HomeMy WebLinkAbout02-2679 CivilSTEPHEN BALABAN,
Plaintiff
VS.
KIMBERLEY ANNE KATLIC,
Defendant
IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF
CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA
02-2679 CIVIL
CIVIL ACTION - LAW
CUSTODY
IN RE: PETITION OF PLAINTIFF TO MODIFY FOREIGN CUSTODY ORDER AND
COUNTERCLAIM OF DEFENDANT FOR PRIMARY PHYSICAL CUSTODY
BEFORE HESS. J.
OPINION AND ORDER
This matter initially came before the court on the petition of the plaintiff to modify that
portion of a custody order requiring that venue in any custody dispute would lie in either Dade
County or Broward County, Florida. This petition was opposed by the defendant who has
countered with a petition that primary physical custody of the parties' children should be
awarded to her. The facts underlying this dispute are relatively uncomplicated though the
resolution is not.
The parties first met in Florida in 1988 and began dating. Justin D. Katlic was born
September 10, 1989, and Benjamin T. Balaban was born November 15, 1990. The parties
married on November 26, 1990. Following the marriage and while the couple continued to
reside in Florida, their third child, Savannah K. Balaban, was born September 11, 1993. The
parties were separated in June 1996 and eventually divorced in October of 1997. Initially, while
residents of Florida, the parties shared physical custody of their children. When Mrs. Rogers,
then Kimberley Katlic Balaban, moved to Broward County from Dade County, Mr. Balaban
secured an order granting him primary physical custody of the children. In October of 1997, the
parties entered into a marital settlement agreement in which Mr. Balaban maintained primary
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physical custody of the three children. The mother had partial custody of the children three
nights a week.
Mrs. Rogers left Florida for Santa Fe, New Mexico in September of 1999. She returned
to Florida in February of 2000 and remained with the children and Mr. Balaban at his residence
until June of 2000 when she again left for Santa Fe. One of the children, Benjamin, was
permitted to move with his mother and stayed in New Mexico for one full school year. All three
children were permitted to spend time together during holidays throughout Benjamin's stay with
Mrs. Rogers. Benjamin returned to his father's care for the 2001 school year because he missed
his siblings.
The children were permitted to travel to New Mexico to see their mother in July of 2001.
They returned to their father in August of 2001. Mr. Balaban and the children then moved to
Pennsylvania. We are satisfied that the mother was aware of this move. Part of the reason for
the father's move to central Pennsylvania was because the children had expressed a preference to
relocate to Pennsylvania to be closer to their extended family.
In March of 2002, the father sent the mother a stipulation that would allow Pennsylvania
to rightfully assume jurisdiction inasmuch as neither party continued to reside in Florida and
Pennsylvania was now the "home state" of the children. In the meantime, Kimberley had met
Raymond Rogers in Santa Fe in April of 2001. The parties began dating and were married on
April 18, 2002, in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Having been notified of the father's attempt to
transfer jurisdiction of the custody case to Pennsylvania, the mother undertook to move to
Florida. Neither father nor the children learned that the mother had moved until May of 2002.
We find the plaintiff' s recitation of subsequent events to be factually accurate. "On June 3,
2002, after mother had refused to sign the stipulation and had moved to Florida in a clearly
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surreptitious manner, father filed a petition to modify foreign custody order with the Court of
Common Pleas of Cumberland County. The petition itself did not seek to change custody,
merely jurisdiction. The petition was served on Mother on June 5, 2002. On June 5, 2002,
Mother reported an allegation of child abuse against Father and his brother, William Balaban,
based on alleged incidents occurring months earlier, which report was ultimately determined to
be unfounded."
The parties in this case are both capable parents. It is clear, however, that the father has
been the primary caregiver in recent years. What makes the case truly difficult is the strongly
stated preference of the children to live with their mother. We have thought long and hard about
this case because of the clearly stated desires of the children. It is possible that a court will once
again, perhaps in the not too distant future, re-examine this case should the preference of the
children continue to be the same as they grow older. In the meantime, however, we have
concluded that, as things currently stand, matters can be summarized as described by the
plaintiff; namely, "[b]ut for the preference of the children, there is no evidence to suggest that
changing custody would be in the children's best interests." (Plaintiff' s Brief, p. 10).
