all together. 7 Q Are there long perlods of time where he will 8 not bother with the children at ail on his weekends? 9 A No, not really. 10 Q Have you seen the children express affection 11 to Greg? 12 A Yeah, a couple times. I f they get on his 13 lap and sit there and hug him. He kisses them good night 14 when he tucks them into bed. And as far as their not being 15 upset about coming there, they don't usually want to go 16 home. I mean, it is a chore getting them ready, to get 17 their things together and stuff to go, because they want to 18 keep playing. And, you know, they have never voiced in my 19 presence not wanting to be there. They always seem to be 20 having fun. 21 Q Do they seem to be afraid of their father? 22 A No. 23 Q Or intimidated in any way? 24 ^ No. 25 Q How did you first become aware of Matthew's "15 -""'"' (~-, 1 change in schools? 2 A We read it in the paper. My daughter's 3 children go to Newville schools also. And you have to read 4 there in the beginning of the year where your class and 5 room and teacher are. And we were reading theirs, and we 6 just happened to look up the rest of the kids that we knew. 7 And Matthew's wasn't listed In the area where he is 8 supposed to be. So my sister, she found it under the 9 Plainfield schools. 10 And I called the office to ask them why he 11 was switched. And she referred me to Mrs. Keener, which is 12 a guidance counselor. And she told me, 1 i ke Greg said, 13 that she couldn't really talk to me unless I had a 14 permission slip from either parent. So Greg signed a 15 permission slip that she could talk to me, because he 16 wasn't able to call during work hours. And she explained 17 to me that Matthew was having difficulty in all his 18 subjects. And that the area he was going to was I guess a 19 better help for him and everything. And she was quite 20 concerned then that we were going to cause problems because 21 we knew nothing about it. 22 She told me that she spoke with Kim before 23 the meeting and said about informing the father, and she 24 said she would do J,t. But Greg was never informed as far 25 as we knew. He didn't tell m" ilnything about it. And the 76 ~ ~ 1 meeting took place on June 8th, which when i saw the 2 paperwork, I said this is funny, because tha last court 3 thing we were in here was on the 5th. I said t~at was 4 three days after that. And we didn't find out anything 5 until September of the following year. 6 Q Okay. Did you ever remark to Mrs. Keener or. 7 anyone else at the schcol that the mother. was 8 psychologically unstable? 9 A No. 10 Q Did you ever relate to them that it was 11 Greg's intention to take the kids out of school or pick 12 them up at the end of the school day? 13 A No. We only discussed the fact of getting 14 information on the children's rerort cards, how well they 15 were doing in school, things of that nature, because it 16 said in the court order that she was to let us know these 17 things. And she hadn't to that date. So we were trying to 18 find out things that they do in school. And she said we 19 have to wr.ite a letter to her for Kayleigh and Mr. Mashus 20 for Matthew. They were the guidance counselors. To 21 request report cards and information on them. 22 Q Has Matthew ever talked to you in private 23 about the problems he has with his father? 24 A Q No. Has he ever expressed to you or in your 25 77 1 2 3 .4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 (."'"'1 presence that he doesn't want to spend as much time with his father as he spends right now? A No. The only thing he has ever said to me was just I think the last time he was there. It was not that he didn't want to be with his father, he didn't want to be at the house we were at, at Michelle's. He wanted to go to my house in Carlisle, because he had some toys there that's a remote control. He wanted to play with them. He missed them. And Greg hadn't brought them up to Michelle's house. So he didn't have them with him. Q Do you think that the kids enjoy the time that they spend with Greg? A Well, they seem to. Q Do you think it is good for them? A Yeah, I do. Q Do you think that limiting that time would be a good or a bad thing for them? A Well, I never really asked them. I would want to ask them before I would make the decision. You know, do you want not to be here. I don't ask them questions, like Greg said, because, when we did ask them I would just ask them normal things like I do my other grandchildren, like how was school or this and that. And the remarks I get was I don't know. I forget. And several times Matthew started to teLL us things that happens in his 78 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ,""'" (-" life, and Kayleigh will say, Matthew, we are not allowed to talk about that. So I don't feel comfortable asking them anything particular other than, you know, like how are you feeling today or something like that. Q Have you observed Greg attempting to call Kim? A No. Not in my presence. Q Have you tried to contact her yourself? A I only ever called her the one time about the incident they are talking about with the -- my daughter's driveway is straight up. When we had the bad storms it was a sheet of ice. And they di~n'tslip off the road. What they were was off the driveway into a field, which is an empty field. And because their wheels kept spinning, and they would back up into the field to get more traction where there was grass. But we were having trouble, not just him, everybody all week. And I called her to tell her he was stuck, and as soon as he got loose, you know, somebody was coming to help him, that I would call her back and let them know they were on their way, which I did. But I don't call, because from the very beginning of all this stuff I always felt that since I am Greg's mother anything I do reflects on him. And I c1idn' t -- I don't realize, like I said, what we are supposed to be allowed to do or what will be 79 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 11 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 '-\ 'construed a~ harassing or MR. KAYI.:H: lu~Jt_ d.1I1'1, t)l)I,lIor l/lloan... '[ hilVO 11') olll,!t IpIO/lt.lon~l. CH()~;:J -EXAM 1 NI\'l' ION BY MR. HUSSO: Q Good morning, Mnl. CI);<. 11"IVI~ you OVI::Jr needed to return the ell 1.1.r.Iren to ~;tlll 1",,':du,Jf] (jro(j cou I.dn' t do it? A y(~S . I dld (Hlf] t!.lIlo. Q And on that I. irnn lunt. t",edu~lo you didn I t know whero Grog was, right.1 A Well, II,! had wI'nt. 011 b'.,c.,u/lo hill truck or somethinCJ was bruke. And hI! W"llt. ",0 I.., I k to Bomobody about gettIng it fixod. And h" dldll'l, (I',t, t,.,ck in tlmo. Q Okay. MH. HlJ:-i~-iU : I hdvl' nl)thln<j t,urther. MH. ~:AYI,:H : Nu t'(~d \ roct . l'HE CotlHT : Th,lIlk you. You can ~tep down. MH. KAYI':H: Y'"11 lI11nllr, vl(~ rest. MH. IUJ:i:iU: Y'"lt lIonor, thero is one question that Camf! lip wi th ','our 'luost !.on to Mr. Cox about work, and if [ molY... T!n: (;OIJI<T: (.if) (,\hUdd. MP,. IHJ;i;iO: r~r. Cox, YOlt are now employed 2.1 with a difior,,,nl "lIlpl,.,y"r Uldn t.ho last time we were in 25 court., (:nrrf,!C't ';1 fit) ,""'" MR. COX: No. MR. RUSSO: Do you have vacation time available to YOl; ? MP.. COX: Yes. MR. RUSSO: Thank you. THE COURT: I assume counsel want me to talk to Matt? MR. RUSSO: Please. THE COURT: Is Kayleigh around? MR. RUSSO: Matthew. THE COURT: Kayleigh is not? MR. RUSSO: Kayleigh is not, right. THE COURT: If she were, I didn't want to 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 make her think she was unimportant. Okay. We will go do 15 that very expeditiously, and you say you have a 1:30, and I 16 have an appointment as well. 17 MR. KAYER: That's correct, 18 THE COURT: I doubt that we will reconvene 19 in the courtroom. 20 (Whereupon, Matthew was questioned 21 in chambers.) 22 BY THE COURT: 23 Q Hi, Matt. I guess I talked to you a number 24 of months ago. Do you remember that? 25 A Yes. 81 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 Q A Q can hear you? A Q A Q A Q ."'\ You say YOIl do I) t you <inn' I:? I do. I am sony. Coin Y"II 1.01 I.k good and loud so I Do you t:t)rnornhor t,llkl,n'l to me bEJfore? Yl~dh . And W'l t ,il ked oIhout you r dad. My <idd. :;(",Inq Y"lIr dold, riqht'? Yt~::l . you saw your dad right? Mid 01 1'1... r I 1,.1 kml 1.0 you, for the fir'lt 11.111" 11101 1'>1111, I.on'l time, A 'I"". Q And I. I h In k Y011 'J,\W h irn, what, for one day at a time tor nwhlluJ ^ YO:i. Q And th"n Y"ll Wllnt over to start to see him on we(]k'~nd'l, rl'lht'" A fllll.! onl Y wan trod to see him once. Ij Coin you t.o ll. me why you. only w,anted to see him on(:u} A Wull, the only thing I wanted to see him <HI\:" I II b..':dll"" of one time he threw a table at my mommy. And trn Sol id Uldt whenever you are here -- you shouldn't Cd II H,lrk ddddy hore. You should call him M,ark. Q When you go to visit your dad, you go to 82 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ,1""'\ ,-, your dad's sister's house, right? A Yes. Q Is that where you stay overnight and sleep? A Yes. Q You also see your grandma on weekends, right? A Yes. Q What sorts of things do you do when you are visiting with your dad? A Oh, the first day when I went there he was nice, but then the next day he wasn't so nice at all. QWhy was there a problem of some kind? A (No response.) Q Was he mad at you because you did something wrong? A No. Sometimes when Kayleigh is bad he is really mad. Q And you don't like when he gets mad, right? A No. I didn't like it when my dad got mad. Q How have things been going lately when you visit with your dad, okay? A Yeah. Q I hear you go skating on Sunday afternoons? A' Yeah. I got this. Q From skating? 