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HomeMy WebLinkAbout02-1992 CivilKEVIN G. DESIDERATI, · IN THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF Plaintiff CUMBERLAND COUNTY, PENNSYLVANIA Vo CIVIL ACTION - LAW ADESSA R. SEITZ, Defendant NO. 02-1992 CIVIL TERM IN RE: OPINION PURSUANT TO PA. R.A.P. 1925 OLER, J., January 13, 2004. In this contentious custody case, commenced by the father in 2002, three custody conciliation conferences have been held,~ six custody orders have been entered,2 and the court has held hearings on two days.3 The subject of the litigation is a two-year-old girl.4 The parties were never married,5 the 23-year-old father never lived with the mother,6 and the mother has been the primary caretaker of the child since birth.7 The father has appealed from a custody order which awarded the parties joint legal custody, the mother primary physical custody, and the father liberal periods of temporary or partial physical custody, including one week out of three during the summer and special accommodations relating to periods in which he is unavailable due to National Guard duties,a In a three-page statement of matters complained of on appeal, the father's counsel has expressed the grounds for the appeal as follows: May 28, 2002; August 26, 2002; February 28, 2003. June 3, 2002; September 10, 2002; March 28, 2003; July 1, 2003; September 29, 2003; October 2, 2003. June 30, 3003; September 25, 2003. N.T. 5, Hearing (hereinafter N.T. __). 5N.T. 4. 6N.T. 4. 7N.T. 7. Order of Court, September 29, 2003; Order of Court, October 2, 2003. 1. The Trial Court erred in not granting shared equal physical custody of the minor child with the parties. This Order constituted an initial determination by the Court of the rights of these parties with regard to the custodial relationship of their infant daughter. No presumptions in favor of either parent should have been employed by the Court. It is believed that the Court applied a presumption in favor of the mother when the determination should have been made based solely on the particular facts and circumstances of the case, which Plaintiff submits established father as an appropriate and fit caretaker, loving father, and best equipped to make decisions in the best interest of the child and to foster a positive relationship for the child with the other parent. An order for shared equal physical custody would have been proper since both parents are fit, both parents evidenced a continuing desire for active involvement in the child's life, both parents are recognized by the child as a source of security and love, and a minimum degree of cooperation between the parents was illustrated of record. 2. If the Court indicates that Order was entered to confirm the status quo, it is suggested that this is in error. Only the initial Custody Order dated June 3, 2002 was entered by agreement of the parties and that agreement was specifically conditioned upon the specific consideration that it be reviewed in three months without prejudice to the rights of Plaintiff pending resolution of the child's infant health issues. Plaintiff has been significantly prejudiced by the delay in reaching a speeding hearing on his custody complaint, which delay was substantially the result of the conciliation process, the repeated changes of Defendant's counsel, and the Court's schedule. 3. In reviewing the facts and circumstances of the case, the Court disregarded substantial evidence of Defendant's obstructive conduct and her inability to foster a relationship between the child and the Plaintiff, her inability to make decisions in the best interest of the child such as decisions related to her healthcare, and her unilaterally disregard [sic] for existing and agreed upon plans for child care and medical treatment. 4. The Court disregarded substantial evidence of the fitness of the Plaintiff and failed to give substantial weight to the total lack of contrary evidence being presented concerning any inability to act to care for the child or to provide a stable 2 environment. Efforts to discredit his stability due to early employment changes immediately upon his graduating from college should have been significantly overcome by his extended employment with his current employer. 5. The Trial Court disregarded the best interest of the child, who at a young and tender age and who had consistent and regular contact with both parents, would be relegated to infrequent contact with Plaintiff with custodial gaps with lack of contact in excess of eleven days bi-weekly. 6. Alternatively, while the Court seemed to acknowledge the ability of Plaintiff to care for the child for extended periods by allowing uninterrupted weeks of custody in the summer, the court artificially created a school time/summer time schedule for a young child for whom such a distinction is meaningless and without relevance. 7. The Court erred in not granting an appropriate sharing of holidays, including the alternating of Christmas Eve and other major holidays, contrary to the best interest of the child to develop significant holiday traditions with each family. 9 This opinion in support of the custody order appealed from is written pursuant to Pennsylvania Rule of Appellate Procedure 1925(a). STATEMENT OF FACTS Plaintiff is Kevin G. Desiderati, 23; he lives with his girlfriend in Landisburg, Perry County, Pennsylvania.l° Defendant is Adessa R. Seitz, 25; she lives with the parties' child in Mechanicsburg, Cumberland County, Pennsylvania.~ The parties are the parents of a two-year-old daughter named Madison C. Seitz, born March 25, 2002.~2 Plaintiff father is a laborer~3 and member of the Pennsylvania National Guard,TM who has been with his girlfriend (not the Defendant) since before the 9 Plaintiff's statement of matters complained of on appeal, filed November 12, 2003. l0 N.T. 4. ~ N.T. 5. ~2 N.T. 5; Plaintiff's Custody Complaint, para. 3. ~ N.T. 5. 3 birth of the parties' child.~5 Defendant mother is employed by the Pennsylvania Higher Education Association as a customer service representative.