HomeMy WebLinkAboutExhibitsAugust 28,2002
TO: RICHARD RUPP ~
FROM: MARILYN JO GERBER
RE: VISITS WITH MILDRED JANE GERBER
mother, Mildred Jane Uemer wno is ~n LomuU,el,,,,' ~' -
] have confimed reservations for the ONLY DATES which I can arrange pm* the
Court orclerd entered by the Honorable Judge Bayley in March 2002. They are as
follow~:
~y, ,~mber 3,2002 1-SPM Crdcago Time
Monday, Septem~r 9,2002 1-SPM Chicago Time
Monday, SePtemt)er 16,2002 1-SPM Chicago Time
Tuesday, ~r 1,2002 1-5PM Chicago Time
Since my mother's condition I~as deteriorated to the point that she is not able to
ambulate without major assistance and has presented herself to me in Chicago the
last two visits, in a wheelchair, I have to assume that my mother iS not attending the
On good author~, I
Senior Services Day Care Centers on T __t~. _~y~'__~ar?~ ~Thu~,r~sd~aySnn~rs if at all for averv
~,,,, ,ve been informed that my mother has not a~unu~= u'<"-'~ "~' "" .......;"to
long time and that these centers operate from Monday through Friday, from U~UU/~M
4:30 PM. I just received my nursing schedule and I cannot visit my mother on any
other days other than is noted above. Therefore, I shall expect arrangements to be
made for my vis. as Ba ey has so emp. ha?ca W
not allow my brother to continue to harass ano aouse me oy making me wm[ urm~ me
very last minute prior to my departure for Cl~icago and wait for weeks to find out if I am
going to visit my mother. I require sleep, rest and relaxation just as my brother and
sister and cannot drive,travel and visit my mother under extreme sleep deprivation. I
muSt be rested and capable of worl<ing as a nurse especially since I am charge of
critical patients. My mother's schedule is much more flexible than mine for ve~
obvious reasons as well as my sister's who doesn~ seem to work full-time. Please
correct me if I am wrong.
I also would like to point out to my bro~, that I have failed to receive any
compensation that was offered to me tot my visit to Chicago on February 9,2002.
When does my brother plan on reimbursing me and under what trust and under what
account and under what condition? My brother terminated my visit with my mother
after just 15 minutes and I had to cancel a wi'tole weekend of work, in addition to travel,
hotel, food,expenses. Does this not fall under the category of emotional,physical and
financial abuse? Does he and has he treated my sister, Jane Heflin this way or any
other member of the Gerber family?
As you may or may not know, one of my visits with my mother occured in my
mother's former car for 4 hours in a parking lot, as she refused to exit the car. Another
visit occured outside for a change of venue for 4 hours so that my mother would not be
subjected to a dark enclosed and COLD hotel room. This last visit outside in the
parking lot where my mother could observe and be entertained by the ducks and
geese was the most successf~ visit tllat I have had since February, 2002. This proves
our constant request to take my mother to the park in Lombard, another restaurant,
sl3opping as anything other than the constant and persistant imprisionment of my
mother and myself in a sterile and confusing hotel room at the Embassy Suites which
also costs my mother's estate eacl~ week. I also think It can be safely and firmly
estasblished that I am not a threat to my mother especially in lieu of my extensive
geriatric and critical care skills and t~at we are no longer in need of an independent
iai worker, Joan Jackson or anyone else from her agency as they have no medical
ss~ills that superscede mine and they are costing my mother's estate $85.00 per hour.
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each month at Jane's house In aoomon
family bills my mother's estate is above and beyond what a prudent and economical
guardian and bank would approve in customary circummnces. I am also concerned
as to the left blackened necrotic toe of my mother, ~ TMJ('l'emporal Mandibular Joint)
which is constantly contracting and firing off, her rapid decline In amubulation in the
month of August, her continued loss of weight, her coarse breathe sounds which I
ascultated several weeks ago, her frequent and copious oral secretions which ! noted
last week,and most importantly a future care plan for my mother when my sister will be
absent in the upcoming future from ChiCago and where I will be visitin9 my mother
when is not willing to leave my sister's house or Incapable of leaving my sister's
houSe. Will my brother ~ guardian, force my mother on a stretcher, into an
ambulance over to the Embassy Suites or worse institutionalize her(because my sister
refuses me to see our mother in her home) as ~ ultimate punist~ment of her and
myself? I am alsO concerned as to Pauline Welner's reference tn one of her letters that
was bought as an attempt to terminate my visits with my mother, where she references
that my moUqer is bein9 tranquilized more frequently. This practice is barbaric and
abusive and I caution the guardian to consider ten-fold his Intentions and practices.
I would also like to know how many visits my brother, Fred E Gerber, il .~__$ made to
IllinOis to see his mother. How long have his visits been and for how many days? We
have asked for tills several times and as my mother's guardian, he has many
responsibilities and duties to fullfill. My sister Jane Heflin and Joan Jackson believe or
fantasize that t13ey are empowered by ttle guardian to terminate visits, make
decisions,etc. Please amplify the State law as to how my brother is capable of
transfering gurardianshlp duties and powers to anybody else without a Court approval
and sanction. Since the guardian, Fred E Gerber, II refuses to speak to me, take
messages or acknowledge my messages or questions as well as my sister, Jane
Hefiin, I canot take my sister's word for it when She stetes. 'the guardian has told me
a very Io_r~ ti.m .or ~ .._..._.: ,__,_... ~ u,,norable j,~.toe Baytey by affirming h~s oath
Court in ~umuerlan(I umy .
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did.
the elderly?
aDout my mother's health as ~lemonsu'ateo in your last leu~,. , ,m.,, x~,,, ~ ..........
very fine complement of -super-guardian", what a nice thing to sa~.
September 15,2002
TO: Fred E Gerber Richard Rupp
FROM: Marilyn Gerber
On Saturday, September 14,2002, I received a telephone call from Start Laskowski
stating that he had received a letter from Richard Rupp in his handwriting stating that
the visit with my mother on September 16,2002 would be changed to the Embassy
Suites in Lombard Illinois from 1-5 PM (CDT).
I am responding to such telephone call. On September 7,2002, it was confirmed
that my visits for September would be at the Sunrise Assisted Living Center in Glen
Ellyn. I therefore visited my mother last week at her new home and location where my
brother the guardian admitted her on or about September 1,2002.
As I have reminded the guardian many times, Judge Baytey ruled that I was to visit
my mother when I can arrange each weekly visit and where my mother is located.
Therefore, I WiLL be visiting my mother at Sunrise Assited Living Center on
September 16,2002 from 1-5PM (CDT). My mother does not and is not located at the
Embassy Suites Hotel in Lombard nor does she reside at 270 N Garfield,
Lombard, Illinois.
I am particularly concerned that my mother has shown significant medical changes
since early August. AS you Know, my mother refused to exit her car or should I say the
car which was sold out from under her to my sister with funds more than likely from the
Trust. Even my sister could not make her exit her car nor Joan Jackson. I had my
second only four continous hour visit with my mother in the front seat of her car. My
mother and I were left alone with no one staring at us and she talked to me, ate and
drank fulids, she stroked me lovingly and spontaneously embraced me and kissed me.
On August 21,2002, I had another visit with my mother which the majority of the visit
occuring in the parking lot where my mother was entertained my ducks and geese and
the particularly lovely day. Again my mother was happy with me, talked to me and
stroked my head, embraced me spontaneously. She allowed me to hold her hand,
comb her hair, offer her fuilds as She did on the previous visit. The visit allowed my
mother to change settings.
However despite that after five months, I only had three visits which lasted for the
tour continous court ordered visits, I have become concerned with the condition of my
mother. On my second visit on August 14, I noticed that my mother had a necrotic left
toe, she jaw or TMJ was constantly contracting, her lungs sounded coarse and her
lower legs,ankles and especially feet were cold with dependent edema all suggesting
some serious vascular disease. On August 21,2002, my mother showed up for the
very first time in sliipers with open toes and cut-away ted stockings. It was obvious that
her necrotic toe was a concern as well as her edema. My mother also had significant
difficulties in ambulating and transfereing in and out of a wheelchair. This brings up
another issue that my mother In August presented herself in a wheelchair for the first
time. This alone suggests that my mo~er Is havtng problems. Her personal hygiene
of her toes was unclean with filth between her legs which ! showed to Joan Jackson.
My mother has been removecl from my sister's home where she only had
homemakers provide care for her along with my sister. TO the best of my knowledge,
my sister had 24 hour caregivers as well as her presence. My mother is obviously
declining under her care and where is the GUARDIAN? My mother has now been
removed from my sister's home after 8 months to a strange location where she has a
small room or should I say an alcove with no windows, in a single bed shoved up
against a wall and she must share this area with another woman who has twO
windows around the corner_ She knows no one, is confused and is subjected to men
and women whO are more cognitively challenged than her. There are no certified
nurses aides or nurses present at this facility. There are no LPN's after 8PM and none
on the weekend. There are only homemakers who do not sleep in her room at night
whereas she did have a caregiver sleep alledgedly at my sister's home. She is forced
to eat and sleep when it is convient for the facility. She is bathed at night not when she
wants. My mother is also put in a wheechair for long periods of time which cause early
stages ot decubiti- I am also told by Michelle that finally physical therapy has been
orderd for my mother. Why wasn't this done months ago?
On September 7, I noticed that my mother's right heel was in a large gauze
dressing which indicates a heel wound or ulcer. It is obvious that my mother iS not
receiving excellent care and as a geriatric nurse with over 17 years experience and
over L::>0 years experience going back to when I was a certified nurses aide at
Kimbrough Army Hospital, I am making the following decision.
I will not approve my mother being transported to a small,cold and clark hotel room
at the Embassy Suites hotel where you have subjected her to essentially
imprisonement for 4 hours. As a licensed nurse, I will not violate my Nurse Practice
Act, Title 6 under Pennslyvania Law and the juHstiction of the Court of Cumberland
County under the Honorable Judge Bayley- I will only visit my mother where she is
living and located. I will notassist in the barbaric and punitive treatment of my mother
as I have witnessed in the last five months, i will not agree as a nurse to my mother
being
traumatized by making get into a car, drive to a strange hotel room. transfer out of a car
and into a wheelchair and then reverse the process. This is completely abusive and I
will not agree to this on the basis of my licensed clinical skills_ This violates all the
care plans for a demetia patient.
I shall also remind you that Judge Bayley did not order supervised visits as he
stated in his footnotes that he was content that my mother would not be adversly
affected by my visits. Therefore since it has been apparent that many of my visits have
been conditional on the availability of Joan Jackson or anyone from her firm, I shall
not agree to supervision or being followed around as has occured for five months.
Joan Jackson has stated to me herself that she has no concerne of any harm that
would become of my mother due to my presence. Joan Jackson has confirmed that
she is paid $~5.00 per hour to essentially sit and talk to my sister while I visit with my
mother.
This is an outrageous abuse of my mother's monies and I shall take this up with the
Court and the $1200 montly expenses or should I say the enrichment of the firm of
Warren and Sanders.
Judge Bayley also was specific that the visit would be for four continous hours
when I could arrange it and therefore I shall not wait until the very last minute prior to
my departure and at times on the same day of my flight to hear from the guardian as
the his approval of my visits which I provided to him on the averagte of three weeks
prior to my visits_ I cannot imagine that Fred manages his Army career at the last
minute nor is he allowed to treat his fellow officers in this manner. I shall from here on
It enforce my four continous hours which will be from the moment I make personal
contact with my mother and not because Jane or Fred say it is from 1-5PM. Often my
plane is late In arriving In Chicago or it takes longer than anticipated to procure my
ren( a car. I Shall not be penalized nor abused or harassed by my sister, Jane Heflin
who essentially believes that she is the guardian. It is quite clear that my brother,Fred
Gerber Is often on assignment all over the country, o/ten in San Antonio, Germany and
any other secret high security assignment_
My brother testified tl3at he would i<eep my mother in her home at 623 Hilltop Drive
in New Cumberland, PA_ My mother has all the assests to allow her to stay at her
home. You tOOk her away from everything she knew and loved from her personal
possessions, to her friends ,her priest and beloved Church and her community who
loved her and enjoyed seeing her. She is now in Chicago I believe only to spite me
and where my sister's job is in New York and the guardian rarely visits her. How
cruel,how completely abusive and insensitive to my mother's wishes and my father's
legacy. My mother should be returned to her home where she can enjoy her $
bedroom home and where she can have all the luxuries that she so richly deserves.