83 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 """,, r1 1\ Yeah. Q What, did you fall down? A Yeah. Every single day I went there I came back with bruises. Q How come you keep falling down? A Well, when I was skating with daddy I fall down because he goes too fast a little. Q Have YOll said dad, slow down? A I try, but he couldn't hear me. Q Couldn't hear you, well, because of the noise and the musLc? A Yeah. Q Is there music in this skating rink? A Yeah. We go to the Midway. Q Midway. That's a lot of fun. Last time I was there I fell down too. And I haven't been back since. But that's okay. You go to church every Sunday? A Yeah. Q Does your dad get you there? A Yeah. Q Do you get there on time? A Well, sometimes. Somotimes we are late. One time he kicked my sister in the bottom one time. Q Why? A All she wanted to do was go with him, and he 8'1 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 1.9 20 21 22 23 24 25 '""" came and did it to my sister. Q Do you know that your daddy loves you very much, and he would like to get to know you even better than he does, GO you know that? A Yeah. Q Have you been with your mom and Mark this week? A Q Yeah. And have they talked to you about this hearing today'i A Q Yeah. Did they tell you why you were coming to the courthouse? A Yeah. Because you wanted to talk to me. Q Well, your opinion is very Important, that's for sure. What are your feelings about visiting with your dad? A Well, it i,s like someLimBs -- sometimes I like to go and sometimes I don't. Whenever I am at mommy's at night when I am going I say I don't want to go. Q That's what you tell her? A Yoah. Q But some vlsIts are good and some are bad, right? A Yes. 8lj 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 """" ,-, spend quite so much time, it would be better, is that kind of the way you feel? A Yeah. Q Okay. Well, I will think very carefully about that. But your daddy should see you. That's what the law says. And that's what we -- the judges think are good for kids, to see both mom and dad in their lifetime. On the other hand, we don't want to do anything that will hurt you, okay? A Yeah. Q But your daddy doesn't hit you or anything like that, does he? A No. Q And when he roller skates, he roller skates a little fast sometimes? A Yes. Q Okay. A Him and Danielle say bad words to each other. 0 Who are they? A They are my daddy's sister. Q They say bad words to each other? A They say words to each other. Q Swear words and stuff, bad language? A Yeah. 87 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 ~ ".... Q And that wouldn't make you happy I am sure? A No. Q Is there anythln9 else about visiting with dad that you are not fond of? A Well, daddy's sister doesn't like snow. Q Doesn't like what? A She doesn't like snow. Q Snow. And do you like snow? A Yeah. Q Well, once you start putting those keys in a car you won't like snow either. How is school going? A Good. But one time whenever I was going somewhere, that was the time when I was going to go to gym, and that was the time when I didn't even get to do nothing, because Brandt got me in trouble. Q You are in a new school now, right? A Yeah. He was talking and I wasn't and put his foot on me. You can't get me all the time. And Mr. Seibert thought it was me and Brandt. Me and Brandt was talking, but it wasn't. I wasn't talking at all. Q You got blamed for something you didn't do? A I didn't get to do anything, because I had to go. Q That's not good when it happens. A I had to stay up at the stage. 88 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 1.9 20 21 22 23 24 25 ,""", "........., Q Okay. M~ybe these lawyers have something they want to ask you about. Do they have any questions? MR. KAYEH: No. BY MR. RUSSO: Q Do you like staying at Michelle's? Is it okay? A Yeah. Sometimes. But then I don't get to play with my toys there. Q Are those my keys yours? A They are mine. They are daddy's. Q When you go stay with daddy, do you ever want to try and talk to mommy and say good night or anything like that? A Yeah. But I can't call. Q Why not? A Because one time I was allowed, but then the next day he said you are here. You don't need to say good night to mommy. You can say good night to me. Q Remember the last time we were here you told me that you were scared because you thought the judge had a gun under his robe, remember? Do you remember telling me that? A Yeah. Q Do you want to make sure and see if he has a gun anymore'? 89 GREGORY COX, Plaintiff IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY, I'ENNSYL VANIA vs. 97-6919 CIVIL CIVIL ACTION - LAW KIMBERLY BIRGENSMITH Dclendant IN CUSTODY AND NOW, this IN RE: MOTION FOR REcm'''1rlr:J1ATION P{E.h~.- P('dc:c. , (; z"t. oJ day of April, I' / A,j .. ,I c_ ORDER , in this case: is modified to the extent that the mother may, a\ her op hs, with sixty (60) days' notice to the father, defer one of the father's periods or w"",,,,.uv __tody to the following weekend in order to ac'~ommodate vacation plans. This may not be done, however, if the effect is to deny the father a period of partial custody on a holiday. The parties arc strongly encouraged to engage in counseling. The court, h()wever, questions the v\llue of counseling which is court-ordered and thus the request for same is DENIED. The court continues to be satistled that adopting a different schedule of partial custody for each of the sibling children is neither in their current best interests nor in that of the future. Accordingly, any further requests for modification are DENIED. BY THE COURT, :!St1l;1. f.. ,- / 1 would prefer YOlJr testimony. 1 ~ Okay. Basically what the bottom line here A 3 is I have made several recommendations. The one 4 recommendation was that the children -- the length of 5 children I s visits be looked at. Matthew is very opposed to 6 visiting at all. Kay1eigh is not at all opposed to 7 visiting, but she talks more in terms of visiting \>lith 8 grandmother and the cousins. And one of the things that 9 did come out in the two sessions that they really spend 10 very little time \>lith dad while they are there. And I had 11 recommended that because 0 f Ma t thevl' s t remen::iolJs res l.stance 12 and feelings and his unwillingness, and they are both at 13 different. places i.n their E'2elings, t.hat consideration be 14 given to perhaps having a one day, one night. visit with 15 father, really being the center of t.he visits with the 16 children. I Eeel that. they need that time with him. 17 I think it is wonderful that grandmother and 18 cousins are involved, but I am wondering what real time 19 they are spending with father. I have recoffi.-:"ended that. 20 And another recommendation that I made '.,as tr.at it is very 21 important for these children t.o resolve issues that 22 happened either at mother's house or at father's house in 23 the home where they happened. And one of the things that 24 came out was that there were some things that went on that 25 -- one incident particularly it was Kayleigh, that she 37 ." " .. 1 but he is also not there some of the time. His resistance 2 is he doesn't feel very comfortable at this time with dad. 3 Q r am somewhat confused on your 4 recommendation. r hear you saying on the one hand that it 5 is important to emphasize contact between father and 6 children, and yet your recommendation is to cut down his 7 time with the children, essentially in half? 8 A Well, yes, and r understand your point. But 9 what I was saying there, if you had had a chance to read 10 it, because of the extreme difference of oplnion here with 11 the children, Matthew saying I don"t want to go at all, and 12 Kayleigh saying I will go and I will play games with my 13 grandma and my cousins. 14 I am looking how can we best facilitate 15 things. I think that it is important for them to npend J.6 most of the time with dad. But r also know that Matthew 17 finds the couple days too long to be away from home, what 18 he considers home. And my feeling was that maybe a shorter 19 time to accommodate ~'atthew' s feelings but also more time 20 with dad when dad is there. No'", I can't speak to how much 21 time dad is spending because, you know, children are not a 22 hundred percent reliable in thei r reporting. But both of 23 them independently said Matthell said he doesn't know his 24 dad. That's not what he said. He knolls his dad but his 25 dad doesn't know him. And Kayleigh said that she doesn't 42 ~ r. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 spend much time with her dad, that a lot of the time he is gone. So my feeling was a shorter period of time with a lot more concentration with dad might accommodate everybody's best interests. Q Now, do you recall at the termination hearing previously you indicated at that time that Matthew craved contact with his father? A I think Matthew did Matthew wanted to know that his father cared about him. Q And at that time you also stressed that if there was going to be a relationship between father and children, that it should be something constant so that there wouldn't be, you know, a long period of interruption of contact. Do you recall that? A Absolutely. Q Is there anything that you have heard in your counseling of the children or the family to indicate that Mr. Cox has not regularly been visiting with the children? A Only that they are saying that when they go there he is not there. He apparently is not there a lot of the time. I don't know that, but they both complained that he is not around that much. Q Okay. New, you also indicated in your recommendations here that it is not good for issues from 43 \ 1 understand the reaSQn behind that. 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 THS COURT: He would have to know why -- he should know why it is being done and so forth. THS WITNSSS: And I don't think that that would hurt. I think it would give dad a chance to have some time with Kayleigh himself. And that's always nice too when we can spend individual time with the children. THS COURT: Thank you. Thank you veri much for making yourself available. And have a very good day. THS ~IITNSSS : Thank you. THS COURT: Bye-bye. THE: WITNE:SS: Bye-bye. THE: COURT: Okay. We can reconvene in the courtroom. (Whereupon, the following proceedi.ngs occurred in open court.) THS COURT: Mr. Kayer. MR. KAYER: We will call Greg Cox to the stand. Whereupon, GREGORY COX, having been duly sworn, testified as follows: DIRECT SXAMINATION BY MR. KAYER: Q Can you state your name for the record, please? 50 I 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 o , But I figure it is a fad, you know, if they want to lea~n it, they can lear.n it. But it is pretty much a game. Then come Saturday we do just about anything the kids want to do. You know, we play. Like I said, there is a big, I mean, it is a huge yard. But the kids play outside or whatever. Sometimes we sit in there and watch new movies and stuff. You know, but there is always at least two or three ~arents or adults there at the house. Q Where do the kids spend overnight? A They spend their. overnight. now at my sister's place since I was accused of molesting Kayleigh. I figure I don't want to be off at anytime where, you know, it was just one parent. Q Do they have adequate sleeping facilities there? A Yes. My slster'G kids, she has two children of her own, a boy and a girl. And the~e a~e just a couple years difference in the ages. So Kay1eigh sleeps with her daughter in her ~oom. And Matthew sleeps with her son in his room. Now, they each have their own separate cot type beds that they sleep on. Q Do you put the kids to bed at night? A Yes, I do. I kiss them good night each night. And r make su~e the~e is somebody in the room also wheneve~ I do that. 63 , '. " 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 Q Are you staying overnight at your sister's place? A That's the only thing I don't do, because there is not enough space for us. But I could sleep on the floor if I have to or on the couch. Q Are you there in the mqrning? A I am there in the morning when they get up in the mornings. I make sure that I show up on time. Q Okay. What type of medication de either of the kids have to take? A Matthew is on learning disorder medication. And, therefore, for a while she complained that I was not giving the children the medicine and stuff. So I made ~ure every time Matthew shows up I take the medicine out of his bag. I hand it to my mother, and she gives it to him in the morning and in the afternoon just like -- well, like Kim says it is supposed to be done. The doctor claims he is supposed to be given the medication three times a day. Kim only sends medication for two times a day. I give the children exactly what -- we give the children exactly what they are supposed to have. Q Has there ever been a,time where you did not comply with the mother's wishes about medication? A No. Medication is always given. Ev~n though I am not too sure about giving the medication, I 64 . '''l~. . 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 E A I believe so, yes. Q That was a request you asked through the father? You didn't want to see their church disrupted? A Right. Q And he accommodated that request, is that right? A He also had agreed to that prior to the conciliation because his family goes there. And r would think he would want his children to be of the same religion that his family is. Q So it is not your testimony t~at he has ever kept the kids from going to church, it is jus: you are not -- A ~e is late for church every ti~e. They miss their prayer. They miss their devotion. And they miss the story at the beginning. Q No.", regarding your chi ld!:en' S school ing, you indicated that your daughter has had some episodes at school this yea!: that you are concerned abou: regarding her behavior? A Yeah. Q You also expressed concerns atout her grades or her performance in school? A Yeah. Well, she is improving now. I am working more with her. 17 I.'" 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 r that counseling might be a good idea? A I would say separate counseling other than her. Because when I talked to the school counselor, they did not think too highly of her. They did not have a good rapport. Q If there were arrangements made to have some type of family counseling, using someone besides Ms. Aarhus, would you agree to that? A I have requested someone else other than Mrs. Aarhus and was told no. But I would definitely like counseling with someone else. Q Who told you no? A Kim told me that this is her place, and they were staying. This is her family doctor or whatever. 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Esquire hnd who docs respond to Detcndant's Motion for Reconsideration as tl)lIows I, Dclcndant in her Motion Illl' Reconsideration addresses three (]) specitic issues that sbe wishes to raise once again before this Honorable Court. 2, The lirst issue pertains to the Court's tailure to address the issue of counseling, 3, Plaintitrin his testimony and in his Pre-Trial Statement indicated to the cour! that hl: would be willing to participate in counseling designed to promote communication and cooperation between the parents, This position certainly was not meant to be an endorsement of the concept of counscling, The Plaintitl' believes tlmt the court aileI' hearing each party's testimony pertaining to counseling. caretttlly considered the potential benelits lIf sllch cOllnseling and determined that such cOllnseling was inappropriate, 4, The second issue addressed in Detcndanl's Motion for Reconsideration pertains to the Defendant's r'l:quest for an uninterrupted vacation time equal to the period of time provided to the Plaintitf The Plaintill' presumes that the court addressed the merits of that issue in its decision to endorse the prior Custody Order. Plaintitl'believes that given the tilCt that the mother enjoys signilicant primary physical custody rights with the children, that the need till' a "block" of vacation time is unnecessary, 5, The linal issue addressed in the Detcndant's Motion Illr Reconsideration pertains to the ,/ n~.,., 171f.() .,. f' I~..' ..(.1.:.,..1.... . ", ') :'/ l:~'l'f , "1~ 99/."".,.. .-/>I/i')! , "I I ~ ~J ,. !. I C(t.'. '1'1 rl/: ,':i " //, " '" 1/' . ",/71. fi' II -,' v. ("' .,., " 1.1) '" I .-: ,1 , . ,','\} I, 'J ,. r.' .:\? I ..) 'II I i :': I,:{ I , , Ih ~..- I " .. l:~ ii, ~ I ,,) ~ . , .[.:.. Docket or File No. 97-6919 Civil Term COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY GREGORY COX, Plaintiff KIMBERLY BIRGENSMITH, Defendant ~QTlCE OF APPEAl" Notice is hereby given that Kimberly Birgensmlth, Defendant above named, hereby appeals to the Superior Court of Pennsylvania from the order entered in this matter on the 22 day of February, 1999, This order has been entered In the docket as evidenced by the attached copy of the docket entry. Defendant respectfully requests this appeal be stayed until such time as the Court of Common Pleas of Cumberland County determines the outcome of a pending Motion for Reconsideration in this matter. ~!:r;d Peter J. Russo 61 West Louther Street Carlisle, PA 17013 (717) 249-2721 -- Date: March 23, 1999 PYS510 1997-06919 Cumberland County prothonotary's Office Civil Case Inquiry COX GREGORY (vs) BIRGENSMITH KIMBERLY Page 1 ~ Reference No..: Case Type.....: PETITION - CUSTODY JUdSmeflt '1" .. : .00 Jud e Ass gned: HESS KEVIN A Dis osed Desc.: ------------ Case Comments ------------- F i 1 ad. . . . . . . . : Time......... : Execution Date Jury Trial.... Disposed Date. Higher Crt 1.: Higher Crt 2.: 12/16/1997 2:39 0/00/0000 0/00/0000 .