Indeed, the paramount consideration in all custody matters is the best interests of the
child. McMillen v. McMillen, 529 Pa. 198, 602 A.2d 845 (1992). To ascertain the child's best
interests, the trial court is required to "consider all factors which legitimately impact upon the
child's physical, intellectual, moral and spiritual well being .... "Zummo v. Zummo, 394
Pa. Super. 30, 574 A.2d 1130 (1990). Where an existing custodial arrangement has satisfactorily
served the best interests of the child, courts have been loathe to disturb the status quo. See
Wiseman v. Wall, 718 A.2d 844 (Pa. Super. 1998). On the other hand, the status quo is only one
factor to be considered in custody cases. Id. The case of Com. ex rel. Oxenriter v. Oxenriter_,
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298 Pa. 63,434 A.2d 130 (1981), cited by the plaintiff, is instructive on this point. In that case,
the father had been the primary physical custodian of two female children up until the time of
hearing when the trial court awarded custody of his daughters to their mother. While
acknowledging that both parents were fit, the trial court relied on its belief that the mother would
be better able to care for two female children. In reversing, the Superior Court noted that the
"greatest deficiency in the lower court's opinion is its failure to fully address the significance of
maintaining the status quo on the children's development." Id~. at 133.
While there are significant differences between the Oxenriter case and the matter sub
judice, there are important parallels. Here, the father has been the primary physical custodian of
the children for more than five years. He has provided for the children spiritually, emotionally,
physically and financially. He is tireless in his involvement in his children's activities. He
borders on the rigorous in insuring regular church attendance and religious instruction. The fact
that he may not always spend as much time with the children as they would like appears to be the
result of his occupation for he certainly, otherwise, enjoys being a parent. The father has made
academics a high priority and the children have received good grades while they are in their
father's custody. The father meets with the children's teachers, volunteers his time in school
activities and assists the children with their homework.
The father also has an extensive family network. The extended family is close and the
families are able to come to the aid of each other in times of need. Also (as summarized in the
brief of the plaintiff):
By all accounts, the children are well behaved,
courteous and accomplished in their individual
activities. The children's exemplary appearance
and behavior in their interview with the court is
itself a testament to Father's upbringing of them..
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As noted previously, this matter is chiefly complicated by the stated preference of the
children to live with their mother. We have no doubt that the children may find their mother
easier to talk to and that she stands in contrast to a father who no doubt is occasionally
authoritarian and sometimes distant.
There are, of course, many Pennsylvania cases which have put in context the preference
of the children. One of the more frequently cited is that ofMcMillen v. McMillen, 602 A.2d 845
(Pa. 1992).~ In this case, the trial court found that both the home of the mother and that of the
father were equally acceptable. The court, in awarding custody of the child, Emmett, to his
father found that the stated preference of the child was to be given great weight in the context of
that particular case. The Superior Court reversed and the Supreme Court, in reversing the
Superior Court, noted, inter alia:
Although the express wishes of a child are not
controlling in custody decisions, such wishes do
constitute an important factor that must be
carefully considered in determining the child's best
interest. The child's preference must be based on
good reasons, and the child's maturity and
intelligence must be considered. The weight to be
given a child's testimony as to his preference can
best be determined by the judge before whom the
child appears.
Our review of the record shows that Emmett's
preference to live with his father is supported by
more than sufficient good reasons. Emmett
testified that his stepfather frightens, upsets and
threatens him, and his mother does nothing to
prevent this mistreatment. He testified that he does
not get along with either his mother or his
stepfather, and that he gets along well with his
stepmother. His testimony also revealed that his
mother and stepfather leave him alone after school
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and that, even though his father and stepmother
work, he is never left alone when he is at his
father' s home for the summer. Emmett also stated
that his mother interferes with his sporting and
farming activities and refuses even to watch him
play ball. Thus, we find that Emmett's steadfast
wish to live with his father was properly
considered, and we find no abuse of discretion in
the amount of weight afforded that preference.
Id., at 847-848 (citations omitted).
This case is very different from McMillan. Here, the children do not complain about the
kind of negatives which the mother presented in McMillan. Instead, with the exception of
Benjamin, the children simply want to give living with mother "a try." We do not mean to
suggest that this is a bad thing or that it is out of the question for the future. In the meantime,
however, we do not believe that such experimentation is in the best interests of these children.
It is true that our expert in this case, Dr. Arnold Shienvold, recommended that the
children be given an opportunity to live with their mother. His recommendation, however, was
based upon some factual assumptions which are not, in the end, accurate. Most notably, the
children do not have the level of supervision in Florida which Dr. Shienvold assumed. In the
meantime, as Dr. Shienvold recognized, there are important advantages in the children's living
with their father during the school year. The father lives in a very nice neighborhood. The
children are within a short walk of their schools and can likewise walk to their activities. Much
about the mother's neighborhood is unknown. It cannot be forgotten that life with their mother
is better, as far as the children are concerned, precisely because there is the more relaxed
atmosphere of holiday and vacation periods. It is not surprising that they find less enjoyable the
structure of living with their father during the school year.