There are so many people that can and want to visit her In New Cumberland. My
brother would be only 2 hours away, my sister only 3 hours away from her job in New
York and I live only 5 doors down the street. The logistics of my brother traveling and
my sister traveling, not to mention the expense that ! incur each week goes beyond
anything my father ever envisioned and It represents a HUGE depletion of my mother's
TRUST funds which the guardian, Fred E Gerber, II has already depleted and which
PNC Bank has filed serious objections as well as my self on August 27,2002.
Therefore, i shall be at the SUNRISE ASSISTED LIVING CENTER on September
16,2002 from when I arrive which due to my flight's arrival shall be approximately
1:30m to I :45 due to traffic and that Glen Ellyn is slightly further away from Lombard.
I shall wait until my mother is present at her facility. I shall make sure that my visit is
enforced and the authorities in Illinois are prepared to enforce Judge E~ayley's court
order of March 2002.
I also strongly object to your discourteous treatment of my attorney, Stan Laskowski
when you send him responses at 4:30PM prior to my visits tO see my mother and
especially In this case when he has to deal with your Saturday faxes. This is not the
firs! time that you have employed these tactics. We never have treated you or your
attorney this way. You have delibertly burclened me with excessive letters just to
arrange visits with my mother. Since my visits started in April, you have been
responsible for 62 LL=-I-I'FRS concerning my court ordered visits. ThiS means that in the
5 months that I have visited my mother In Chicago, I saw her only 13 times for the 28
times that I requested visits with my mother. This means that for the 13 visits there
were 5 letters for eaCh requested visit. One does not have to be a rocket scientist to
know that this tactic is clearly one of intimidation in the hope tha~ I will give up my
desire to see my mother.
I have to wonder if this is the manner of managment that the guardian manages his
responsibilities for the US Medical Corps?
September 15,2002
TO: Fred E Gerber Richard Rupp
FROM: Marilyn Gerber
On Saturday, September 14,2002, I received a telephorte call from Stan LaskOwski
stating tlqat he had received a letl:er from Richard Rupp in his handwriting stating that
the visit with my mother on September 16,2002 would be changed to the Embassy
Suites in Lombard Illinois from 1-5 PM (CDT).
I am responding to such telephone call. On September 7,2002, it was confirmed
that my visits for September would be at the Sunrise Assisted Living Center in Glen
Ellyn. I therei'ore visited my mother last week at her new home and location where my
brother the guardian admitted her on or about September 1,2002.
As I have reminded the guardian many times, Judge Bayley ruled that I was to visit
my mother when I can arrange each weekly visit and where my mother is located.
Therefore, I WILL be visiting my mother at Sunrise Assited Living Center on
September 16,2002 from 1-5PM (CDT). My mother does not and is not located at the
Embassy Suites Hotel in Lombard nor does she reside at 270 N Garfield,
Lombard, Illinois.
I am particularly concerned that my mother has shown significant medical changes
since early August. As you I(now, my mother refused to exit her car or should I say the
car which was sold out from under her to my sister with funds more than likely from the
Trust. Even my Sister could not make her exit her car nor Joan Jackson. I had my
second only four continous hour visit with my mother in the front seat of her car. My
mother and I were left alone with no one staring at us and she talked to me, ate and
drank fulids, she stroked me lovingly and spontaneously embraced me and kissed me.
On August 21,2002, I had another visit with my mother which the majodty of the visit
occuring in the parking lot where my mother was entertained my ducks and geese and
the particularly lovely day. Again my mother was happy with me, talked to me and
stroked my head, embraced me spontaneously. She allowed me to hold her hand,
comb her hair, offer her fuilds as she did on the prevmus visit. The visit allowed my
mother to change settings.
However despite that after five months, I only had three visits which lasted for the
four continous court ordered visits, I I~ave become concerned with the condition of my
mother. On my second visit on August 14, I noticed that my mother had a necrotic left
toe, She jaw or TMJ was constantly contracting, her lungs sounded coarse and her
lower legs,ankles and especially feet were cold with dependent edema all suggesting
some serious vascular disease. On August 21,2002, my mother showed up for the
very first time in sliipers with open toes and cut-away ted stockings. It was obvious that
her necrotic toe was a concern as well as her edema. My mother also had significant
difficulties in ambulating and transfereing in and out of a wheelchair. This brings up
another issue that my mother In August presented herself in a wheelchair for the first
time. This alone suggests that my mother is having problems. Her personal hygiene
of her toes was unclean with filth between her legs which I showed to Joan JacKson.
My mother has been removed from my sister's home where she only had
homemakers provide care for her along with my sister. TO the best of my knowledge,
my sister had 24 hour caregivers as well as her presence. My mother is obviously
declining under her care and where is the GUARDIAN? My mother has now been
removed from my sister's home after 8 months to a strange location where she has a
small room or should I say an alcove with no windows, in a single bed shoved up
against a wall and she must share this area with another woman who has twO
windows around the corner. She knOWS no one, is confused and is subjected to men
and women who are more cognitively challenged than her. There are no certified
nurses aides or nurses present at this facility. There are no LPN's after 8PM and none
on the weekend. There are only homemakers who do not sleep in her room at night
whereas she did have a caregiver sleep alledgedly at my sister's home. She is forced
to eat and sleep when it is convient for the facility. She is bathed at night not when She
wants. My mother is also put in a wheechair for long periods of ~me which cause early
stages of decubiti. I am also tol(~ by Micllelle that finally physical therapy has been
orderd for my mother. Why wasn't this done months ago?
On September 7, I noticed that my mother's right heel was in a large gauze
dressing which indicates a heel wound or ulcer. It is obvious that my mother is not
receiving excellent care and as a geriatric nurse with over 17 years experience and
over 20 years experience going back to when I was a certified nurses aide at
Kimbroucjh Army Hospital, I am making the following decision.
I Will not approve my mother being transported to a small,cold and dark hotel room
at the Embassy Suites hotel where you have subjected her to essentially
imprisonement for 4 hours. As a licensed nurse, I will not violate my Nurse Practice
Act, Title 6 under Pennslyvania Law and the juristiction of the Court of Cumberland
County under the Honorable Judge Bayley. I will only visit my mother where she is
living and located. I will notassist in the barbaric and punitive treatment of my mother
as I have witnessed in the last five months. I will not agree as a nurse to my mother
being
traumatized by making get into a car, drive to a strange hotel room, transfer out of a car
and into a wheelchair and then reverse the process. This is completely abusive and I
will not agree to this on the basis of my licensed clinical SkillS_ This violates all the
care plans for a demetia patient.
I shall also remind you that Judge Bayley dtcl not order supervised visits as he
statecl in his footnotes that he was content that my mother would not be adversly
affected by my visits. Therefore since it has been apparent that many of my visits have
been conditional on the availability of Joan Jackson or anyone from her firm, I shall
not agree to supervision or being fOllowed around as has occured for five months.
Joan Jackson has stated to me herself that she has no concerns of any harm that
would become of my mother due to my presence. Joan Jackson has confirmed that
she is paid $EI5.00 per hour to essentially sit and talk to my sister wl3ile I visit with my
mother.
This is an outrageous abuse of my mother's monies and I shall take this up with the
Court and the $1200 montly expenses or should I say the ennchment of the firm of
Warren and Sanders.
Judge Bayley also was specific that the visit would be for four continous hours
when I could arrange it and therefore I shall not wait until the very last minute prior to
my departure and at times on the same day of my flight to hear from the guardian as
the his approval of my visits which I provided to him on the averagte of three weeks
prior to my visits. I cannot imagine that Fred manages his Army career at the last
minute nor is he allowed to treat his fellow officers in this manner_ I shall from here on
it enforce my four continous hours which will be from the moment I make personal
contact with my mother and not because Jane or Fred say it is from 1-SPM. Often my
plane is late In arrtvlng in Chicago or it takes longer than anticipated to procure my
rent a car_ I shall not be penalized nor abused or harassed by my sister, Jane Heflin
who essentially believes that she is the guardian. It is quite clear tl~t my brother, Fred
Gerber Is often on assignment all over the country, often in San Antonio, Germany and
any other secret high security assignment.
My brother testified tl3a~ he woulcl Keep my mother in her home at 623 Hilltop Drive
in New Cumberland, PA. My motl3er has all the assests to allow her to stay at her
home. You tOOk her away from everything she Knew and loved from her personal
possessions, to her friends ,her priest and beloved Church and her community who
loved her and enjoyed seeing her. She is now in Chicago I believe only to spite me
and where my sister's job is in New York and the guardian rarely visits her. How
cruel,how completely abusive and Insensitive to my mother's wishes and my father's
legacy. My mother should be returned to her home where she can enjoy her {5
bedroom home and where she can have all the luxuries that she so richly deserves.
There are so many people that can and want to visit her In New Cumberland. My
brother would be only 2 hours away, my sister only 3 hours away from her job in New
York and I live only 5 doors clown the street. The logistics of my brother traveling and
my sister traveling, not to mention the expense that ! incur each week goes beyond
anything my father ever envisioned and it represents a HUGE depletion of my mother's
TRUST funds which the guardian, Fred E Gerber, Il has already depleted and which
PNC Bank has filed serious objections as well as my serf on August 27,2002.
Therefore, i shall be at the SUNRISE ASSISTED LIVING CENTER on September
16,2002 from when I arrive which due to my flight's arrival shall be approximately
1:30m to 1:45 due to traffic and that Glen Eltyn is slightly further away from Lombard.
I shall wait until my mother is present at her facility. I shall make sure that my visit is
enforced and the authorities in Illinois are prepared to enforce Judge Bayley's court
order of aarcl3 2002.
I also strongly object to your discourteous treatment of my attorney, Stan Laskowski
when you send him responses at 4:30PM prior to my visits tO see my mother and
especially In this case when he has to deal with your Saturday faxes. This is not the
?lrst time that you have employed these tactics. We never have treated you or your
attorney this way. You have delibertly burdened me wlth excessive letters just to
arrange visits with my mother, Since my visits started In April, you have been
responsible for 62 LETTERS concerning my court ordered visits. ThiS means that in the
5 months that I have visited my mother in Chicago, I saw her only 13 times for tl~e 28
times that I requested visits with my mother. This means that for the 13 visits there
were 5 letters for each requested visit. One does not have to be a rocket scientist to
know that this tactic is clearly one of intimidation in the hope that I will give up my
desire to see my mother.
t have to wonder it this is the manner of managment that the guardian manages his
responsibilities for the US Medical Corps?
September 19,2002
TO: Fred E Ge~oer, It ,~
Richard Rupp
FROM: Marilyn Gerber
RE: upcoming visit with Mildred Jane Gerber
Dear Richard:
Per the court order by Judge Bayley, i am coming to visit my mother on Monday,
September 23,2002 from approximately 1-5PM (Chicago time). Since I was not able
to visit my mother last week where she resides and lives, I will visit her this coming
week at Sunrise Assisted Living in Glen Ellyn.
If you can show me a state or federal statute that says that i have to have an
attorney contact you to arrange my visits and you think that a guardian can stipulate
and authorize this, I am always willing to look at this. However you and I both know my
brother's 'briilant" method of abuse and manipulation in essentially costing me a small
fortune the last six months in arranging court ordered visits with my mother. This
method has been arduous and unproductive. It is more than clear that the majority of
tl~e time, you have no idea or cannot access the guardian and essentially you have
been working with my sister Jane who thinks she is the guardian. You and ! and all of
the authorities in PA and ILLINOIS know that guardianship is not tranferable unless
the court orders this or appoints her the a co-guardian. The police in Glen Eilyn have
had numerous conversations with ali of the parties, my sister, me and my attorneys.
The court order is quite clear and it stands. I will and have arranged a visit and will
visit my mother. Your last letter to Stan on September 16,2002 is inaccurate and
essentially a pack of lies. I am not an attorney and Stan still is my attorney and shall
act as my attorney when it is necessary, I shall when I able inform you and the
guardian of my visits. I do not have to ask permission to visit my mother. I have
tolerated your intimidation too long and from here on in, I shall out of due process
inform you of my visits.
My mother has Alzheimer's. She is essentially available to me almost 24 hours a
day minus scheduled doctor's visits, and any or all acitivites I can be a part of of
especially since I am a trained geriatric nurse. Let me remind you, there is no head
nurse at Sunrise Assited Living and I shall and have conducted myself as a
professional and expert in the care and treatment of the elderly. I will not dignify by
responding to your letter of September 16,2002 an~l I doubt if Stan shall waste his
time and resources either. It is time for the guardian to get real and face the facts of
this court order. My mother iS not a pawn. Fred is anywhere but present as a guardian
and Jane has too many job responsibilities in New Yorkl.