**..**.*.**....**.....~**............*.**...*..*............**...........*..... General Index Attorney Info PETITIONER KAYER JAMES J I i I " COX GREGORY 441 NORTH COLLEGE STREET CARLISLE PA 17013 BIRGENSMITH KIMBERLY 416 BLOSERVILLE ROAD NEWVILLE PA 17241 RESPONDANT RUSSO PETER J r." .....**......................................................................... . Date Entries · .............................................................**..........**n.... 12/16/l.997 12/18/1997 1/28/1998 1/28/1998 4/13/1998 6/08/1998 10/02/1998 10/14/1998 12/11/1998 2/23/1999 3/05/1999 3/12/1999 - - - - - - - - - - - - - FIRST ENTRY - - - - - - - - - - - - - - PETITION FOR CUSTODY ------------------------------------------------------------------- ORDER OF COURT - DATED 12/17/97 - IN RE PETITION FOR CUSTODY - PREHEARING CUSTODY CONFERENCE 2/5/98 10:30 AM 4TH FLOOR CONFERENCE ROOM CUMBERLAND COUNTY COURTHOUSE - BY HUBERT X GILROY ESO CUSTODY CONCILIATOR - NOTICE AND COPIES MAILED 12/18/97 ------------------------------------------------------------------- PRAECIPE FOR WITHDRAWAL OF APPEARANCE FOR DEFENDANT BY MICHAEL A SCHERER ESO --------------------------------..----.------------------------------ PRAECIPE FOR ENTRY OF APPEARANCE FOR DEFENDANT BY PETER J RUSSO ESO ------------------------------------------------------------------- CONCILIATOR CONFERENCE SUMMARY REPORT AND ORDER - DATED 4/9/98 - HEARING 6/3/98 9:30 AM CR 4 - BY KEVIN A HESS J - COPIES MAILED 4/13/98 -..----------------------------------------------------------------- ORDER - DATED 6/5/98 - BY KEVIN A HESS J - COPIES MAILED 6/8/98 -----.-------------------------------------------------------------- PETITION FOR EMERGENCY RELIEF -----------------------------------------------.-------------------- ORDER OF COURT - DATED 10/12/98 - IN RE PETITION FOR EMERGENCY RELIEF - PREHEARING CUSTODY CONFERENCE 12/3/98 10:30 AM 4TH FLOOR JURY DELIBERATION ROOM CUMBERLAND COUNTY COURTHOUSE - BY HUBER X GILROY ESO CUSTODY CONCILIATOR - NOTICE AND COPIES MAILED 10/14/98 --------------------.----------------------------------------------- CONCILIATOR CONFERENCE SUMMARY REPORT AND ORDER - DATED 12/11/98 - HEARING 2/18/99 9:30 AM CR 4 - BY KEVIN A HESS J - COPIES MAILED 12/14198 -------------~._---------------------------------------------------- ORDER - DATED 2/22/99 - IN RE MOTION FOR MODIFICATION - BY KEVIN A HESS J - NOTICE MAILED 2/23/99 ------------------------------------------------------------------- MOTION FOR RECONSIDERATION ----------------------------------------------------------------~-- RULE TO SHOW CAUSE - DATED 3/12/99 .. IN RE MOTION FOR RECONSIDERATION - RULE IS ISSUED UPON RESPONDENT RETURNABLE WITHIN 20 DAYS OF THIS DATE - HEARING 4/22/99 1:30 PM CR 4 - BY KEVIN A HESS J - NOTICE MAILED 3/15/99 - - - - - - - - - - - - - - LAST ENTRY - - - - - - - - - - - - - - w......................................................~.**....................* . Escrow InformatIon · . Fees & Debits Bea Ba1 Pvmts/Ad1 End Da1 · ..............*..........*......4........~*.....,.........................*..... PETITION TAX ON PETITION SET'l'LEMENT JCP t'EE CUSTODY FEE 35.08 .5 5.00 !l. 00 4.00 35.00 5:68 5.00 4.00 :88 .08 .0 .00 . \ ~PR 081998 GREGORY COX, Plaintift' V :IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF ,CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA . . ,CIVIL ACTION - LAW . . KIMBERLY BIRGENSMITH, Defendant :NO: 6919 : IN CUSTODY CIVIL 1997 COUR'l' ORDER AND NOW, this (I'l/f day of April, 1998, upon consideration of tho attached Custody Conciliation Report, it is ordered and directed as follows: 1. A hearing is scheduled .in Court Room No. 4 of the Cumberland County Courthouse on the , ~I..;u'( day of ()" It (_~ , 1998, at Ii ".;(, f\, m. at which time testimony wi.l'1 be takenln this case. At this hearing the Father, Gregory Cox, shall be the moving party and shall proceed initially with testimony. Counsel for the parties shall file with the Court a memorandum setting forth the history of custody in this case, the issues currently before tho Court, a list of witnesses who will be called to testify for each party and a summary of the anticipated testimony of each witness. This memorandum shall be filed at least ten days prior to the hearing date with a copy of the memorandum to be afforded to opposing counsel. 2. Pending further Order of this Court, the following temporary Custody Order is entered: A. The Mother, Kimberly Birgensmith, shall enjoy legal and physical custody of Matthew Cox, born August 7, 1990; and Kayleigh Cox, born January 26, 1992. B. The Father, Gregory Cox, shall enjoy periods of temporary physical custody as follows: 1. On Saturday, April 11, for a period of one hour to be exercised at the Mother's home. 2. On the following two Saturdays, for a period of three hours when the Father may take the children from the Mother's home and enjoy unsupervised visitation with the two minor children. 3. For the following Saturdays, up until the date of the above mentioned hearing, for a period of six hours each Saturday when the Father may take the children from the Mother's home and enjoy unsupervised visitation. -ai' ". KIMBERLY BIRGENSMITH, Defendant I IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF ICUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA I :CIVIL ACTION - LAW I INO: 6919 CIVIL 1997 I IN CUSTODY GREGORY COX, Plaintiff V Prior Judge: Kevin A. Hess CONCILIATION cONFERENClIl SUMMARY RmPORT IN ACCORDANCE WITH THE CUMBERLAND COUNTY CIVIL RULE OF PROCEDURE 1915.3-8(b), the undersigned Custody Conciliator submits the following report: 1. The pertinent information pertaining to the children who are the subject of this litigation is as fol,lows: Matthew Cox, born August 7, 1990; and Kayleigh Cox, born January 26, 1992. 2. A Conciliation ctlnference was he.ld on April 2, 1998. Present were the Father, Gregory Cox, with his counsel, James J. Kayer; and the Mother, Kimberly Birgensmi th, wi th her counsel, Peter J. Russo, Esquire. 3. The Court had previously held a hearing in this case on a Petition by the Mother's new husband for adoption in which it was al.Zeged that the Father had forfei ted his parental rights. Judge Hess issued an Order denying the termination of the Father. Tho case was then scheduled for a Custody Conciliation. 4. The Father has had limited contact with the minor ohildren over the past two years. The Mother has a number of concerns with respect to allowing Father custody. Mother suggests the Father's custody should be in the amount of 30 minutes one day every two weeks and for this to extend for a number of months. Father is willing to work on a graduated custody schedule but feels that there must be some type of more meaningful custody arrangement entered into in order to allow him to reconnect with his children. 5. The parties are unable to agree upon an Order in this case and a tJesring is required. A hearing should take no more than one day. The Conciliator recommends an interim custody arrangement as set for in the attached proposed Order. ~1Jl qf_ DA E 4~roY, ...',,, custo)Y onciliator From July 1993 ulllil the present, with Mother, Kimberly Birgensmith, Step-Futher, Mark Birgensmith, Step-sister, Shawnee Birgensmith and Step-sister, Khole Birgensmith lit 416 Bloserville ROUlI, Newville, PA, 17241. 4. The mother of the children is Kimberly Birgensmith, currently residing lit 416 Bloserville Road, Newville, PA 17241. She is marricd, 5. TIIC father of thc childrcn is Grcgory Cox, currently residing at 441 North College Strcct, Carlisle, Pcnnsylvania 17011. He is singlc. 6. The rdationship of Plaintiff to the children is that of fathcr, The Plaintiff currcntly resides with thc following person(s): Name Relationship Paternal Grandfathcr Ronald Cox Kay Cox Paternal Grandmother 7, The relationship of the defendant to the children is that of mother. TIle Defendant currently resides with childrcn and the following person(s): Name Mark Birgcnsmirh Shawnce Birgensmith Khloe Birgensmith Relationship Husband Step-Daughter Step-Daughter 8. Plaintiff has not participated as a party or witl1l~ss, or in another ~apacity, in other litigation conceming the custody of the children in this or another court. Plaintiff has no information of a custody proceeding concerning the children pending in a court of this Commonwealth, Plaintiff does not know of a person not a party to thc proceedings who has physical custody of the children or claims to have custody or visitation rights with rcspect to the children, Plaintiff is aware of a Petition filed by the v. IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA NO. 97-6919 CIVIL TERM CIVIL ACTION. LAW CUSTODY JUDGE KEVIN A. HESS GREGORY COX Plaintiff KIM BIRGENSMITH Dofendant AND NOW, this \.(} day af QC\Obe I" , 1998, upan canslderatlan af the attached Camplalnt, it Is hereby directed that the parties and their respective caunsel appear befare l\.JIcr\\ ^, (:)\ \ (0--..\ 1 t-=_sC\ . , the Can~lIIatar, at\\-c: l.