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As noted by the plaintiff, another important factor for the court to consider is which
parent is more likely to encourage contact between the children and the non-custodial parent. 23
Pa.C.S.A. 5303(a)(2). In that regard, the father has a long track record of insuring that the
children maintain contact with their mother. This he has done, consistently, even though
substantial distances have separated the parties.
Both parties concede that this case must undergo the analysis as set forth in Gruber v.
Gruber, 400 Pa. Super. 174, 583 A.2d 434 (1990). Gruber has been held to apply to cases even
where it is the non-custodial parent who seeks to relocate with the child. See Clapper v. Harvey,
716 A.2d 1271 (Pa. Super. 1998). The Gruber factors are well known:
First, the court must assess the potential
advantages of the proposed move and the
likelihood that the move would substantially
improve the quality of life for the custodial parent
and the children and is not the result of a
momentary whim on the part of the custodial
parent .... Next, the court must establish the
integrity of the motives of both the custodial and
non-custodial parent in either seeking the move or
seeking to prevent it .... Finally, the court must
consider the availability of realistic, substitute
visitation arrangements which will adequately
foster an ongoing relationship between the child
and the non-custodial parent.
Gruber, ~ 184,583A.2d ~ 439.
In acknowledging that these factors applied where relocation was sought by the non-
custodial parent, the court in Tripathi v. Tripathi, 787 A.2d 436 (Pa. Super. 2001), went on to
note:
When the petitioning parent is not the custodial
parent and, as here, never has been the primary
custodial parent, short of a determination that the
custodial parent is unfit or that there is some
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unique and highly beneficial benefit to the child in
relocation, the burden faced by the non-custodial
parent seeking relocation of the child is a very
heavy one.
Id. at 439.
We agree with the plaintiff that there is no evidence that there will any substantial benefit
to the children in their move to Florida. There has been no beneficial impact upon the mother's
employment situation. Any benefit to the children's education or spiritual or emotional well
being is at best speculative. There is no extensive family support network available to the
children in Florida.
We do not impugn the mother's motives in seeking to give effect to the preference of her
children. Nonetheless, her move back to Florida in 2002 was clearly designed to give her better
leverage in the custody dispute. If, in fact, her sole motive was to establish a better relationship
with the children, she could just as easily have moved from New Mexico to Pennsylvania.
We are satisfied that the mother's request for relocation fails under at least two of the
three tests in Gruber. In fact, we have a concern even about the third factor. While modern
transportation can certainly facilitate visitation arrangements, even over long distances, it is hard
to visualize a viable alternative custodial schedule for the father, given the involvement he has
had in the lives of the children since their birth.
It is unfortunate that these two parents are separated by such distance. The best
arrangement would bring them closer together and insure regular and frequent contact on the part
of both parents with their children. After the father moved to Pennsylvania, however, the mother
chose to relocate to Florida as opposed to Pennsylvania. The best of scenarios is, therefore, not
possible.
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Prior to the issuance of this opinion, we entered a temporary order denying the
defendant's petition to modify. We now make that order a final order.
ORDER
AND NOW, this day of August, 2003, the petition of the plaintiff to modify
foreign custody order of October 29, 1997, is GRANTED, and the plaintiff shall continue to have
primary physical custody of the children of the parties, the defendant shall have rights of partial
physical custody and the parties shall continue to share legal custody of the children, as to all of
which this court assumes jurisdiction.
The counterclaim of the defendant for primary physical custody of the children of the
parties is DENIED.
BY THE COURT,
John C. Howett, Jr., Esquire
For the Plaintiff
Jeffrey Engle, Esquire
For the Defendant
:rlm
Kevin A. Hess, J.
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STEPHEN BALABAN,
Plaintiff
VS.
KIMBERLEY ANNE KATLIC,
Defendant
IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF
CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA
02-2679 CIVIL
CIVIL ACTION - LAW
CUSTODY
IN RE: PETITION OF PLAINTIFF TO MODIFY FOREIGN CUSTODY ORDER AND
COUNTERCLAIM OF DEFENDANT FOR PRIMARY PHYSICAL CUSTODY
BEFORE HESS. J.
ORDER
AND NOW, this day of August, 2003, the petition of the plaintiff to modify
foreign custody order of October 29, 1997, is GRANTED, and the plaintiff shall continue to have
primary physical custody of the children of the parties, the defendant shall have rights of partial
physical custody and the parties shall continue to share legal custody of the children, as to all of
which this court assumes jurisdiction.
The counterclaim of the defendant for primary physical custody of the children of the
parties is DENIED.
BY THE COURT,
John C. Howett, Jr., Esquire
For the Plaintiff
Jeffrey Engle, Esquire
For the Defendant
:rlm
Kevin A. Hess, J.