My team of experts in Illinois have made it perfectly clear that I have the right at any
time to visit my mother. The State's Attorney is also clear on this and the court in
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DuPage County is also clear on this. Therefore as of today, I shall proceed and visit
my mother per the court order. I also have a bank of hours and days where I was not
allowed and Fred you were incontempt of the court order. My attorney, John
O'Halloran shall address this in Illinois and the court. Therefore, 1 shall at times return
on a consecutive day to tal(e advantage of the days over the last six months were you
were in contempt of this order and I showed up or you cancelled me as I was on my
way to the airport. Reread Judge Bayley's order, it is BRILLANT. This Judge knew
what he was doing.
I shall decide my visitation days and bool( my flights and get my discounts and
arrange for cars and at times lodging and out of courtesy, ! shall inform the guardian
and his attorney.
I am extremely concerned as to the medical and physical condition of my mother.l
am requesting and essentially demanding to Know who her primary care physician is.
I have been told by Joan Jackson that she has no power, she is just an observer. Well
we all know about inspectors, don't we Fred as in Iraq. Joan has also informed me
that her notes were altered, underlined and tampered with in your last motion in July
before Judge Bayley. I also do not need Joan Jackson present and since Judge
Bayley did not orde observed visits or monitored visits,I am objecting and shall take
legal action to have her visits stop. This is a waste of money and of my mother's
assets. You are already up to your ankles in problems with PNC Bank and the court
for a seriOus amount of money in Pennslyvania-
This also brings up my next request or issue, I am requestiong a status conference
on the Exceptions before the court. The 45 days is almost up and since I am on record
as PRO-SE, I await your response to my inquiry. We are beyond working things out
amicably. Fred is in contempt for accounting that was court ordered on July 8,2002 by
Judge Hoffer. I shall move ahead for a full AUDIT and I know that PNC concurs.
Start is still my attorney- I ask that you send your responses tohim by FAX during
usual and customary business hours, Monday through Friday from 9-5PM Eastern
Time. Stan will no longer come in on Saturdays or Sundays. I have left messages with
my brother and my sister and they hang-up on me and never get back to me. The
guardian is mandated by state law to be available for my mother and to respond to
Bayley's court order. My brother is in Germany, on alert, in San Antonio, anywhere
else but in Illinois. I am sure that his country needs him and he is doing an excellent
job. My sister is working in NewYork and since the Motion of Exceptions she cannot
be draining the Trusts dry for herself or her children as was evidenced by Fred's
accounting or shall I say partial and contemptous accounting_ I also have never seen,
my request for the $200.00. I shall also be submitting a full accounting of my costs to
Chicago and I am sure that Fred as Trustee shall deal with these in a professional and
timely manner especcially in the height of the "Enron Era".
This leads me to my last request, IF I should make a request of the Trust, who will
be the attorney. Undsay Baird or yourself? I am warning you straight out that t shall
not be chased and abused into producing an accounting need or balance sheet as
have never seen my sister or any of the grandchildren fill out one needs request
questionaire and I have already filled out four. FRED still owes me $2,500.00 from his
offer through Linclasy Baird from the fall of last year. He is in breech of his word and
his agreement_ Therefore since Undasy Baird recently wrote to me that she is
currently not representing my brother, please have Fred send me the $2,500.00 to my
address in New Cumberland. Since Fred stalks me, tracks me and essentially knows
my business, he should have not trouble knowing where or when to find me.
Fred has also destroyed and removed my personal possessions from my mother's
residence at 623 Hilltop Drive, New Cumberland. There are now sevearl witnesses
who have come forward and I recently had the opportunity to view the house and take
note of the absence of my possessions. How would you like to deal with this.
Amicably or through the courts or better yet in pub#c? We can spend the next few
months before Judge Bayley, Judge Oler etc and I think that by now you know that I
have unlimited energies and resources to accomplish my legal rights.
Please return your letters to Stan in acknowledging my visits. All other matters
concerning my PRO-SE status concerning the accounting, trust or my property, please
write or call me. I know that you know that I do not have an office, a staff etc. Therefore,
Judge Bayley shall more that likely not condone your attempts of not informing me in a
timely manner of your intent of actions. I have a voice mail on my cell phone:
(717)503-5280. Please leave a message and then follow up with a letter. I am not
always home and will not be clnasing letters or lack of letters. You can always send a
copy or FAX Stan. He is responsible and can always find me.
FRED PLEASE DO THE RIGHT THING. DO NOT HURT MOM. BRING MY
MOTHER,OUR MOTHER BACK HOME. LET HER END HER LIFE WHERE SHE
WANTED. All the resources are present to bring her back to New Cumberland. I am
certified to transport and fly Mom home. I have all the resources ready to take care of
her 24/7. it would be cheaper for her Trust and the long care r,;,---Js of MOM. Please
forget about me and your hatred of me. Alter Mom is gene and in Ileaven you can
destroy me. Take the righter, right. Remember Dad's legacy. Stand tall to the
institutional values of the US Army and the position wt~lch you currently hold. You
have only a few months left in the Army. Fred you worked so hard to get where you
are and you have done such an excellent Jobin the ARMY as you and your
commanders see it. Don't blow it now, Fred. Be the example of son and brother that
we all wished for you. I Will always be your sister and don*t ask me to have to battle
you for sensless reasons. But make no mistake, I shall until last breath and dime
protect our Mother.
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Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
RUPP AND MEIKLE
P.O. Box 395
Camp Hill, PA 17001-0395
Re: Access visits - Mildred Gerber
Dear Richard:
Your letter dated April 2, 2002 confirmed the acceptability and availability of Mildred on April
! 7. No mention or notice was provided of any scheduling commitments or conflicts for her in
that letter or other communications since then. Further, no information has been provided
regarding the purpose and nature of the post 3 p.m. commitment for her which you reference.
My client's travel arrangements are single day, committed and non-refundable. Due to Marilyn's
flight arrangements she physically can not arrive and be available before I p.m. tomorrow. The
location for the visit is also questioned as it requires further travel by Mildred to another
unfamiliar location. Ifa full visit at an appropriate location will not be provided as ordered by
the conrt, we will have no choice but to seek further enforcement of the Order for all future
visits.
I have attempted to reach you by phone upon receipt of your letter today but I was advised that
you were not available. Mr. Gerber thus should contact Marilyn this evening (she can be reached
on her cell phone 717-503-5280) so as to confirm whether the visit will proceed between I p.m
and 5 p.m., if not, Marilyn will not attend tomorrow's visit as the location, accommodations and
shortness of the visit will not be conducive to Mildred's bests interests.
~ty yours~
S a~ley J.¥ E/iskowski
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RE: Mildred J. Gerber,
Dear Richard:
Marilyn's availability to visit with her mother is dictated by her work schedule and present flight
schedules. A long-term work schedule for Marilyn is not always attainable. We have and will
continue to provide dates for visits as well in advance as we are able to. Thus the proposal for
the same day each week for visit may not be viable in any event as this is outside of Marilyn's
control.
Marilyn is not able to make travel arrangements in any event to allow visits between 10:00 a.m.
to 2:00 p.m. or 11:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. Central Daylight Time. As to Tuesdays and Thursday,
please advise why such dates pose conflict for Mildred.
For April 24 and May 1, Marilyn can only be available and arrive in Lombard, Illinois, if not at
Ms. Heflin's home, for a visit between I:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. (CDT). The Hilton Hotel as
previously suggested is unacceptable as my client would not be able to arrive timely by 1:00 p.m.
The visit should occur and is again requested to occur at Ms. Heflin's home, or in Lombard,
Illinois, where Marilyn will still attend but under protest. Please advise whether these visits will
be allowed or not on these dates and times so that we may act accordingly.
Mildred's schedule should be rather flexible due generally to her reduced or limited physical
ability as well as the fact that she is no longer having access to her friends, home and community
in New Cumberland. Marilyn is willing to'go wherever Mildred is located and even accompany
her on any errands or appointments which may be part of her regular routine.
For these and other reasons which have previously been expressed to you, the best alternative is
for Marilyn to see her mother where she is staying, to avoid the unfamiliar environments chosen
to date such as hotels and hotel rooms, being a quiet and private setting to avoid tiring
distractions and confi~sion for Mildred. For the guardian to travel with Mildred such as to
O'Hare InternationalAirport and Hilton Hotel, I surmise is too taxing on all concerned,
Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
April 19, 2002
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particularly Mildred. I question the reasonableness of the guardian's decisions and actions in this
regard.
Regrettably, Mr. Gerber did not return Marilyn's phone call of April 16, if only to leave a
confirmatory message. Use of respective counsel should not always be necessary in
communicating confirmation of such arrangements. The Court provided visitation to my client
when she can make herself available. This is' understandable and reasonable as Mildred was
removed from Pennsylvania by decision of the guardian and Marilyn has the burden physically
and financially of traveling out of state to spend any time personally with her mother. No
credible basis has been given as to why Mildred cannot be available. This matter is unnecessarily
complicated and strained by the guardian insisting that all visits occur outside of Ms. Heflin's
home. Ostensibly, Ms. Heflin's employment would cause her as I understand it not to be home
during the visitation times, yet caregivers, social workers and Mr. Gerber himself would
otherwise be available. If Mildred's best interests are being considered, then Ms. Herin and Mr.
Gerber must reconsider these visitation arrangements for Mildred's comfort and health and
provide for them at home.
If you have any questions, please contact me. Otherwise I shall look forward to your reply with
respect to the April 24 and May I visits.
Very tru!.y yours,
Stanley J. A./Laskowski
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Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
Rupp and Meikle
P.O. Box 395
Camp Hill, PA 17001-0395
Re: Mildred Gerber
Dear Richard:
I have received your letter of earlier this afternoon. I have attempted to reach you by phone to
discuss the various points you have noted but I was informed that you were out of the office and
unavailable. Due to the shortness of time, this letter is to address the arrangements for
tomorrow's visit.
Marilyn is unable to change her work and flight schedule for tomorrow on such short notice. She
can only arrange to arrive and will be at the Embassy Suites Hotel, Lombard, IL at 1 p.m. (CDT)
tomorrow for her scheduled visit as per the court order. Marilyn is willing to accompany,
transport and assist her mother in getting to her afternoon appointment. Unfortunately, no details
were provided until this afternoon regarding Mildred's commitments and appointments, even
though we advised you of the visitation dates several weeks ago.
I will address separately the May 7 visit and the remaining points you have stated. Please call me
upon your return to the office so that we may discuss these matters further.
Very truly yours,
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Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
Rupp and Meikle
P.O. Box 395
Camp Hill, PA 17001-0395
Re: Mildred Gerber
Dear Richard:
I have received your letter of earlier this afternoon. I have attempted to reach you by phone to
discuss the various points you have noted but I was informed that you were out of the office and
unavailable. Due to the shortness of time, this letter is to address the arrangements for
tomorrow's visit.
Marilyn is unable to change her work and flight schedule for tomorrow on such short notice. She
can only arrange to arrive and will be at the Embassy Suites Hotel, Lombard, IL at 1 p.m. (CDT)
tomorrow for her scheduled visit as per the court order. Marilyn is willing to accompany,
transport and assist her mother in getting to her afternoon appointment. Unfortunately, no details
were provided until this afternoon regarding Mildred's commitments and appointments, even
though we advised you of the visitation dates several weeks ago.
I will address separately the May 7 visit and the remaining points you have stated. Please call me
upon your return to the office so that we may discuss these matters further.
Very truly yours,
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JAMES D. CAHPBEL/, JR. 3631 NORTH FRONT STREET THOMAS D. CALDWELL, JR.
JAMES L. GOLDSMITH HARRISBURG. PENNSYLVANIA 17110-1533 .ga8-aoo.
STANLEY J- A. LASKOWSKI
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Rupp and Meikle
P. O. Box 395
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RE: Mildred J. Gerber
Dear Richard:
I have endeavored on prior occasions to relate to you my client's abilities and limitations to be
available for visits and traveling to the Chicago area, but sadly to no avail. My client and I are
attempting to apprise you of available dates for visits as soon as they become known to Marilyn,
and we shall continue to do so.
Marilyn testified at the hearings as you recall, at least in part, concerning the nature of her
employment. Shifts are assigned to her at times normally 10 to 14 days, for example, in advance.
Marilyn surely would like to obtain a more firm work schedule for a month or greater period of
time in advance; however, she has no control over doing so.