\~\'\"f'\(J'\\rI' \\"S",trh'rW Cn (n d\'lv"c an the ~ _dayaf ~(ef'{\'o(' I" ,1998,at \()',~c) Q..,m, far a Pre-Hearing Custady Canference. At such Canference, an effart will be made to. resalve the issues in dispute; ar if this cannat be accampllshed, to. define and narraw the issues to. be heard by the Caurt, and to. enter Into. a Temparary Order. All children age five ar alder may at the request af either attorney ar party, be present at the canference, Failure to. appear at the Canference may pravlde graunds far the entry af a temparary ar permanent Order. FOR THE COURT, By:.JI.uQJul. X:,~lbJ. ' Custady Cancllia~~ The Caurt af Com man Pleas af Cumberland Caunty is required by law to. cemply with the Americans with Disabilities Act af 1990. Far infarmatian abaut accessible facilities and reasanable accammadations available to. disabled individuals having business befare the caurt. please centact aur affice, All arrangements must be made at least 72 heurs prior to. any hearing or business befare the court. Yau must attend the scheduled conference or hearing, YOU SHOULD TAKE THIS PAPER TO YOUR LAWYER AT OtICE. IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A LAWYER OR CANNOT AFFORD ONE, GO TO OR TELEPHONE THE OFFICE SET FORTH BELOW TO FIND OUT WHERE YOU CAN GET LEGAL HELP. Cumberland County Lawyers Referral Service Cumberland Caunty Bar Associatian 2 Liberty Avenue Carlisle, PA 17013 (717) 249-3166 / a, On two occasions, after being asked not to allow the minor children to be around dogs, Kaylelgh Cox was Injured twice by dogs while In the custody and care of the Plaintiff, b, After being repeatedly asked, Plaintiff has Insisted on smoking while in the presence of his children, This smoking has led to the development of Kaylelgh's bronchitis. Even after being presented with a letter from Kaylelgh's doctor requesting that Plaintiff not smoke in the presence of the children, Plaintiff responded by saying that he would do whatever he wanted, c, Plaintiff has instructed the minor children to punch each other and others if they do something the child does not like. d, Plaintiff has contacted the school administration where the minor children are in school and advised them that Defendant was psychologically unstable, He further advised the school's personnel that he would be picking the children up from school, This is in direct conflict with the terms of the existing Order of Court, e, Plaintiff has made it difficult for the parties to communicate, This escalated in a confrontation in front of Defendant's church where Plaintiff threatened to kill Defendant's husband and physically grabbed Matthew by the arm and pulled Matthew. f, Plaintiff has been repeatedly late in picking up his children for his visitation as well as dropping them off at the conclusion of his visits, g, Plaintiff has chronically directed Insulting comments about the Defendant an,d her husband to the minor children. For example, Plaintiff has told his minor children that their mother was a witch, bitch and drunk, h. Plaintiff transports the children In a pickup truck. At times, Plaintiff Insists on transporting the children by buckling the two children In the only seat belt, I, Plaintiff falls to supervise the children during his visits. 7, Defendant views these acts as real and Imminent threat to the children's mental well- being and possibly the children's physical well-being. 8, The parties have not been able to further discuss their position with each other and the Court's intervention is required. 9, Counsel for Defendant has advised Counsel for Plaintiff, James Kayer of the herein petition via telephone and telecopler. 10, Attorney Kayer's concurrence was sought and was not obtained. 11, Accordingly, the best interest and permanent welfare of the minor children will be served by preventing the ongoing and unfettered abuse provided by the Plaintiff pending further hearing on this matter. GREGORY cox PI.lntl" v. IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA NO. 97-6919 CIVIL TERM " KIM BIRGENSMITH D.,.,d.nt CIVIL ACTION - LAW CUSTODY r.- ORDER AND NOW, this 5t:J. day of June, 1998, upon the Agreement of the parties, IT IS HEREBY ORDERED AND DECREED THAT: 1 . Kim Blrgensmlth and Gregory Cox shall have shared legal custody of Matthew L. Cox, bOrrl August 7, 1990 and Kayleigh B. Cox, bom January 26, 1992. 2. KIm Blrgensmith shall have primary physical custody of Matthew L, Cox. bom August 7, 1990 and Kayleigh B. Cox, bom January 26, 1992. 3. Gregory Cox shall be entItled to periods of physical custody, for purposes of visitation, which at a minimum shall include:' a. Friday, June 5, 1998 beginning at 6:00 p.m. until Saturday, June 6, 199B at 6:00 p.m.; b. Saturday, June 20, 199B beginning at 6:00 p.m. until Sunday, June 21, 1998 at 6:00 p.m.; c. Beginning Friday, July 24, 1998, Gregory Cox shall be entitled to altematlng weekends beginning on Fridays at 6:00 p.m. until Sundays at 6:00 p.m.; (1) As a part of the visits referenced in this section, Gregory Cox agrees to take the Children to Sunday services at the Newville Church of the Brethren and pick the Children up I I. f' I I after the services. d. Gregory Cox shall have a four (4) hour period on any day agreed during the weel{ of each child's birthday; and 4. In addition to the preceding visitation schedule, the parties have agreed to provide visitation during holidays as provided herein: a. The parties shall alternate Memorial Day, the Fourth of July and Labor Day. In 1998, Kim Birgensmlth shall have Memorial Day and Labor Day. In 1999, Gregory Cox shall have Memorial Day and Labor Day. The parties will alternate this schedule each year. These visits shall be from 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. (1) In the event any of Gregory Cox's holidays, as set forth In the preceding paragraph, should fall on a Monday which immediately follows his regularly scheduled weekend visit, that weekend's visit shall extend from Friday at 6:00 p.m. until Monday at 7:00 p.m. 5. TIle remaining holidays'shall be apporttoned as provided herein: a. Thanksgiving shall be broken into two segments. Kim Blrgensmith shall have custody of the Children on Thanksgiving Day until 1:00 p.m. Father will have custody of the Children on Thanksgiving Day from 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. b. Christmas shall be broken Into two segments. Kim Blrgensmlttl shall have custody of the Children on Christmas Day until 1 :00 p.m. Father will have custody of the Children on Christmas Day from 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. c. Irrespective to the foregoing, Father's Day shall be with Father, and Mother's Day shall be with Mother, and this visitation shall be from 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. or as otherwise agreed upon by the parties due to their work schedules. 6. The holiday schedlJle shall take precedence over all other regularly scheduled visitation. 7. In 1998, Gregory Cox shall be entitled to the following vacation schedule: a. Gregory Cox shall be entitled to visitation beginning on July 5, 1998 through July 11, 1998. b. Kim Birgensmith shall deliver the children each day during said period to Gregory Cox after he completes work. c. The children shall remain with Gregory Cox until the following morning when Kim Blrgensmlth shall pick the kids up. d. This procedure will continue until July 11, 1998. 8. In 1999, Gregory Cox shall be entitled to two non-consecutlve weeks 01 uninterrupted visits during the children's summer vacation. 9. Beginning In 2000 and each year thereafter, Gregory Cox shall be entitled to three non-consecuttve weeks of uninterrupted visits during the children's summer vacation. >- ',~'- LT~ , ~, . 1IIf;:. ()" , R"~ J:-'\ " , '1+ ! 6)' '" .'1.'..' I " ,-.i efl ~ U c.:' Ill- f' c.. ..f'~ L1.: (;:J ::) '" C~ () B. Mother's counsel is nllorded the opportunity to obtain written verification Irom the minor children's treating physiciWl relative to the requirement that the chlldrcn take Ritnlin while they are in the Custody of the Father. Upon receipt of that inl()mllltlon, counsel for the parties can huve u telephone cI)I1fcrence with the Conciliator In nn attempt to resolve the Issue of whether the childrcn must be rcquired to take Ritalin while they ure in the custody of the Father, BY THE COURT, .~./I~ J. cc: Peter J. Russo. Esquire 'I 'I S' - t'..J-"",,-,~rl-...,J2<J.. I':>' 4+ '1 . James Kayer, Esquire -0- 1 J,."6' , :,,', "1J1JeN;~I:U~~) , Itd 1915111l10 . 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" , , , .1>'.1, I. ~ II ISSUES PRESENTED Of those complaints specified in the mother's petition in Paragraph 5 (a) through (i), the parties agree that Subparagraph 5 (d) pertaining to the lather's contact with the school is no longer an issue or concern for the mother, The father has identilied certain issues regarding the methods that the mother utilizes lor punishing the children, derogatory comments made about the lillher and his household by the mother and step lather in the presence of the children, a continuing disruption in communication between father and children and a general disruption of the regularly scheduled visits that father is to have with the children, as well as a nearly complete break down in communication between the households. It is the father's perception that the mother has resented his assertion of his rights as the father of the children and has embarked on a campaign of intimidation and non-communication in order to attempt to so frustrate the father that he will voluntarily relinquish his custody rights, III. WI1'NESSES A, Gregory Cox, the father will testifY as to his desires for continuing contact with the children and his experiences in spending time with the children since the institution of the court's April9il1 and June 6il1 Orders. He will also testify regarding the difficulties he continues to encounter with the mother with regard to his time with the children, B, Kay Cox, the Plaintifr and the paternal grandmother, Mrs. Cox, will testifY as to her observations of contact between father and children as well as difficulties th&t she has observed with regard to the mother's intentional sabotage of the custodial arrangements. 4, On or about February 24, 1999, Defendant received the Honorable Kevin A. Hess' Order of Court, A true and correct copy of said Order of Court has been attached hereto as Exhibit B, 5, During the February 18, 1999, hearing both parties agreed that family counseling would be appropriata and each party consented to engage In such counseling if so ordered, 6. Honorable Kevin A. Hess' Order of Court dated February 22, 1999, does not address the Issue of counseling, 7, The Plaintiff requested a period of uninterrupted vacation time equal to the period of time provided to Plaintiff. 8, Honorable Kevin A. Hess' Order of Court dated February 22, 1999, does not address this issue, 9, The Plaintiff admitted that he does not spend Saturday evenings with his children and Defendant respectfuliy advances the suggestion that all parties would be benefit from the following amendment to the present Order of Court: a, Plaintiff shall return the children to Defendant on Saturday evening at 7:00 p,m, Plaintiff shall return the children to Defendant after church service on Sunday. Defendant shali then have custody on Sunday until 5:00 p,m, 11, This will avoid late arrival at church sorviUls and any future confrontations at church, 12, In light of the foliewlng, Defendant respectfuliy requests that this Honorable Court reconsider its Order of Court dated February 22,1999. 13, Defendant has sought the concurrence of opposing counsel and opposing counsel's concurrence was not obtained tJltEt:iOR Y COX, Plt1lnliff , . IN THE COUln OF (llf',IMt)1'\ PLEAS OF CUMBERI.AND COUNTY, PENNSYL V,\NII\ v~. Q7.6919 CIVIL CIVIL ACTION. LA W KIMDERL Y l3IRGENSMITH \)efenulInt IN CIJSTODY IN RE: MOTION F<)R M()D!FIC A TI<,lli ORDER AND NOW. this Z1-::!. day IlfF~brllary, 1999, the eXislillg ,:llstody .)rd~r In thi$ ~ll$e is llIodit1ed to prL1vido.l that: I. The parcnt who has cu~tod'i Ilf thc dllk\ro.)lI sldl permit rca"inable telephol\e contact by the children with the parent then \Jut of custml,: lllld ,!. Wnen Clu'isnnas falls on l\ weekend wllidl would otherwise bc scheduled for the fathcr's custody, the mother shall havc cU$tody of the children commencing at 6:00 p,m, on Chl'i5trlltlS El'e whcn Christmas falls on II Saturday and at ~:\lO a,l11. on Christrmls D..y when ChmllllC\' fall:, on a Sunday, In all other respects the r\efcndant's motion for modifkation 15 DE~IED, BY TllE COURT, JUlltes Kayer. [squue For the PlaintitT t. 1.1~ Pelcr Russo, Esquire F or the Defend'Ult ,rIm (1) As a part of the visits referenced In this section, Gregory Cox agrees to take the Children to Sunday services at the Newville Church of the Brethren and pick the Children up after the services. d. Gregory Cox shall have a four (4) hour period on any day agreed during the week of each child's birthday; and 4. In addition to the preceding visitation schedule, the parties have agreed to provide visitation during holidays as provided herein: a. The parties shall alternate Memorial Day, the Fourth of July and Labor Day. In 1998, Kim Blrgensmith shall have Memorial Day and Labor Day. In 1999, Gregory Cox shall have Memorial Day and Labor Day. The parties will alternate this schedule each year, These visits shall be from 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. (1) In the event any of Gregory Cox's holidays. as set forth in the preceding paragraph, should fall on a Monday which immediately follows his regUlarly scheduled weekend visit, that weekend's visit shall extend from Friday at 6:00 p.m. until Monday at 7:00 p.m. 5. The remaining holidays shall be apportioned as provided herein: a. Thanksgiving shall be broken Into two segments. KIm Blrgensmith shall have custody of the Children on Thanksgiving Day until 1 :00 p.m. Fathor will have custody of the Children on Thanksgiving Day from 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. b. Christmas shall be broken Into two segments. Kim Blrgensmlth shall have custody of the Children on Christmas Day until 1 :00 p.m. Father will have custody of the Children on Christmas Day from 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. c. Irrespective to the foregoing, Father's Day shall be with Father, and Mothers Day shall be with Mother, and this visitation shall be from 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. or as otherwise agreed upon by the parties due to their work schedules. 6. The holiday schedule shall take precedence over all other regularly scheduled visitation. 7. In 1998, Gregory Cox shall be entitled to the following vacation schedule: a. Gregory Cox shall be entitled to visitation beginning on July 5, 1998 through July 11, 1998. b. Kim Blrgensmith shall deliver the children each day during said period to Gregory Cox after he completes work. c. The children shall remain with Gregory Cox until the following morning when Kim Birgensmith shall pick the kids up, d. This procedure will continue until July 11, 1998. 8. In 1999, Gregory Cox shall be entitled to two non-consecutive weeks of uninterrupted visits during the children's summer vacation. 9. Beginning in 2000 and each year thereafter, Gregory Cox shall be entitled to three non-consecutive weeks of uninterrupted visits during the children's summer vacation. ~_ ,.... t." . ~ IN THE: SUPERIOR COURT OF PENNSYLVANIA GREGORY COX, Appellant . , , v. DOCKET NO: 00635MDA99 :it en - lLR l'l KIMBERLY BIRGENSMITH, Appellee PRAECIPE TO WITHDRAW APPEAL TO THE PROTHONOTARY: Appellee, Kimberly Blrgensmlth, respectfully requests the above-captioned appeal be withdrawn. Date: May 24, 1999 ~m'2', "'j - -c: Pe . usso 61 West Louther Street Carlisle, PA 17013 (717) 249-2721 I. el , (" I ,. ", 1,1. '. C;! .r, " ' . (, , , 1,- I i ,- t, " , I., , ....,., ~J · dl<.~rofJ.Y iJtrJ Plaintiff : IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY, : PENNSYLVANIA v. · KIM blLr(~ryJdhDcfcndant : CIVIL ACTION LAW :No&9/c.; CIVIL 1971 : CUSTODY VISZTATION I j ORDER OF COURT And now, thi!t~fL( fJr. I{), ~~~ttonsid~rntion of the attached complaint, it is hereby directed that t~e above pa~~es and their resp'ect~ ,counse fPpear before ( Esqullc, the conCIliator, at ,II/-' {) . ' Pennsylvania, on the day of - , 1999, at /()Jt\ 0'MJP.M., for a Pre-hearing Custody Conference, 1\ such conference, an effort will be made to resolve the issues in dispute; or if thiS cannot be accomplished, to define and narrow the issues to be heard by the court, and to enter into a temporary order, All children age five or older may be present at the conference, Failure to appear at the conference may provide grounds for the entry of a temporary or pennanent order. FOR THE COURT: By: YOU SHOULD TAKE THIS PAPER TO YOUR LA WYER AT ONCE, IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A LAWYER OR CANNOT AFFORD ONE, GO TO OR TELEPHONE THE OFFICE SET FORTH BELOW TO FIND OUT WHERE YOU CAN GET LEGAL HELP. THE CUMBERLAND COUNTY BAR ASSOCIATION 2 LIBERTY AVENUE CARLISLE, PA 17013 (717) 249-3166 1-800-990-9108 I;" PETER J, RUSSO, ESQUIRE PA Supreme Court ID: 7289'7 61 West Louther Street Carlisle, PA 17013 (717) 249-2721 GREGORY COX Plaintiff Attorney for Defendant IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS CUMBERLAND COUN1'Y, PENNSYLVANIA NO. 97-6919 CIVIL TERM CIVIL ACTION - LAW CUSTODY . KEVIN A. HESS, JUDGE v. KIM BIRGENSMITH Defendant PETITION FOR CONTEMPT AND NOW, comes the Defendant, KIM BIRGENSMITH, by and through her attorney, Peter ~, Russo, Esquire, and respectfully submits the fOllowing in support of Defendant's Petition for Contempt:: 1, The Plaintiff is GREGORY COX, residing at 441 College Street, Carlsle, Pennsylvania 17013. 2, The Defendant is KIM BIRGENSMITH, residing at 416 Bloservllle Road, Newville, Pennsylvania 17241, 3. The parties are the parents of the following children: Name Matthew Cox Kayliegh Cox Present Residence QQB 4. Matthew Cox and Kayliegh Cox were not born out of wedlock. 