When longer term arrangements are able to made by her employer with hospitals and care
providers, perhaps longer term scheduling from Marilyn's shifts will be available. For example,
Marilyn received only this morning her proposed work schedule for the remainder of May.
Based on that schedule, I am reporting to you that she can be available and commit to visits with
her mother on May 15, 21 and 26, 2002. Please confirm these dates with the guardian.
As Marilyn's shifts vary, it is difficult for purposes of timing, to arrange a period with
appropriate travel to and from Chicago, particularly for single day travel. Multiple day travel is
not feasible as it would conflict with such schedule. By the time Marilyn travels to the airport,
completes her flight, passes through security at both ends, obtains transportation or rental of a
car, and travel to the location for the visit, it is not reasonable or possible for her to arrive at the
guardian's designated site before 1:00 p.m. Marilyn's visitation days with her mother, for
example, are preceded and followed by an evening and/or night shift, which makes arranging
travel difficult.
Generally, therefore, visitation between 1:00 and 5.'00 p.m. best accommodates the time when
Marilyn can make herself available and travel to and from Chicago. As I explained to you
previously, Mildred's schedule is more flexible under the circumstances due to her limited
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May 3, 2002
Page 2
abilities and activities. Therefore, we have offered and requested before that reconsideration be
given by the guardian as to the physical arrangements made for the visit.
Marilyn remains willing to go where her mother is located to provide minimal discomfort and
disruption to her. Marilyn's attendance or even participation with her mother in her normal
Alzheimer acitivities, for example, should pose no problem and lead to a more productive visit.
My client as you should know is specifically trained and experienced in this type of care.
I understand the Social Worker, Joan Jackson, which has been engaged by the guardian, would
agree that the current isolated hotel arrangements are not optimal for Mildred's condition or
conducting a reasonable visit as ordered by the Court. I understand that Mildred is saddened by
the continued hostility and interference during visitations which is interjected against Marilyn
and frustration is exhibited at the location chosen for those visits.
More detail on Mildred's Alzheimer's activities is requested and would be greatly appreciated.
We understand that a senior citizen center and her Alzheimer's activities may be available on any
day. Allowing Marilyn to participate or at least attend such activities would provide a variety of
contact, stimulation and social interaction for Mildred and foster overall a less stressful
environment than currently exists than a highly structured and supervised visitation in an isolated
hotel room. We understand that Ms. Jackson would concur that interaction at the center would
be beneficial to Mildred.
Please confirm the arrangements and location for Marilyn's visit on May 7. Again this is needed
to occur between 1:00 and 5:00 p.m. on this day. Also please confirm visitation for May 15, 21
and 26 from 1:00 to 5:00 p.m. All times noted herein are CDT. I shall look forward to your
response. If you have any questions or would like to discuss these matters in more detail, please
call me.
Very truly yours,
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RE: Mildred J. Gerber
Dear Richard:
I am in receipt this afternoon by fax of your letter dated May 3, 2002. Your accusations and suppositions
concerning Marilyn as stated therein are without merit and factual basis. For instance, Marilyn in fact was
not in Chicago on Tuesday, April 30, but in Harrisburg. Your information is wholly unfounded and so is
the alleged skepticism for unreasonably insisting on a visit to occur between 10 a.m. and 2 p.m. (CDT) in
Chicago.
You have not provided any information regarding Mildred's alleged Alzheimer's activities, their location,
nature and extent, type, time or the identity of the facility. There are a variety of adult centers and
facilities in the area where Mildred is staying that offer alzheimer's activities, mondays through fridays,
generally 7 a.m. to 5 p.m., which offer flexible scheduling. Similarly, you have not provided any basis as
to why Marilyn could not attend, assist or even just observe her mother's activities. Families of
alzheimer's patients are encouraged to participate and share in such activities. I again note that Marilyn
will support her mother's activities and will go tomorrow wherever they are to be held so that any
cancellation by the guardian of either the visit or Mildred's activities is entirely unnecessary. Please
confirm upon receipt of this letter whether a time conflict still exists for tomorrow's visit or if the
guardian will not permit the visit to occur.
As you have chosen apparently not to discuss these issues or provide basic information, we find your
client's efforts disingenuous and obstructive to complying with the court order. I asked that you call me to
discuss these matters in detail but to no avail. Unfortunately, it appears we will need to bring the timing
and location issues in general to the court for a resolution unless you advise me promptly that your client
is willing to reconsider his decision.
Stanley J. AtYLaskowski
CALDWEL'L & KEARNS
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THOMAS D. CALDWELL, JR.
JAMES L. GOLDSMITH HARRISBURG, PENNSYLVANIA 17110-1533
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Re: Access visits - Mildred Gerber - May 21
Dear Richard:
I am in receipt of your fax this afiemoon regarding tomorrow's access visit. I have again
attempted to reach you by phone to discuss these matters without success. Marilyn can only be
available 1:00 - 5:00 p.m.(CDT) tomorrow due to her confirmed travel arrangements. As of this
date I have not received from you any substantive response to my letters of May 3 and May 6,
2002. The activities in which Mildred participates tomorrow can be attended and supported by
Marilyn, wherever they may be located. You have provided no basis to support otherwise and
thus Mr. Gerber is in contempt of the court's order. In accordance with that order, Marilyn will
be arriving at the Embassy Suites by 1:00 p.m. tomorrow. Please advise your client accordingly
and if you have any questions, please contact me.
Vep.~-~yours, F / ,
Stanley J.A.fl_~asko'wski
CALDWELL & KEARNS
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Stanley J. Laskowski, Esquire
Caldwell & Kearns
3631 N. Front Street
Harrisburg, PA 17110
Re: Marilyn Gerber - Mildred Gerber access visits
Dear Stan:
i wrote you yesterday by fax in error. I misunderstood the Guardian's
message to me.
The Guardian did not set up for any access visit today, May 21, based on our
previous communications to you that mom would be unavailable for access visits on
Tuesdays and Thursdays.
Further, all other access visits would occur from 10:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. CDT,
unless otherwise mutually agreed by both parties.
I attempted to call you upon learning of my error before 6:00 p.m. yesterday,
May 20, with the correct message, but I could only leave a message on your voice
mail system.
I very much regret this error in communication ize for it.
C. Ru
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Re: Access visit - Mildred Gerber - May 31
Dear Richard:
Regrettably, your client has canceled Marilyn's visits for both May 21 and 26, without
justification. My client bears the burden of traveling a great distance and at substantial expense
to be able to have a short visit with her mother. As the last two visits have been canceled,
Marilyn is next available on May 31, 2002 from I p.m. to 5 p.m. (CDT) for a visit with Mildred.
I have explained previously that conducting these visits between I0 a.m. and 2 p.m. are not
acceptable or feasible for Marilyn due to her work schedule and travel needs. On the other hand,
you have yet to offer any explanation as to why the visits must occur only during this time period
(or for that matter must exclude Tuesdays and Thursdays).
Please confirm that your client will comply with the next requested visit of May 31, 2002 ( i p.m.
- 5 p.m. CDT) and do so sooner than the eve of the visit as has been done for prior requests.
V?_~ tr~y yours. ' ~
Stanley J.A'~. Laskowski
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Re: Marilyn Gerber - Mildred Gerber access visits
Deor Sfon:
This letter both responds to your request for an access visit for Marilyn on 31
May 2002 as well as future access visits.
1. As i previously informed you, the Guardian has respectfully requested
and advised that access visits not occur on Tuesdays nor Thursdays of a
week by reason of Mom's enrollment in pre-scheduled Alzheimer's
activities at an adult care facility in order to provide a weekly routine in
mom's best interests which provides needed and appropriate
stimulation for Mom. By reason of these prescheduled Alzheimer's
activities on Tuesdays and Thursdays, mom is unavailable for access
visits.
2. Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays are perfectly fine for Marilyn's
access visits.
However, the times of the visits should be from 10:00 a.m. - 2..00 p.m. local
time (CDT).
The visits will occur at Embassy Suites Hotel in Lombard, IL, unless otherwise
specified by the Guardian.
FROM : Rupp & M~ikl~ FAX NO. : 738 8214 May. 38 2802 12:05PM P2
3. The Guardian respectfully requests and advises that there can be no
access visits on Sundays as Mom is unavailable as Mom routinely goes
to Church and brunch with family and is unavailable for Sunday access
visits.
4. The Guardian respectfully requests and advises that there be no visits
on holidays as Mom is often away with family and, therefore,
unavailable for access visits on holidays.
5. With respect to Saturdays, the Guardian respectfully requests that
Saturday visits be avoided as Mom is also away with family and,
therefore unavailable.
6. The Guardian further requests 30-days advance request for Marilyn's
access visits. This time frame is requested Jn order to assist the
Guardian fo avoid scheduling activities, coordination of persons needed
to allow the access visit, to insure the obtaining of a location, and
thereby barfer allow Marilyn's access visits so that mom is available for
said access visits.
Presumably, this time frame would also better assist Marilyn in planning her
access visits to Chicago.
7. With respect to the visit requested for 31 May 2002, please be advised
that Mom has a previously scheduled dental appointment from 10:00
a.m. - 12;00 p.m. CDT. The Guardian cannot obviously guarantee
what condition Mom will be in after sitting in the dental chair
immediately prior to another required visit from Marilyn.
The Guardian personally asked Mom if Mom thought she would feel up to
v~siting with Marilyn this Friday after her dental appointment. Mom replied 'No! I
don't want to see her this Friday or any other day. I certainly don't want to see her
after someone has been poking around in my mouth."
However, if Marilyn wishes to continue her request for this Friday, 31 May
2002, the Guardian will produce mom for an access visit from 1:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m.
CDT at Embassy Suites in Lombard, IL.
In summary, per the Guardian's request, there should be no access visits
requested for Tuesdays and Thursdays by reason of Mom's prescheduled A~zheimer's
activities which are for mom's benefit and best interests whereby Mom is unavailable
for access visits.
Monday, Wednesday and Friday access visits are fine, occurring between
10:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. CDT.
FROM : Rupp & Mcikl~ FAX NO. : ?30 0214 May. 30 2002 12:06PM P3
There should be no access visits on holidays or Sundays as mom is unavailable
and Saturdays are requested to not occur to ensure availability of Mom.
The Guardian requests 30 days advance notice in order to effectively plan,
coordinate and schedule the access visits into mom's schedule.
Marilyn's access visits will occur at the Embassy Suites Hotel, Lombard, IL,
unless otherwise specified by the Guardian.
Please advise whether Marilyn still wishes to continue the 31 May 2002 access
visit which will occur immediately after Mom's dental appointment.
I look forward to hearing from you with respect to the 31 May 2002 access
visit request.
Best regards. ~//.~
ictard C. Rupp
RCR/lin
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Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
Law Offices of Rupp and Meikle
P. O. Box 395
355 North 21st Street, Suite 205
Camp Hill, PA 17011-0395
RE' Mildred Gerber Access Visits
Dear Richard:
Unfortunately, our office did not receive your confirmation facsimile for today's visit until
later this morning and not in time for Marilyn to make her flight. These scheduling
matters would be more expeditiously resolved at less cost to all concerned if the
Guardian or even Ms. Heflin would be willing to communicate directly with Marilyn.
In any event, our position remains that 1:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. (CDT) is when my
client can arrange to be available. A 12:00 noon to 4:00 p.m. (CDT) visit is
unacceptable. I have been authorized and directed by Marilyn to bring these matters to
the Court for a resolution. In the interim, Marilyn can arrange to be in Chicago for a visit
with her mother from 1:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. (CDT) either on Monday, June 24, 2002 or
Friday, June 28, 2002. Please advise which date is acceptable.
If you have any questions, please contact me
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Stanley J. ~. Laskowski
CALDWELL & KEARNS
SJAL:sme
41475
cc: Marilyn Jo Gerber
CALDWELL & KEARNS
A PROFESSIONAL CORPORATION
CARL G. WASS ATTORNEYS AT LAW OF COUNSEL
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CHARLES U. DEHART. III
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STANLEY J. A. LASKOWSKt
JEFFREY T. MCGUIRE'
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Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
Law Offices of Rupp and Meikle
P. O. Box 395
355 North 21st Street, Suite 205
Camp Hill, PA 17011-0395
RE: Mildred Gerber Access Visits
Dear Richard:
This letter is in response to several of your comments by letter of June 12, 2002. When
I had spoken to you that Wednesday, it was the second of my calls as the first call in
the early morning was not returned by you. As I explained, I was leaving for an
appointment and would be out of the office in the afternoon and was endeavoring to
leave a message with you for purposes of confirming the time of the visit for June 14.