5, While unable to Initially reconcile the partlos' Issues at a custody conciliation conference, a hearing was scheduled before the Honorable Kevin A. Hess, 6, Prior to the hearing, the parties negotiated an agreement. An Order of Court dated June 5, 1998, was drafted from the terms of the parties' agreement. A true and corre?t copy said Order of Court Is attached hereto as Exhibit A. '7. Defendant filed a petition to modify the parties' custody June 5,1998 order. 8, A custody hearing was held before the Honorable Kevin A. Hess on February 18, 1999, 9. An Order of Court was entered on February 22, 1999, by the Honorable Kevin A. Hess, A true and correct copy said Order of Court is attached hereto as Exhibit B, 10. Defendant filed a Motion for Reconsideration and said motion was heard by the Honorable Kevin A. Hess, 11. On or about April 22, 1999, the Honorable Kevin A, Hess entered on Order of Court in response to Defendant's Motion for Reconsideration, A true and correct copy of said Order of Court is attached hereto as Exhibit C, 12,In relevant part, the attached Orders of Court require the division of custody as follows: 13, Plaintiff has custody of the subject minor children on alternating weekends from Fridays at 6:00 p,m, until Sundays at 6:00 p,m,; 14, Plaintiff shall bring the subject minor children to church in time for services; 15, Plaintiff shall have July 4111 In 1998 from 1 :00 p,m. until 7:00 p,m,; 16. Plaintiff shall have four hours during the subject minor children's birthday; 17, Defend.lIlt shall have Mother's Day from 1 :00 p.m, until 7:00 p.m, 18, Plaintiff has violated the subject Orders of Court on the following days, in the following manners: Date Vlol@fum. Time at Issue 05/16/1999 Late for Church Services 15 minutes 03/07/1999 Late for Church Services 5 minutes 02/21/1999 Late for Church Services 5 minutes 02/07/1999 Late for Church Services 15 minutes 01/24/1999 Late for Church Services 10 minutes .," 01/10/1999 Late for Church Services 17 minutes 01/10/1999 Late Returnin!l Children 23 minutes 01/08/1999 Picked Children UP Late 10 minutes 01/01/1999 Kavlieah's Birthdav - Never Used Allotted Time 240 minutes 12/2'111 998 Late for Church Services 10 minutes 12/13/1998 Late for Church Services 10 minutes 11/01/1998 Late for Church Services 8 minutes 10/04/1998 Late Returning Children 17 minutes 09/20/1998 Late for Church Services 20 minutes 08/09/1998 Late Returning Children 90 minutes 08/01/1998 Matthew's Birthday - Never Used Allotted Time 240 minutes 07/26/1998 Late for Church Services 15 minutes 07/26/1998 Late Ret~rning Children 20 minutes 07/04/1998 4"' of Julv - Never Used Allotted Time 360 minutes OS/24/1998 Picked Children up l.ate ~Inutes 1. minutes 19, Of special note, Plaintiff failed to return the subject minor children fOf Mother's Dayan (1) As a p3rt of the visits rEJterenced in this sedon, Gregory Cox agrees to taJ<e the Children to Sunday s81'Vices at the Newville Churc:h of the 8rettlren and pld< the Children up after the services. d. Gregory Cox shall have a four (4) hour period on any day agreed dunng the wecaI< at each child's birthday; and 4. In addition to the preceding visitation schedule, the parties have agreed to provide VISitation dunng holidays as provided herein: a. The parties shall alternate Memonal Day, the Fourth at July and Labor Day. In 199B, Kim Blrgensmlth shall have Memonal Day and Labor Day. In 1999, Gregory Cox shall have Mamonal Day and Labor Day. The parties WIll alternate this schedule each year. These VISitS shall be from 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. (1) In the event any of Gregory CoX's holidays. as set forth in the preceding paragraph. should tall on a Monday which immediately follows his regularly scheduled weekend ViSit, that weekend's visit shall extend from Friday at 6:00 p.m. until Monday at 7:00 p.m. 5. The remwnirlg holidays shall be apportioned as provided herein: a. Thanksgiving shall be broken into two segments. KIm Blrgensmith shall have custody of the Children on Thanksgiving Dcy until 1:00 p,m. Father will have ClJStcdy of the Children on Thanksgiving Day from 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. b. Chnstmas shall bit brokan into two sagm~. Kim 81rgonsmrth shall have custody of the Children on Christmas Day IJl1tjI 1 :00 p.m. FattIer will have CU3tCdy at the Chtldren on Christmas Day 1rcm 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p,m. c. Irrespoctlve tu the foregoing, Fathers Day shall be wrth Fattter, and Mothers Day shall be with Mother, and this visitation shall be fTcm 1 :00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. or as otherwi!e agreed upon by the partios due to thetr work schedules. 6. The holiday schedule shall take precedence over all ottler regularly scheduled vIsitation. 7, In 1998, Gregory Cox shall be entitled to the follOWing vacation sch9dule: a. Gregory Cox shall be entrtled to visitation beginning on July 5. 1998 through July 11, 1998. b. Kim 8irgensmlth shall deliver the children each day during said panod to Gregory Cox atter he completes work. c. The children shall remain with Gregory Cox until the following morning when f(jm Birgen:smith shall pic!< the kids up. d. This procedure will continue until July 11, 1998. @ In 1999, Gregory Cox shall be entitled to two non-<:onsecutlve weeks of uninterrupted visits during the children's summer vacatlon. (f) Beginning in 2000 and each year thereafter, Gregory Cox shall bel entitled to three non-<:onsea.rtlve weeks at lJl11nt8mJpted visits dUling the children's summ.. vacatlon. " .. PYS510 1997-06919 Cumberland County Prothonotary's Office Civil Case Inquiry COX GRf.GORY (vs) BIRGENSMITH K~MBERLY Page 1 Reference 1'/0,.: Csse Type....,: PETITION - CUSTODY Judgment.l....: ,00 Judge Ass gned: HESS KEVIN A Disposed Desc. : ------------ Case Comments ------------- Fl1ad........ : Time...,..... : Execution Date Jury 'rrial. . . . Disposed Date. Higher Crt 1.: Higher Crt 2.: 12"/16/1997 2:39 0/00/0000 0/00/00(11) .**.......**.........*..**........................................~'.........*.*. General Index Attorney Info COX GREGORY PETITIONER KAYER JAMES J 441 NORTH COLLEGE STREET CARLISI.!;; PA 17013 BIRGENSMITH KIMBERLY RESPONDANT RUSSO PETER J 416 BLOSERVILLE ROAD NEWVILLE PA 17241 .............................*.....*.*.*...**....~.............................. * Date Entries * ....................*.....**.....***.***.***....**........t....**............... 12/16/1997 12/18/1997 1/28/1998 1/28/1998 4/13/1998 6/08/1998 10/02/1998 10/14/1998 12/11/1998 2/23/1999 3/05/1999 3/12/ 1999 - - - - - - - - - - - - - FIRST ENTRY - - - - - - - - - - - - - - PETITION F'OR CUS'rODY ---------------------.---------------------------------------------- O~DER OF COURT - DATED 12/17/97 - IN RE PETITION FOR CUSTODY - PREHEARING CUSTODY CONFERENCE 2/5/98 10:30 AM 4TH FLOOR CONFERENCE ROOM CUMBERLAND COUNTY COURTHOUSE - BY HUBERT X GILROY ESO CUSTODY CONCILIATOR - NOTICE AND COPIES MAILED 12/18/97 ---------------------------------.--------------------------------_.~ PRAECIPE FOR WITHDRAWAl, OF APPEARANCE FOR DE~"ENDANT BY MICHAEL A SCHERER ESO ------------------------------------------------------------------- PRAECIPE FOR ENTRY OF APPEARANCE FOR DEFENDANT BY PETER J RUSSO ESO -------_.~---------------------------------------------------------- CONCILIATOR CONFERENCE SUMMARY REPORT AND ORDER - DATED 4/9/98 - HEAR~NG 6/3/98 9:30 AM CR 4 - BY KEVIN A HESS J - COPIES MAILED 4/13/98 ------------------------------------------------------------------- ORDER - DATED 6/5/98 - BY KEVIN A HESS J - COPIES MAILED 6/8/98 ------------------------------------------------------------------- PETITION FOR EMERGENCY RELIEF ---------..---------------------------------------------------.------ ORDER OF COURT - DATED 10/12/98 - IN RE PETITION FOR EMERGENCY RELIEF - PREHEARING CUSTODY CONFERENCE 12/3/98 10:30 AM 4TH FLOOR JURY DELIBERATION ROOM CUMBERLAND COUNTY COURTHOUSE - BY HUBER X GILROY ESO CUSTODY CONCILIATOR - NOTICE AND COPIES MAILED 10/14/98 ------------------------..------------------------------------------ CONCILIATOR 50NFERENCE SUMMARY REPORT AND ORDER - DATED 12/11/98 - HEARING 2/18 99 9:30 AM CR 4 - BY KEVIN A HESS J - COPIES MAILED 12/14/98 ------------------------------------------------------------------- ORDER - DATED 2/22/99 - IN RE MOTION FOR MODIFICATION - BY KEVIN A HESS J - NOTICE MAILED 2/23/99 ------------------------------------------------------------------- MOTION FOR RECONSIDERATION ------------------------------------------------------------------- RULE TO SIIOW CAUSE - DATED 3/12/99 - IN RE MOTION FOR RECONSIDERATION - RULE IS ISSUED UPON RESPONDENT RETURNABLE WITHIN 20 DAYS OF THIS DATE - HEARING 4/22/99 1:30 PM CR 4 - BY KEVIN A HESS J - NOTICE MAILED 3/15/99 - - - - - - - - - - - - - - LAST ENTRY - - - - - - - - - - - - - - ...............***.*..**...************....*******.*......*..................... * Escrow Information * . Fees & Debits Bea Ba1 Pvmts/Ad1 End Bal * .....*.*.**~...*...**...........f.*.*...*~...**.,*..***......~................*. PE'rITION TAX ON PETITION SETTLEMENT JCP FEE CUSTODY FEE 35.08 .5 5.08 5.0 4.00 35.00 .50 5.00 5.00 4.00 :88 :88 .00 GREGORY COX, Plaintiff IN TIlE COURT OF COMMON PLE^S OF CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYL V ^NI^ vs. 97-6919 CIVIL CIVIL ACTION. L^ W KIMBERL Y BIRGENSMITH Dtll'clHJunt IN CUSTODY IN RE: MOTION FOR MODIFICATION ORDER AND NOW, this ZL~ duy of February, 1999, the existing custody ordcr in this casc is ll10dilicd to provide that: I. Thc parent who has custody of the children shall permit rcasonablc tclcphonc contact by the childrcn with the parcnt thcn out of custody; and 2. When Christmas tails on a weekcnd which would otherwi~e bc sd\cdulcd for the tathcr's custody, thc mother shall havc custody of the childrcn commcncing at 6:00 p.m. on Christmas Evc when Christmas tails on a Saturday and at 8:00 a,m, on Christmas Day when Christmas tails on a Sunday, In all othcr respccts thc dcfendant's motion for modilication is DENIED, BY THE COURT. Ad James Kayer. Esquire For the Plaintiff Peter Russo, Esquire For the Defendant ~~ut:: ,",.~ ""o( -}"'C'i ...-- ... I...., '''': "-'-;~. (~\ ...t'/ J.t,I~~;(j!..D In rlV~j"~";j'" -l""''','' ,.~ I .... rl,' IJ'.'" .-. '... I ""'lf1d ... " , . ..', .. "'. ;.h. , ,~ .>, I , ", ~ I '1.'1" -, ,_,:. ,J" _ ,., ~ C ,I I..; .n"',... ,'... . ',. .t, ! 'j..; -..r. 1. ,'~. Til'~\;';J ,.]~~;.-~ it;! 0.,.,. .. L . Prothonotary :rlm - ...... 04/09/99 1552 SUPER TOR COURT OF PENNSYLVANIA OFFICIAL DOCKET DOCI<ET II 00635MDA99 FULL CAPTION 001E GREGORY COX I V 002'1' KIMBERLY BIRGENSMITH COUNSEL 72897 PETER J RUSSO 61 WEST LOUTHER STREET CARLISLE, PA 17013 50838 .iAMES J KAYER 4 EAST LIBERTY AVENUE LIBERTY LOFT CARLISLE, PA 17013 CONSOLIDATED DOCKET NUMBER , BACKGROUND DATA TRIAL COURT RECORDS CATEGORY: . COURT NAME: COUNTY: JUDICIAL DIS'rRICT: CASE TYPE/CHARGE: TRIAL COURT CHARGES: JUDGE (S) : DISPOSITION TYPE: DISPOSITION DATE: APPEAL FILE DATE: DISPOSITION ENTERED: TRIAL CRT DOCKET NO. : OFFENSE TRACKING NO. : TITLE FOR MAIL 002'1' Y 717-249-2721 001E Y 717-243-7922 CV CIVIL CUMBERLAND 09 CUSTODY/VISITATION HESS, K ORDER ENTERED 02/22/99 03/23/99 02/23/99 97-6919 CIVIL TERM STATUS INFORMATION 04/23/99 DOCKETING STATEMENT DUE 05/02/99 LOWER COURT RECORD DUE DOCKE'r ENTRIES 04/09/99 NOTICE OF APPEAL 04/09/99 DOCKBTING STATEMENT EXITED T=APPELLANT E=APPELLEE *=COURT APPOINTED FOR 002'1' 002'1' " ~ I.l) '(.; IN '" J... .. .~~ C" r:i Ll.I':'l: '- -7 ( ,. ::c: (.J~f' .,-.t I I,L..< u.. -..; {,!') (:,'". :-J ":J ,}' ," :,.!;,.; . _.If J:<: u" ..1 'tJ -r t.< ~,'. c: ,r, riJ r' L:... 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',,'.....' il,' ,-iJ'&~' ~:<(,t, ' ' . ~, (') '0 q ~ ,', ..., 'f .. ~.. ~ (j/3 ::," '.',. I , ;) ,:,,~ '.1,':'; . f -" :>'1, , . . 'F) , i,l! ,I'v ;:\ t' ".~ i , .e,!,' " ~~~ ,-'<il .'., :'.:: ~ , !,,'.' , "~ ' J f )'\1 ~ I,~ ~ " ).-' , .:~ m ' ." " ., tb "~" , ~.l ,~ .., ......, ( \"', " ", " , , , . , I". Pluil',tiff: The Defendant's husbund at that time con/erred with the Dclcndunt und replied to the Pluintill' over the telephone thut the Defcndant wus cognizulIl of this Ihct und ugreeuble to it. 20. Admitted in purt und denied in pan. It is udmittcd thut the Defcndunt attempted to COlllact Plaintiff' by telephone when he was not at home on Muy 9, 1999, It is unknown us to what pluns the mother had for Mother's Day. as she had never communicated those pluns to the Plaintiff and he therefore denies that Portion of the averment. By way of further answer, Plulntiff: as is required under the Court \'.Irdcr. turned the children over to the Mother on the momlng of Muy 9, 1999 so that they could attend church together. When the PluintilT picked thc children up from church at approximately II :30 on May 9, 1999, neither the Defendant nor hcr I husband made any reference to arrangements for the Plaintitl'to return the children for any othcr portion of the Mother's Day Holiday. 21, Denied, Based upon the parties' oral agreement to trade weekends, the Plaintill's 'Jse of the weekend that ineluded the Mother's Day Holiday was not a violation of the existing Court Order, PlaintilT is unaware as to whether the Defendant had to cancel her Mother's Day pluns. WHEREFORE, the Defendant requests this Honorable Court to find in the Plaintiff's favor and dismiss the Defcndant's petition for contempt. COUNTER PETITION FOR SPECIAL RELIEF 22. Paragraphs I - 21 of the Plaintiff's response to petition for contempt arc incorporated herein as if fully stated. 23. Defendant's husbund, Mark Birgensmith, contacted the PlaintilTby telephone on April 29, 1999 and advised him that the Defcndant's father had recently passed away. 24. During that telephone conversation, the Defendant's husband requested the PlaintifT to "trude weekends" with the Defendant. Although she was not a party to the telepholH: conversation, Defendant's voice was audible to the Plaintiff in the background as he spoke with Detendant's husband. 25. During the April 29, 1999 telephone conversation, the Plainiiff reminded the Defendant's husband that trading weekends would involve the Plaintiff receiving the use of (he Mother's Day Holiday, and PIlIintiff wished to confiml jpecifically whether it WllS the intention of the Defendunt to volulltllrily waive her right to that holiday. 26. Defendant audibly agreed to these tenns, and Dc!endant's husband specifically agreed to those terms during the parties' April 29, 1999 telephone conversation. 27, Pursuant to the parties' agreement, the Plaintill'allowed the Defendant to maintaill physical custody of the children from Friday April 30, 1999 until Sunday May 2, 1999 (his regularly scheduled weekend), pursuant to the oral agreement reached between the parties on April 29,1999, 28, In reliance upon the Defendant's husband's representations made on April 29,1999, Plaintiff arrived to pick up the children on Friday May 7, 1999, The children were turned ovcr without incident and no mention was made as to specific arrangements for Mother's Day (May 9, 1999). 29. Plaintiff dropped the children off at Church on Sunday morning, May 9, 1999 as he is required to do so on his normally scheduled weekends. When he picked the children up from church at II :30 a.m., on May 9, 1999, neither Defendant, nor her husband made any request, demand or other statement relating to special arrangements for a custody transler relating to the Mother's Day holiday, 30. Plaintiffreturned the children to the Defendant at his normal and customury time on Sunday evening. May 9, 1999. This custody transler occurred without incident. 31. On February 22, 1999. this Court issued 1111 Order relating to the Delendant's Petition lar Emergency Relief and Contempt that had been t1led on October 2. 1998. 32, The October 2, 1998 Petition lor Emergency Relief and Contempt included specific allegations concerning the Plaintiff's lack of timeliness in returning the children to church services, and picking the children up late from custody transfers and returning the children late to custody transfers and not utilizing specified periods of time reserved lor the Plaintiff's on the children's birthdays and holidays. 33. This Court's February 22, 1999, Order dismissed the Defendant's Petition of October 2, 1999, after a hearing on all issues addressed in that petition. 34. The Defendant in her May 28, 1999 Petition for Contempt includes specific allegations that were addressed in the Court's February 21,1999 Order, specifically, 18 of the 20 alleged violalions listed by the Defendant predate that order, 35. The Defendant tiled a motion to reconsider the Court's February 22, 1999 Order on or about March 5, 1999. The Court in its April 22, 1999 Order denied any further requests for modification of the existing custody order with the exception of establishing a notice provision regarding the Plaintiffs periods of summer visitation. 36. The Defendant initiated an appeal of the Court's February 22, 1999 Order on or about April 22, 1999, That appeal was subsequently voluntarily withdrawn, 37. The Defendant is attempting to relitigate issues already presented to this Court in her prior Petition for Emergency Relief, and already decided by the trial judge. 38, The Court is authorized pursuant to 42 I'a, C.S.A. 2503 to award counsel fees as a sanction for dilatory. obdurate or vexatious conduct. f~ " Kayer and Brown Attorneys At Law A Professional Oorporatlon ~ _ I'Inr.a......h Liberty Loft 4 E. Liberty Avenue C~~llel." Penneylvenla 17013 Peter RUSBO ,16 W. Louther Street Carllslo PA 17013 " I. "J~".;I'.' K.yer .nd Brown Attorneys At Law A Professional Corporation . :~ ~ ':":"__ J ... ,;:::,c;!"<"':;'::"/01~"".', 3': ': ( ill/II!,"') -t, .}'\'l .,.J . '" (J i\ :;~l'\~:~ ~.;?nlt __, _ . __.: . . _;~: :' ......---.-- ~),11 \ \ ,',J _I__~_~-_': J~~).'..~.l_~-r~~ .. , Liberty Loll 4 E. Liberty Avenue , , O.:II.le, Pennlylvanla 17013 KA 'fER ANt> BROWN 4 ElIst Lib~rly Avenue Carlisle, Pennsylyania 17013 '1,_, I~p",; , ,-l.....~ ,i,.....'_.,..,~._--~"'-c.-,.-_*~..-l ".- - i ... 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