As I further explained, it was our understanding, based upon your prior
communications, that either the visit would occur between 10:00 a.m. and 2:00 p.m. as
noted in your correspondence, or otherwise it would not take place.
I noted in our discussion that I found your position in this matter to be unreasonable on
the scheduling of visits and that I have attempted on many prior occasions to work this
matter out with you. As the guardian intended, as we understand it, to remain firm on
how the visits are being conducted and the time during which they are only to be
conducted, I expressed my client's frustration to you that it appears we have no
alternative but to return to the Court with these issues.
The Court Order clearly directs that my client is entitled to "visit with her mother for 4
continuous hours each week when Marilyn Gerber can arrange to be where her mother
is located." My client can arrange and has arranged to be in Chicago June 19 for a
Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
June 27, 2002
Page 2
visit between 1:00 and 5:00 p.m. with Mildred. Marilyn's flight had been pre-booked
and paid with notice to you of this date on June 4, 2002.
As I have noted on prior occasions to you, Marilyn is a per diem nurse, whose schedule
and job locations are subject to change and do change at times with short notice.
Advance scheduling is difficult for Marilyn; however, we will continue to give advance
notice to you of visitation dates as much as is possible.
The guardian I believe should give consideration to my client's ability to arrange to
travel to Chicago. The majority of this burden and expense is for Marilyn to coordinate
this with her work schedule as best can be done under the circumstances. Marilyn has
attempted to make the most feasible and reasonable single-day travel arrangements
which would fit within her schedule without altering the course of Mildred's routine day.
To this end, we have requested the ability to visit with Mildred at her home, Alzheimer
activities or other functions to which she must attend without disruption to her.
However, consistently, we have been met only with the guardian's demand for the
structured and supervised environment at the hotel, which we continue to object to and
find as unreasonable and unnecessary.
I believe that a request for written verifications of Marilynn's work schedule from her
employer in any event is onerous and unreasonable. "Proof positive" of my client's
whereabouts and work schedule at all times to the guardian for his benefit is not
required or reasonable.
In a similar note, again you raise the issue of my client's whereabouts on April 30.
Marilyn has satisfactorily explained to me her presence in Harrisburg on April 30. You
have neither shared with me any of the "information" or the source of this information to
the guardian as of this date to warrant any further response by my client. On the other
hand, your client's staunch insistence on evidentiary verification of my client's
whereabouts on April 30 are irrelevant and not conducive to amicably resolving these
matters.
The visits by Marilynn are scheduled in advance as much as possible, as well as at
hours which are reasonable, being mid-day times, for example, during which Mrs.
Gerber is otherwise active, such as with her own Alzheimer functions on Tuesdays and
Thursdays, or other appointments which you have noted in prior correspondence.
Afternoon visits allow my client to reasonably travel to and from Chicago within the
same day. In order to arrive at a visit to be scheduled for 10:00 a.m. (CDT) is unduly
burdensome, and would require my client to unreasonably arise between 3:00 and 4:00
a.m., typically after working a shift on the prior day or evening, to board a flight between
7:00 and 8:00 a.m.
Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
June 27, 2002
Page 3
Further, the visits which have been occurring have typically in any event been cut short
after 2 1/2 to 3 hours. The environment and location of these visits we believe is a
substantial contributing factor to this. The visits have been occurring in any event
substantially between 1:00 and 5:00 p.m. to date.
It is our view that if you claim to be experiencing an aggravation of Mildred's mental
condition or anxiety to her as a result of the visits, you should take a closer examination
of the circumstances and conditions under which these visits have been conducted.
We do not believe that they are conducive to a personal and meaningful exchange
between Marilyn and her mother.
Many times, I have explained to you that Marilyn will go to, attend or support her
mother's activities wherever they may be held. The guardian yet refuses to consider
allowing Marilyn to do so. Very scant, if any, information about Mrs. Gerber's daily
schedule or activities is provided to Marilyn, although we have requested it. I have
shared my client's concerns with you regarding the conditions under which these visits
have been conducted. The visits are typically confined to a hotel room. There is no
ability for Mildred and Marilyn to even go for a walk about or outside the facility. On two
occasions, Marilyn has asked to take Mildred shopping, such as at T.J. Max's, which is
only a few miles away from the hotel in Lombard. These requests have been refused.
My client's requests to attend Mildred's Alzheimer's or senior care center facilities are
refused, even were it only for Marilyn to be able to observe her mother so that she
could gain a further understanding of her mother's condition and abilities and determine
how to better interact with her during visits.
The visits being conducted are observed and thus supervised purportedly by Joan
Jackson, which detracts from any informality and personal nature of the visit. On recent
occasions, where visits are attended by Miss Heflin, she has exhibited hostility and rude
behavior toward my client. She obstructs interaction by Madlyn with her mother, sits
regularly by Mildred's side, makes negative comments about Marilyn and the situation .
in Mildred's presence. She conducts personal business in the midst of Marilyn's
discussions with her mother to the distraction of the visit.
Marilyn has further concerns regarding the soundness of the guardian's decisions
generally in these matters, including, for example: Mildred remaining in Chicago at a
place which is not a family home and where space is limited; no information is shared
about Mildred's current medical condition, current or prospective treatment respectively
she is receiving or will receive, if any; no information is shared about Mildred's current
daily activities, caregivers and current primary care physicians; no information is shared
about what efforts have been taken to maintain Mildred's nutrition and improve her
general physical condition; no information is shared about her Alzheimer's activities;
Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
June 27, 2002
Page 4
and no information is shared regarding Mildred's personal accommodations, living
arrangements and/or daily schedule while staying at Jane's home, for example, is there
adequate space and access in and about the home for Mildred even to go for a walk or
freely move about?
On the other hand, I believe it is the guardian Who is not helping matters by taking such
an obstructionist view on even a simple visit for a few hours. You have requested
suggestions as to alternative visit locations. I again have explained to you that neither
Marilyn nor I are familiar enough with the locality where Mildred is residing to suggest
specific locations. On consideration of the matter, please let us know what Mr. Gerber
and Miss Heflin do with Mildred when they are together and where they may go with her
when they do take her out. Perhaps this will advance our discussion of the matter.
Absent any suggestions from the guardian, we offer the following: Marilyn reiterates her
request to visit her mother at Jane's home and at her mother's daycare center
Alzheimer activities, as we believe this is the most natural and familiar environment to
Mildred; Marilyn would like to have lunch alone with her mother, such that either Fred,
Jane or other caretaker who bdngs her to the visit can sit elsewhere in the restaurant
when this occurs; take her mother shopping; go for a walk, in a park or elsewhere,
(weather permitting) other than the hotel or hotel room; go to church; dine at a
restaurant other than at the hotel; and/or visit her senior daycare center or other
facilities where Mildred enjoys going.
My client's suggestions have been made during prior visits and rejected. I do not find
this conducive to Mildred's best interests and being flexible to other activities which
Mildred may enjoy and share with Marilyn. If the guardian has suggestions of other
locations or activities in which the visit can be conducted, please advise.
If you have any questions or would like to discuss this matter further, please call me.
Ve~_ry_~ruly yours,
Stanley J. A. Laskowski
CALDWELL & KEARNS
SJAL:sme
cc: Marilyn Jo Gerber
01-607/41175-1
July 6,2002
TO: Fred Gerber via Richard Rupp
FROM: Marilyn Gerber
RE: Upcoming v isIts
Since my attorney Stun Laskowski has been absent for the last week, I called your
office on Wednesday, July 3,2002 to inform you of a schedule change for my visits with
my mother in July. My nursing schedule is subject to change at sho~t notice without my
control. Therefore, I am requesting the following dates. July 10,2002, July 17,2002
and July 26,2002. 113ave booked and paid for these reservations. The times are from
13:00 tO 17:00 {CDT). I am not able to arrive at any other time.
I am requesting that I receive confirmation for the July 10 visit on Tuesday,July 9 by
late morning_ I would also like a confirmation as to the other dates by the end of this
week. For the past three months, you have confirmed my reservations only on the day
before my departure for Chicago in the very late afternoon. Often these confirmations
have been faxed after 5PM and once my attorney had to come in on a Saturday. This
is unacceptable and clearly is inten~led to harass me. In order to reserve discounted
fares, I need to purchase tickets two weeks in advance and these fares are not
refundable. Your continued pattern of only letting me know less than 16 hours prior to
my departure to see mother is financially abusive. '1 have had to pay finance fees on
unreturned fares for several weeks.
An example of your increased abuse is that for my requested visit with Mother on
June 19,2002, was only answered on June 19, at 10:30 AM. What flight did you
expect me to take on the same day? I then requested June 24 and June 28,2002.
This time you never even responded to my requests. It is clear to me that you could
not conduct military affairs t~is way nor would you subject my sister to this method of
travel planning,
I would also like to bring to your attention my sister Jane's behavior at the visits with
my mother. Jane has been openly hostile with me since her presence With mother in
April. Her visible hatred and hostile communication in front of mother is unacceptable
and is clearly disturbing to mother. This has been witnessed by Joan Jackson and
Louise Warren. Jane does everything she can to create an unwelcomed atmosphere
and it is clear that her actions are intentional. Jane assaulted me on my February 9
visit in front of witnesses and mother. Jane on the subsequent visits has been nasty
and threatening to me in front of our mother. As a nurse I can tell you that this is
destructive for mother's well being. Her behavior is also disburbing to me and is
abusive. As mother's guardian, it is your responsibility to make sure that mother is in a
healthy enviornment. Since you are not frequently present in Chicago, it concerns me
if you actually really know what is happening. Mother 13as verbally told me that she
knows that Jane and you do not like me. This is not acceptable behavior to tell mother
as It causes her concern and sadness and confusion. This Is cruel to cio this to a
patient who suffers from dementia. I never prevented either you or Jane from visiting
mother. ! always supported your visits would be private without my presence. I have
not taken anything from either of you. It is confusing to me that neither of you can
conduct yourselves as adults and put mother first. You both discredit our father and
what our parents raised us to be. Have you forgotten Dad's last words to all of us?
If Jane's behavior does not change, I will asl( the Judge to restrain her from
abusing me and mother. You will be held responsible for not fullfiling your guardian
responsibilities.
I am sure that I do not need to remind you that Judge Bayly ordered that I am to visit
Mother on a weekly basis when I can arrange it for four continous hours. Since April,in
the 14 weeks available for me to visit mother, you have allowed me only six visits. Two
weeks ! was not able to visit mother. That leaves six weeks that you have refused me
a visit with mother. In May and June, you only allowed me to visit mother once. It is
clear tl3at you have no intention of letting me see mother. This is your continued
pattern of abusing me.
I continue to protest and object to your forcing mother to be Imprlsonned in a hotel
room for four hours. Mother is taken to an unfamiliar setting where she is confused
and unhappy in addition to having a hostile daughter, Jane and an unfamiliar social
worker sitting in the same room. Mother has rights wherever she lives and she is not a
guest in Jane's house as long as she is kept there. Mother has the right to receive her
family and daughter in her "home" where she is confortable, familiar and happy. It is
cruel to subject mother to this continued imprisonnment. In her home, Mom can get up
and walk around, eat a snack, go to her own room, sit in her chair and be comfortable.
You will not find any nurse or social worker to testify that the conditions that you are
putting Mom through are conducive to her wellbeing. The visit on May 7, resulted in
Mother being taken to two hotels for the visit which resulted in mother being agitated
and miserable. This last visit on July 5, the room was so cold that mother was shaking.
Since mother has lost significant weight, she does not have enough muscle mass to
keep warm. I got a blanket for MOm. i called the front desk to try a get another room
with Jane threatening me. I then had to open the front door to warm up the room.
Jane did nothing. This is outrageous and supports the fact that Mom needs to be in
her own home where she is free to receive her daughter and friends_
I have continously asked to take Mom shopping and Jane refuses. I have asked to
have lunch with Mom and what I find when I arrive is Mom has already sat in the
restaurant for an hour eating lunch and therefore also wants to leave earlier. I have
never had a four hour visit with Mom which is in contempt of Judge Bayly's order. I do
not think that this is the scenario that Judge Bayly had in mind when he made his
decision in March.
I am concerned as to your care of Mother. She is clearly not thriving under your
care. You deliberatly left Mom alone in November which resulted in her injuries which
you have not clearly explained. Your medical reports from Betra were clearly absent
for that week in November and early December. Mom has lost excessive weight under
you care. You have now submitted Mom to three different sets of medical specialists
since January 2001. Mother looks like a Holocust victim. Her eyes are deep sockets.
You have not provided her with her supportive corset which she has worn for 55 years.
She is not even given a bra to support her breasts. If Mom should become seriously
ill, she will not have enough body mass to survive. You also lost no time in removing
Mom from her home of 34 years. You have taken her from all she loves in her home,
her friends, her ChUrCh and I:)rlests, her community. You have subjected her to a less
affluent homeenvlomment in a community where she knows no one. You have
provided Mom with only homemakers. She has no nursing supervision. Jane clearly
Is traveling frequently out of state. You also are traveling. What happened to your
testimony of visiting Mom every weekend?
I am outraged at your treatment of Mother. You have disgraced our parents in the
entire community. You have clearly caused Mo~er great distress and sorrow, if our
father was alive today, this would never have happened and I am certain that he would
not approve at your treatment of me and especially of our Mother. You have gone out
of your way in the last four years to cause me physical, emotional and financial abuse.
I am not 9oing to allow you to victimize Mother or me anymore. I am putting you on
notice that I will seek any legal means available to seek protection of my mother and
myself. Your behavior is out of control. Whatever your "beef" is with me, you should
have resolved it by now. You are an adult and you testified that you were a Christian
soldier. Grow up Fred. I have never treated you this way and no one deserves your
-brand of terroism. Every 'titary family that knew and loved D- -~ and Mom are
outraged and saddened at your behavior. Several of them ha~.., shared that they are
afraid of you.
You have also defied every Judge and banl(ing institution in refusing to provide an
accounting of two Trusts fun(Ss set up by Dad. For four years despite my request, you
have refused to account for monies which are not yours. You have ignored your
fiduciary responsibility as Trustee. Your attorneys, Herbert and Richard, for four years
have stated that you were working on this. You have failed to protect assets or
investments anti lost a sizeable amount of money which was never yours. You have
deliberately refused me my share of monies from my Trust fund and tried to convince
the courts that I have stolen monies which is unfounded and you cannot prove. You
have not kept your word on any monies due to me from my TruSt. In fact, you have
lied under oath more than once in the past four years. Now you have cost Mother over
$10,000 in legal fees that PNC has had to incur just to order an accounting. Who do
you think you are and why do you think that you above the law, the courts? What are
you hiding,Fred? You are also still in contempt In Judge Oler's court for failure to
supply a proper accounting from July 2001. Are you completely without any sense of
responsibility or duty to the hard earned monies of Dad and Mom?
July 22,2002
TO: Fred Gerber
Richard Rupp
FROM: Marilyn Gerber
Dear Richard:
I am writing you directly as my attorney, Stan Laskowski is on vacation all this week
and will not return until July 29,2002. I am requesting a response to my requested visit
with my mother on Friday, July 26,2002. As you know, this visit was requested weeks
ago by Stan and to this date, we have received no answer on my visit.
If you recall in your letter dated May 30,2002, you stated that my brother requested
that I provide him with 30 days advance notice of my visits. My attorney also explained
to you in many letters that it is not possible for me to give you 30 days due to the
variability of my nursing schedule.
What is remarkalbe is that even with several weeks advance notice, two weeks
advance notice, Fred consistently waits until the very last minute to confirm my visit
with mother. This causes me great distress as I never know is I am going to fly out on
the requested date, confirm my reservations, purchase tickets at a discount and have
to put all of my other activities on hold until I know if I will travel. I would think that with
several weeks notice, my brother would already know what his schedule or my sister's
schedule is as they already had their own 30 days agenda established!
I am tired of waiting until 4:30PM (EDT) the day before my visit to hear if I will be
able to visit my mother. Last week, you indicated in a letter that my mother would be
going to a doctor's appointment in the morning and would be tired and not able to
keep my court ordered visit with my mother. When I arrived on July 17,2002, at 1 PM
(CDT) at the Embassy Suites, my mother stated several times that she had not gone to
a doctor that morning. Joan Jackson was present to hear this and Jane refused to
confirm this.
I was also particularly distrubed at your letter last week to Stan stating that my
mother is loosing weight and that I am responsible for her weight loss due to my visits.
As a nurse, my immediate response is that since I was only allowed to see my mother
once in May, and once in June, it is inconceivable that my brother and sister have this
belief. Do you have a doctor's evaluation to support your accusation?
I continue to express my concern for my mother's health and marked continued
weight loss. I have continued to request a status of my mother's health and who has
been overseeing my mother's nutrition and dietary needs. As you, my mother has
enough financial assets to even have a full-time dietician live with my mother. In the
medical reports from Betra given to us at 5PM the evening before the December
19,2002 guardianship hearing, it was clearly evident that mother had lost significant
weight due to her fall on November 4,2001. This fall was due to my brother's
neglegence in leaving her alone despite her caregivers advice. I believe that my
mother's sudden decline and weight loss is directly related to her fall, her esential
"kidnapping" from her home in New Cumberland to Chicago and her continued
isolation in Chicago.
I am also concerned that my brother is not present to monitor my mother as
guardian and that my sister, Jane Heflin is frequently absent from Illinois, out of state
on business. If you remember, my sister stated on March 23,2002, that her job was in
New York. I again am asking my brother to inform me as to who is watching my
mother when Jane is absent for a week,and sometimes weeks at a time? Are their
nurses, CNA's with licensed experience supervising my mother?
I am also concerned if my brother will confirm as to the protection of my mother from
the extreme heat at my sister's home. Yesterday, it was 100F and to the best of my
knowledge, there is no air-conditioning in my sister's home. If air conditioning has
been recently installed for my mother's comfort, did my brother pay for this expense
and thereby enrich my sister's home? I hope that my mother is not subjected to air
fans or window air-conditioners which will drive my mother crazy as she hated the air
currents or noise when she was at her best.
My last concern is that during my last visit with my mother, my sister Jane refused to
drop my mother off in front of the hotel and instead parked my mother's car many lanes
away from the entrance. My mother required me and Joan Jackson to assist her to the
front entrance. When it came time to leave the hotel, I asked my sister Jane to bring
the car to the front entrance. My sister's response was, "it is good exercise for her".
As a geriatric nurse of 17 years experience, I can tell you that it does not take very long
in exposure to heat for an elderly person to become weak and dehydrated. This is
unacceptable behavior and demonstrates the lack of medical knowledge and concern
on my sister's part.
What will my sister and brother do when my mother becomes infirmed and can no
longer walk, get into a car and travel to a hotel room where my sister confines her for
2-3 hours?
I need to have a confirmation of my visit with my mother for July 26,2002 from 1-
5PM (CDT) by Wednesday, July 24,2002. This is not new news. I am also requesting
the following dates for August. August 7,15,and 22,2002. August 15,22 are Thursdays
and I have fairly good knowledge that my mother is not attending Senior Day Care on
a regular basis if at all. My sister let it slip out on my visit two weeks ago that mother
has not been to the Senior Day Care Center for a while. I will remind you again, the
Senior Day Care Centers have informed me that my mother can attend their centers
form Monday through Friday from 8AM until 4:30PM. There is no reason why my
brother insists that I cannot visit on Tuesdays and Thursdays. As my brother refuses
me to visit my mother on any weekend or holidays, I am only left with Monday,
Wednesday and Fridays. This is punitive and restrictive and a complete violation of
Judge Bayley's order.
If my brother refuses to allow me to visit my mother on Thursday, August 15 and 22,
then I am requesting August 14 and 21,2002. However, I shall state and protest that
this will be at a great difficulty on my part due to my at times exhaustive nursing
schedule. In order to make discounted reservations, I will need two weeks advance
notice and confirmation for each of my requested dates in August. This means that I
will need to know by July 24 for August 7 and by August I for August 15 and by August
8 forAugust 22. If I am refused these two Thursdays, then I will need to know by July
31 for August 14 and for August 7 for August 21.
I would also not like to wait until the last minute much less only two weeks notice as
this is high season of vacation time. If I purchase these discounted tickets two weeks
prior to my visit, there is no refund. II have not even gone into to difficulty in reserving a
rent a car at the airport. Because I do not know which days I will be traveling due to
my brother's relunctance to confirm until the last minute, I am forced to pay sometimes
$60 or greater for a rent a car which I use for only six hours. This is punitive and
deliberate on my brother's part.
I have confirmed and paid reservations for July 26,2002, Friday.
Marilyn G~rber, RN
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THOMAS D. CALDWELL, JR.
JAMES L. GOLDSMITH HARRISBURG, PENNSYLVANIA 17110-1533
STANLEY J. A, LASKOWSKI
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DOUGLAS K, MARSICO
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P.O. Box 395
Camp Hill, PA 17001-0395
Re:Mildred J. Gerber - access visits
Dear Richard:
I have received today Judge Bayley's Order dated July 29, 2002 denying Mr. Gerber's motion to suspend the
access visits and directing that the prior Order stands. As a visit was denied for July 26, 2002 based upon the
reports that were submitted with the motion, a denial of further visitations by Marilyn is unwarranted. As a
makeup for the lost visit of July 26, Marilyn can still arrange to travel to Chicago on Thursday August 1, 2002
(1:00pm to 5:00pm CDT). I understand that this is limited notice, but ask that you confer in any event with Mr.
Gerber about accommodating this visit and advise me tomorrow.
In addition, confirmation is requested for the August visitation dates noted in Marilyn's July 22, 2002 letter
(attached as Exhibit G to the motion). A prompt response is requested so that travel arrangements can be
completed as several options were given.
Further, please advise and confirm the dates on which Mrs. Gerber has attended her Senior Day Care Center
since April 17, 2002 to the present as well as the location and identity of the Center. We would also like to
know what activities she engages in while at the center.
Once again, I restate Marilyn's request to visit with her mother at Jane's home as opposed to an isolated hotel
room. This would avoid the need for any travel by Mrs. Gerber, particularly if excessive heat prevails, allow
Mrs. Gerber to remain in a familiar environment, accommodate any needed breaks and provide a more
comfortable and quiet environmentl
If you would like to discuss these matters further, please call me.
'~_t~y yours, _(__~
Stanley J.A.~,,~Tkowski
CALDWELI~v'& KEARNS
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Stanley J. Laskowski, Esquire
Caldwell & Kearns
3631N. Front Street
Harrisburg, PA 1 7110
Re: Marilyn Gerber - Access Visits with Mildred Gerber
Dear Slam
This letter will confirm my office's telephorm message to your office yesterday,
Monday, August 5, that the Guardian will allow an access visit between Marilyn and
her mother on Wednesday, August 7, from 1:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m. CDT if Marilyn
insists on those times.
We reiterate that the Guardian believes those limes may not be in the best
interests of her mother for her health and well-being. However, if Marilyn insists on
those times, the Guardian will allow the access visit at these times; in spite of the fact
that there are planes that fly from Harrisburg to Chicago to permit an access visit
beginning at 10:00 a.m. CDT.
Furthermore, the Guardian has approved Marilyn's requested access visits for
Wednesday, August 14, and Wednesday, August 21, also from 1:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m.
CDT jf Marilyn insists on those hours, despite the potential detriment to her mother.
The Guardian implements the following requirements for conduct of the
access visit for these access visits and any further access visits:
1. The visits will be conducted whenever possible by a social worker or caretaker
for the mother, Mildred J. Gerber, especially one trained in the care of elderly
or geriatric patients, if available.
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2. Mother's caretaker will be ultimately responsible for mother's health, well-
being and mental state during the access visit. If at any time the caretaker
observes displays of emotional upset, mental upset, frustration, agitation or
anger in mother, the Guardian is authorizing the mother's caretaker to take a
break during the access visit for the benefit of the mother. The Guardian will
allow such a break to be at the complete and ultimate discretion of the
caretaker.
3. The Guardian is suggesting to the caretaker that there be a 5 - 10 minute
break every hour during the access visit.
4. The Guardian is suggesting to the caretaker that there may be a longer break
needed for the benefit of the mother between the first half and the second
half of the access visit for the mother's benefit. Again, these breaks will be at
the absolute discretion of the caretaker who is assigned at that time to taking
care of the mother and such discretion may not be questioned nor challenged,
as said discretion is to be exercised solely for the benefit of the mother.
5. If the caretaker observes constant agitation in the mother which cannot be
mitigated, mollified or corrected by the caretaker, including the use of break
times, the caretaker will be authorlzed to terminate the access visit for the
health, mental and emotional well-being of th~ mother.
6. Questions concerning the mother should not be made by hAarilyn to either the
caretaker or any other person present during the access visit but should rather
be placed into writing and sent to the Guardian.
The purpose of these requirements is to protect and promote the best interests
and welfare of the mother.
Also, we note that certain questions by Marilyn indicate that Marilyn believes
that she is "super-Guardian" over and above the Court-appointed Guardian, her
brother. The Guardian will be happy to respond to appropriate questions which
should not be raised durinc/an access visit for the benefit and well-being of the
mother, but any inquiry should be directed in writing to the Guardian and will be
promptly responded to.
Thank you for your attention to these imp~ /~
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Stanley J. Laskowski, Esquire
Caldwell & Kearns
3631N. Front Street
Harrisburg, PA 1 7110
Re: Marilyn Gerber- Access Visits with Mildred Gerber
Clarification
Dear Stan:
It has been brought to my attention that I should make a clarification to my
letter dated August 6, 2002 to you regarding the August 7 access rules and the
requirements that the Guardian is imposing for the proper conduct for the access
visits between MarJlyn Gerber and their mother, Mildred J. Gerber.
The clarification is that the Guardian proposes to have a social worker conduct
the access visit and be in charge of the access visit for the benefit, welfare and well-
being of the parties' mother, Mildred J. Gerber. For example, if the Guardian
employs someone from Sanders & Warren, that social worker from Sanders &
Warren will be in charge of the access visit and to see that it is properly conducted to
both effectuate the access vislf as well as promote and protect the health, mental
and emotional well-being of Mildred J. Gerber.
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In my letter to you, I meant to use the word caretaker or caregiver as a
synonym to social worker. However, as Jane Gerber or others may be considered a
caretaker or caregiver, as distinguished from the social worker employed by Sanders
& Warren or any other firm, I wish to clarify to you that the social worker from
Sanders & Warren will be designated the party in charge of the access visit.
I hope this clarification is helpful to you.
Best regards.
Yours sincerely,
Richard C. Rupp
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Sanders & Warren
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Stanley J. Laskowski, Esquire
Caldweil & Kearns
3631N. Front Street
Harrisburg, PA 1 7110
Re: Marilyn Gerber - Mildred Gerber access visits
Dear Stan:
This letter both responds fo your request for an access visit for AAarilyn on 31
May 2002 as well as future access visits.
1. As I previously informed you, the Guardian has respectfully requested
and advised that access visits not occur on Tuesdays nor Thursdays of a
week by mason of Mom's enrollment in pm-scheduled Alzheimer's
activities at an adult care facilily in order to provide a weekly routine in
mom's best interests which provides needed and appropriate
stimulation for Mom. By reason of these prescheduled Alzheimer's
activities on Tuesdays and Thursdays, mom is unavailable for access
visits.
2. Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays are perfectly fine for Marilyn's
access visits.
However, the times of the visits should be from 10:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. local
time (CDT).
The visits will occur at Embassy Suites Hotel in Lombard, IL, unless otherwise
specified by the Guardian.
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3. The Guardian respe~'tfully requests and advises that there can be no
access visits on Sundays as Mom is unavailable as Mom routinely goes
to Church and brunch with family and Js unavailable for Sunday access
visits. ',
4. The Guardian respectfully requests and advises that there be no visits
on holidays as Mom is often away with family and, therefore,
unavailable for access visits on holidays.
5. With respect to Saturdays, the GUardian respectfully requests that
Saturday visits be avoided as Mom is also away with family and,
therefore unavailable.
6. The Guardian further requests 30-days advance request for Marilyn's
access visits. This time frame is requested in order to assist the
Guardian to avoid scheduling activities, coordination of'persons needed
to allow the access visit, to insure the obtaining of a location, and
thereby better allow Marilyn's access visits so that mom is available for
said access visits.
Presumably, this time frame would also better assist Marilyn in planning her
access visits to Chicago.
7. With respect to the visit requested for 31 May 2002, please be advised
that Mom has a previously scheduled dental appointment from 10:00
a.m. - 12:00 p.m. CDT. The Guardian cannot obviously guarantee
what condition Mom will be in after sitting in the dental chair
immediately prior to another required visit from Marilyn.
The Guardian personally asked Mom if Mom thought she would feel up to
visiting with Marilyn this Friday after her dental appointment. Mom replied "No! I
don't want to see her this Friday or any other day. I certainly don't want to see her
after someone has been poking around in my mouth."
However, if Marilyn wishes to continue her request for this Friday, 31 May
2002, the Guardian will produce mom for an access visit from 1:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m.
CDT at Embassy Suites in Lombard, IL.
In summary, per the Guardian's request, there should be no access visits
requested for Tuesdays and Thursdays by reason of Mom's prescheduled Alzheimer's
activities which are for mom's benefit and best interests whereby Mom is unavailable
for access visits.
Monday, Wednesday and Friday access visits are fine, occurring between
10:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. CDT.
FROM : Rupp & Meikle FAX NO. : ?~ 0214 Mag. 30 2002 12:06PM P3
There should be no access visits on holidays or Sundays as mom is unavailable
and Saturdays are requested to not occur to ensure availability of Mom.
The Guardian requests 30 days advance notice in order to effectively plan,
coordinate and schedule the access visits into mom's schedule.
Marilyn's access visits will occur at the Embassy Suites Hotel, Lombard, IL,
unless otherwise specified by the Guardian.
Please advise whether Marilyn still wishes to continue the 31 May 2002 access
visit which will occur immediately after Mom's dental appointment.
I look forward to hearing from you with respect to the 31 May 2002 access
visit request.
Best regards.
Yours sinc
ird C. Rupp
RCR/lin
CALDWELL & KEARNS
A PROFESSIONAL CORPORATION
CARL G. WASS ATTORNEYS AT LAW OF COUNSEL
JANES R, CLIPPINGER THONA$ D. CALDWELL, JR.
CHARLES J, DEHART, III RICHARD L. KEARNS
3631 NORTH FRONT STREET
JANES D, CANPBELL, JR.
JANES L. GOLDSNITH H ARRISBUR G, PENNSYLVANIA 1 7110-15 3 3
STANLEY J. A. LASKOWSKI
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Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
RUPP AND MEIKLE
P.O. Box 395
Camp Hill, PA 17001-0395
Re: Mildred Gerber
Dear Richard:
Thank you for your letter which you faxed to me yesterday. We appreciate your
acknowledgment of the visits to occur on April 12 and 17. Please advise whether April 24 or 25
would be suitable. For each of these dates please confirm that they will be taking place where
Mrs. Gerber is staying (Jane's home) and who will be present to implement them. I believe
clarity in our communications as to these arrangements will be beneficial to all particularly upon
consideration of the distance of travel involved for Marilyn.
As to the April 7 visit and remaining matters noted in your letter, issues of access brought to the
court on Marilyn's petition have been addressed and the record completed. This is noted in the
Court's order of March 15, 2002. All of the past incidents to which you allude are refuted by
Marilyn. The claims which you continue to attempt to reassert regarding Marilyn's prior alleged
conduct are unfounded, particularly those concerning purported stalking and harassment.
The testimony at the prior hearings clearly indicated that at no time did Marilyn cause physical
harm to her mother in the care she was providing. ! would concur that, given the condition of
Mrs. Gerber that was observed at the March 21 hearing, a stress free environment should be
maintained as much a possible. We have concerns too, however, regarding Mr. Gerber's and
Jane's continued preemptive confrontational nature with Marilyn, which was exhibited in the
hearings and the February 9 visit, and its stressful effect upon Mrs. Gerber.
I believe the Court order entered March 27, 2002 is clear that visits are to be allowed and when
Marilyn can arrange to be available where her mother is located. Mrs. Gerber has been in
Chicago for the past three months and we were informed at the March 21 hearing that she would
be returning to and remaining at Jane's home. Although Mr. Gerber may not be available on
April 7, as Mrs. Gerber is presently at Jane's home and is being attended to by caregivers daily,
Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
April 4, 2002
Page 2
either Jane or such caregivers are available to implement a visit. I find from your response no
impediment or basis not to implement a visit by Marilyn with her mother on April 7.
Marilyn is available and has committed to arrangements to travel to Chicago for April 7. Please
advise as to what arrangements yet otherwise need to be made as this was not elaborated upon in
your reply. I communicated Marilyn's request to you promptly last week, as you noted, after
entry of the Court's order. It appears that adequate notice has been afforded and therefore
Marilyn respectfully declines to forego her visit on April 7.
We will object strongly to a declination of a visit by Marilyn on April 7 based upon your reply.
Please confirm by the end of the day whether Mr. Gerber will allow Sunday's visit. Please
confirm who will be present to implement the visit so that Marilyn can make appropriate contact
upon her arrival Sunday. If the visit will not be accommodated we have no alternative but to take
the matter to the Court tomorrow accordingly.
If you should have any questions, please call me. Otherwise, I shall look forward to heating from
you.
Very truly yours,
Stanley J.A. Laskowski
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cc: Marilyn Gerber
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RICHARD L. KEARNS
CHARLES J. D£HART, Ill 3631 NORTH FRONT STREET
JAiVlES D, CAMPBELL. JR.
JANI£S L. GOLDSMITH HARRISBURG, PENNSYLVANIA 17110-1533
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Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
RUPP AND MEIKLE
P. O. Box 395
Camp Hill, PA 17011-0395
RE: Mildred J. Gerber
Dear Richard:
Thank you for your letter of April 4, 2002. I take your comments, however, as indicative of the
disdain, contempt and disregard your client holds for Marilyn as well as the Order issued by Judge
Bailey. The actions of he and Jane demonstrate that they indeed advocate their own interests above
that of Mildred.
I further take exception with any accusation or implication that your client has been threatened or is
acting under any duress to accommodate the visitation which the Court has ordered. A valid Court
Order was issued by Judge Bailey in providing for minimal contact ultimately as a consequence of
your client's steadfast refusal to accommodate any contact. Clearly the Court disagrees with his
exercise of judgment and discretion in these matters.
I look forward to your advising me today of the location of the visit for Sunday. Marilyn objects,
however, to conducting the visit at another location other than Jane's home and certainly under any
conditions and circumstances as were arranged for Febrnary 9. We ask that Mr. Gerber reconsider his
decision in this matter. If the visit occurs Sunday at a location other than Jane's home, Marilyn
certainly will still attend, but under protest as this apparently will be the only circumstances under
which it appears that Mr. Gerber will comply with the Court Order. Therefore, Marilyn's visit on
Sunday under these circumstances is not to be deemed as a consent to the accommodations for this or
future visits.
We have concern over the location and accommodations to be arranged for this visit generally. Being
in an unfamiliar environment does not promote a stress free atmosphere for Mrs. Gerber. It may tend
to make her uncomfortable and detract from any communication between her and Marilyn.
Conducting the visit under conditions similar to February 9 are unacceptable also. If the visit, for
example, is confined to a small room, has no ability for Mrs. Gerber to be able to walk around, change
locations, rest or nap, or even get something to eat or drink at her leisure, then the visit will be set up
for failure as such conditions will lend itself to disorientation, confusion, fatigue and impatience by
Mrs. Gerber. Such conditions will not be tolerated as an excuse to terminate or shorten the visit. Any
efforts to persuade or impress upon Mrs. Gerber that these accommodations are caused by
Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
April 5, 2002
Page 2
Marilyn are wholly inappropriate as Marilyn is willing to go wherever her mother is staying and
conduct herself appropriately.
For the interest of all parties, and particularly Mrs. Gerber, it is in her best interest to be in at least the
surroundings, i.e. Jane's home, with which she has some familiarity and is oriented. Longer term best
interests and a proper care and treatment program for Mrs. Gerber would dictate that she be returned to
her own New Cumberland home where she resided for 34 years, close to her friends and community,
as well as closer to Mr. Gerber, whom I surmise has not seen her but perhaps once in the last three
months. If I am not accurate concerning Mr. Gerber's visits with his mother, I would appreciate your
updating me.
Both Mr. Gerber and Ms. Herin have known full well that Marilyn has been seeking access visits with
her mother. This was certainly known at some time when Mr. Gerber decided that Mrs. Gerber was to
remain in Chicago. Originally as you recall, her visit to Chicago, according to Attorney Verney, was
for merely a holiday visit. Mr. Gerber then is exercising his judgment apparently to allow Mrs. Gerber
to stay in Jane's home. As such, this is Mrs. Gerber's location in accordance with the stated Court
Order. Mrs. Gerber certainly still has some rights, desires and interests in establishing her own living
environment.
Over approximately the past 20 years prior to these proceedings, Marilyn has been a frequent visitor,
including longer term stays, at Ms. Heflin's residences in Dallas, California and Chicago. Over
approximately the last 12 years Marilyn has stayed at times in Lombard at Ms. Heflin's home and is
familiar with its rooms, layout and facilities.
We suggest that Mr. Gerber revisit this matter with Ms. Heflin as to whether some other arrangement
may be made for the four-hour visit. It is regrettable that Ms. Hefiin will not interact with Marilyn.
For the best interests of Mrs. Gerber, Marilyn remains willing to work towards a resolution with Mr.
Gerber and Ms. Herin of their differences.
If you would like to discuss these matters further, please call me.
__e~___~y yours, . -,
Stanley J.A.~' Skowski
CALDWELL & KEARNS
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JAMES R. CLIPPINGER THOMAS D, CALDWELL, JR,
CHARLES J. DEHART, III RICHARD L. KEARNS
JAMES D. CAMPBELL. JR. 3631 NORTH FRONT STREET
JAMES L. GOLDSMITH HARRISBUR G, PENNSYLVANIA 17110-1 5 3 3
STANLEY J. A. LASKOWSKI
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Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
RUPP AND MEIKLE
P.O. Box 395
Camp Hill, PA 17001-0395
Re: Access visits - Mildred Gerber
Dear Mr. Rupp:
This letter is to confirm arrangements for the next visitation by Marilyn with her mother on April
17, 2002. Marilyn's same day flight arrival and departure from Chicago provide that she can be
available from 1 p.m. to 5 p.m. (CDT). She would like to have lunch with her mother during this
visit.
My letter of March 29 did indicate that Marilyn was making single day travel arrangem,ents
allowing her availability between 2 p.m. and 6 p.m. on April 7 and 12. Since Marilyn was
traveling to and meeting with her mother in Chicago, I believed the times stated were
understandably local (CDT) and without need of further clarification. I will however
accommodate your request for further clarity. Also, flight scheduling for day travel by Marilyn is
necessarily limiting as to time. Marilyn must also contend with such matters among others as
time delays when they may occur associated with domestic flights, boarding and departure
security regimes and transportation from the airport. Thus, the visitation times provided to you
afford little flexibility. I would think that the visitation times would not provide much difficulty
as they are generally mid-day and I believe Ms. Heflin's home is approximately 15 minutes away
by car from the Embassy Suites.
Marilyn's concerns over the accommodations at the Embassy Suites expressed in my letter of
April 5, 2002 continue and are reiterated. Limiting the visits to a small hotel room is not in Mrs.
Gerber's best interests. As Marilyn may have the visitation with her mother only under the
circumstances and at the location directed by Mr. Gerber, she will attend the visits but under
protest. We ask that he reconsider his position and endeavor to arrange visits also were Mrs.
Gerber is living for her continued comfort.
Richard C. Rupp, Esquire
April 15, 2002
Page 2
After April 17, 2002 the next visitation is scheduled for April 24, 2002. Marilyn will have same
day travel arrangements to and from Chicago and will be available from 1 p.m. to 5 p.m. (CDT)
for the visit. Please confirm the location for the visit and foregoing to avoid any potential
misunderstandings.
Also, Marilyn would like an additional visit on May 1, 2002 between 1 p.m. and 5p.m. (CDT).
Thank you in advance for your cooperation. If you should have any questions, please contact me.
V~ yours,/,./9
CALDWELL & KEARNS
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BILLING SUMMARY - TOTALS
HOURS AMOUNT
APRIL 11.3 $1,695.00
MAY 3.4 510.00
JUNE 7.5 1,125.00
JULY 7.3 1,095.00
AUGUST 1.4 180.00
SEPTEMBER .6 90.00
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TOTAL $5,670.00
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Harrisburg, PA 17110-1533
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INAfOICE #33623
MONTHLY BILLING
Nov 13 2002
Marilyn Jo Gerber
42 Drexel Place
New Cumberland PA 17070
MATTER 01607
Guardianship Contest
FEES HOURS
- 0.80
Entitlement and Appeal
Oct 11/2002 Research Appeal of Guardian 0.80
Appointment as Basis for Deferral
Oct 17/2002 Draft Motion 0.70
Oct 18/2002 Draft Motion -.Review Client Faxes 0.40
Complete Draft. of Petition for 1.70
Review Hearing
Oct 24/2002 Revise--Edit Motion for Review 1.10
Hearing
Telephone Call from J. O'Halleran 0.80
and with Client RE: Illinois Order
TOTAL FEES AT $150 PER HR.
Photocopies
Telephone charge - long distance
Fax charges
Sep-30-02 Lexis Charges month of September, 2002
FEEES AND COSTS
OUTSTANDING BALANCE
TOTAL AMOUNT DUE .................................
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3631 North Front Street
Harrisburg, PA 17110-1533
TAX I.D. #23-2015480
(717) 232-7661
INVOICE ~33357
MONTHLY BILLING
Oct 10 2002
Marilyn Jo Gerber
42 Drexel Place
New Cumberland PA 17070
MATTER 01607
Guardianship Contest
FEES HOURS
Sep 2002 Telephone Conference with Client 0.60
RE: Rupp Letter of 9/26; Petition
for Review Hearing
Page 2
TOTAL FEES AT $150 PER HR.
Copies
Telephone charges - long distance
Fax charges
FEES AND COSTS
TOTAL AMOUNT DUE ..........................................
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3631 North Front Street
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MONTHLY BILLING
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42 Drexel Place ·
New Cumberland PA 17070
MATTER 01607
Guardianship Contest
FEES HOURS
ReView Rupp Letter 8/7/02 RE: 0.20
Visits
Aug 08/20'02 Telephone Call from Client RE: ~ 0.30
Re ~ort on Visit
Aug 20/2002 Telephone Call from J. O'Halloran - 0.90
RE: Visitation Issues,
Proc Enforcement of Order
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FEES HOURS
TOTAL FEES $150 PER HR.
Photocopies
Telephone expense
Fax Expense
FEES AND COSTS
OUTSTANDING BALANCE FROM PREVIOUS INVOICES
TOTAL AMOUNT DUE .....................................
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CALDWELL & KEARNS
3631 North Front Street
Harrisburg, PA 17110-1533
TAX I.D. ~23-2015480
(717) 232-7661
INVOICE #32901
MONTHLY BILLING
Aug 15 2002
Marilyn Jo Gerber
42 Drexel Place
New Cumberland PA 17070
MATTER 01607
Guardianship Contest
FEES HOURS
Jul 08/2002 Review Letter of Client to F.E.G. 0.20
& R. Rupp
Complete & Revise Motion 2.00
Jul 09/2002 Proof Petition,. Final Revisions 1.10
Filing 0.40
Telephone Call from Client and 0.20
Call to R. Rupp
Telephone Call from R. Rupp and 0.40
with Client RE: 7/10 Visit
Jul 15/2002 Telephone Call from Client RE: 0.40
'Visitation
Review J. Baylay Order; Letter 0.30
from Rupp and Telephone Call from
Client
Jul 19/2002 Telephone Call from Client RE: 0.40
Visitation
Jul 29/2002 Telephone Call from Client RE: 0.70
ermlna
Visits
Review Motion to Suspend Visits 0.30
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FEES HOURS
Jul 30/2002 Review Judge Bayleys' Order and 0.60
Telephone Call with Client RE:
Visitations
~ Letter to Rupp RE: August 0.30
Visits
TOTAL FEES AT $150 PER HR.
Photocopies
Fax charge
FEES AND COSTS ..................................... ----~~
TOTAL AMOI/NT DUE .....................................
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CALDWELL & KEARNS
3631 North Front Street
Harrisburg, PA 17110-1533
TAX I.D. ~23=2015480
(717) 232-7661
INVOICE #32716
MONTHLY BILLING
Jul 25 2002
Marilyn Jo Gerber
42 Drexel Place
New Cumberland PA 17070
MATTER 01607
_ Guardianship Contest
FEES HOURS
Jun 04/2002 Letter to R. Rupp RE: Visits 0.20
Jun 07/2002 Telephone Call from Client RE: 0.50
Visitation Today;
Jun 12/2002 Telephone Call R. Rupp 0.40
Telephone Call Client 0.30
Jun 13/2002 Review Letter of R. Rupp and 0.80
Prepare Reply
Telephone Call from R. Rupp RE: 0.50
.Visit
Telephene Call te Client RE: 6/14 0.30
Visit
Jun 17/2002 Letter to R. Rupp 0.20
0.00
Jun 19/2002 Letter to Rupp 0.20
Jun 21/2002 Prepare & Revise Petition for 2.80
Review Hearing
Conference with Client RE: Hearing 0.70
issues
Jun 2'7/2002 Telephone Call from Marilyn 0.20
Letter to Rupp 0.20
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HOURS
FEES
Telephone Call to Rupp 0.20
TOTAL FEES AT $150 PER HR.
Photocopies
Fax charge
FEES AND COSTS
TOTAL AMOUNT DUE
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KEARNS
3631 North Front Street
Harrisburg, PA 17110-1533
TAX I.D. #23-2015480
(717) 232-7661
INVOICE #32576
MONTHLY BILLING
Jun 28 2002
Marilyn Jo Gerber
42~Drexel Place
New Cumberland PA 17070
MATTER 01607
re: Guardianship Contest
FEES HOURS
May 03/2002 Prepare Letter to R. Rupp & Review 0 50
Correspondence for Rupp
May 06/2002 Review R. Rupp Letter 0.10
Telephone Call from Client Re: Reply 0.40
Prepare Reply Letter to R. Rupp 0.30
May 07/2002 Telephone Call from Client Re: Visit 0.10
Review Letter from R. Rupp 0.20
Page. 2
FEES HOURS
0.20 ~
Telephone Call from Client RE: 0.50
Visitation, ~ Review Hearing
Issues
Letter to R. Rupp RE: 5/21 Visit 0.20
May 21/2002 Telephone Call to R. Rupp and 0.20
Review Letter Received by Fax
Telephone Call to Client RE: 0.20
Todays Visit
May 30/2002 Telephone Call with Client 0.20
Telephone Call with R. Rupp RE: 0.30
Visits
TOTAL FEES AT $150 PER HR.
Photocopies
FEES AND COSTS .....................................
TOTAL ~MOUNT DUE ...................................
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CALDWELL & KEARNS
3631 North Front Street
Harrisburg, PA 17110-1533
TAX I.D. #23-2015480
(717) 232-7661
.INVOICE #32236
MONTHLY BILLING
May 14 2002
Marilyn Jo Gerber
42 Drexel Place
New Cumberland PA 17070
MATTER 01607
RE: Guardianship Contest
Outstanding balance ..........................................
FEES HOURS
Apr 03/2002 Telephone Call with R. Rupp 0.70
Telephone Call with-Client RE: 0.70
Visitation & Order Compliance with
R. Rupp
Review Letter from R. Rupp 0.20
Apr 04/2002 Telephone Call with Client, 1.30
Discuss Response to 4/7 Visit -
Possible Contempt/Enforcement
Proceeding
Prepare Letter'to R. Rupp 0.70
Begin Outline of Petition to 0.40
Enfcrce Order
Apr 05/2002
Prepare Le :er to R. Rupp RE: 1.60
Visitation
Apr 09/2002 Review Client Phone Messages & 0.30
Comments RE: Visitation
Apr 10/2002 Telephone Call & Message from 0.30
Client .-
Apr 11/2002 Telephone Call from Client 0.20
Apr 12/2002 Review Correspondence from R. Rupp 0.20
& Prepare Fax to Client
Apr 15/2002 Messages from Client; Telephone 0.30
Call to Client
Prepare Letter to R. Rupp 0.40
Review Letter of 4/12/02 & Case 0.80
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FEES HOURS
Evaluation for Further Motion
Apr 16/2002 Telephone Call from Client 0.20
Review Letter from Ro Rupp; '0-20~
Telephone Call to Client
Draft Reply Letter RE: 4/17 0.20
Telephone Call with H. Rupp 0.30
Conference with Client 0.30
Apr 17/2002 Review Fax from R. Rupp and 0.40
Telephone Call from Client
Apr 18/2002 Prepare Letter to R. Rupp & Review '0.40
Letter of 4/17
Apr 22/2002
Telephone Call with Client RE: 0.20
4/24 Visit
Apr 24/2002
Telephone Call from Client RE: 0.30
Visit
Apr 30/2002
Telephone Ca : 5/1 0.20
Visit
Prepare Letter to R. Rupp & 0.30
Telephone Call to Office
Review Reply from R. Rupp 0.20
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TOTAL FEES AT $150 PER HR.
Photocopies
Fax
FEES i~ND COSTS
TOTAL AMOUNT DUE
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