~6 The parties, as noted, were never married and never lived together. ~7 Following the child's birth in March of 2002, Defendant found herself frustrated with what she perceived to be the father's lack of interest in Madison. la His initial contacts with the child occurred when he chose to drop by the mother's residence.19 As a result of the father's unwillingness to learn to operate a machine that monitored the infant's heart and breathing rates, he did not place himself in a position to have overnight custody of the child during the first five months of her life.2° He also chose not to become recertified in CPR, notwithstanding a recommendation arising out of the child's precarious health situation that all of her caregivers be qualified to administer CPR.2~ Since Madison's birth in 2002, the father has had four different residences and six jobs)~ As of January of 2003, he was approximately $1,000.00 in arrears in his child support payments)3 The filing of his complaint for custody coincided with the entry of the support order against him)4 In a short life, Madison has suffered from numerous health problems, at least one of which has been life-threatening, and with which the mother as her primary caretaker has, in the court's view, valiantly contended. These conditions ~4 N.T. 33-34. ~s N.T. 11. 16 N.T. 5. ~7 N.T. 5. ~8 N.T. 70. 19 N.T. 70. 20 N.T. 72. 2~ N.T. 60. 22 N.T. 57-58. 23 N.T. 68. 24 N.T. 63. 4 Q result result A Q there? ! mean, did she have to go to ambulance? A Q A have included gastroesophageal reflux disease,25 asthma,26 chronic ear infections,27 eczema,28 and a yeast infection.29 The severity of her problems is exemplified by two emergency hospitalizations, one on April 22, 2002, and the second on May 3, 2002;30 both of these incidents have been a source of annoyance to the father in terms of the mother's notice to him of the emergencies.3~ The first incident was described by the mother as follows: · . [With regard to the two] hospital visits as a of Madison having difficulty breathing. Was that the of her gastroesophageal reflux disorder. Yes. If you could just briefly describe what was going on the hospital via Yes, she did. Why did you call the ambulance? Because she was choking during a feeding, and I called 911. And they helped me revive her over the phone and thenl arrive, A Q A They helped you what? Revive her. They--I called 911 and did CPR. So while you were waiting for the ambulance to you were-- I was on the phone. You were receiving instructions from 911 ? Yes. 25 N.T. 72. 26 N.T. 31. 27 N.T. 44. 28 N.T. 88. 29 N.T. 75. 30 N.T. 17. 3~ N.T. 16-17. 5 Q And then did you ride Madison to the hospital? A Q A Q in the ambulance with Yes. At the hospital, were things pretty hectic? Yes. Did you intentionally delay calling Kevin at the hospital? I mean, did you just decide it wasn't important to call Kevin or did you have other things that were occupying your mind and your time? A Well, I did try to contact him several times. When I rode in the ambulance with my mom, I gave her my cell phone to contact him, and we were not able to contact him. Q How were you trying to contact him? What number were you trying to reach him at? A I tried to call his mom's house. I called his sister's cell phone, his cell phone. Q And at that time, he was living with his mother? From what I understood, yes. To the best of your knowledge, that's where he was A living? A Yes.32 Q What time did you arrive at the hospital? 11:20. Q A Yes. Q Okay. So this is 11:20 p.m., correct? A Yes. Q What time did you call Kevin to tell him that you had just been in an ambulance with Madison and were now at the hospital? Are you sure that that's when you arrived at the hospital? 32 N.T. 72-74. 6 A 11:33 p.m. So 13 minutes after you arrived at the hospital? Yes, sir. And is that what these phone records indicate? Yes, sir. Now there's a bunch of phone numbers on here. And one of them is 796-3166, and that's a call that was made at 11:33. Whose phone number is that? A That' s Kevin' s mother' s number. Q And at the time, where did Kevin live? A With his mother. Q So that's the first place you called? A Yes. Q Now then a couple of lines down, there's another call at 11:47, you made a call to again 796-3166, correct? A Yes. Q Do you recall what happened when you called that number? A Basically, the first time I called, I had got his sister. His sister said that she was going to try to contact Kevin. I also called his sister's cell phone as well. Q Okay. And? A I spoke to his sister, and his sister was going to get ahold of him. Q But you continued to try to contact Kevin? A Yes. Q Even after talking to his sister? A Yes. Q All right. So you called both Kevin's home number and his sister's cell, correct? A Yes. Q And A I didn't get her at home at first. 7 Q called Kevin five times while at the hospital? A Yes.33 On both occasions the mother, while dealing Q So the relevant numbers are 796-3166, which is Kevin's home number at the time, correct? A Yes. And 571-70997 Yes, that's his sister's cell phone number. Am I correct in reading this document that you with a life-threatening incident involving an infant, attempted to reach the father in the course of the emergency.34 As other portions of the testimony indicate, in the first incident, she was able to procure his appearance at the hospital;35 in the second incident, she was able to secure his involvement by telephone prior to leaving the hospital, by means of calls to his mother and sister.36 Evidence at the custody hearing also indicated that the father had persisted in keeping cats at his residence, notwithstanding the child's asthmatic and skin conditions;37 that he had not always adhered to her asthma medication regimen as prescribed;3a that his insistence in the privacy of his residence had resulted in exchanges of custody occurring in grocery store parking lots, in one of which he brought the child without a hat or coat on a very cold December day;39 that he had left the child at daycare on occasions when she was too sick to be there,4° and that he had allowed medical insurance on the child, which he was required by the 33 N.T. 116-17. 34 N.T. 17. 3s N.T. 16. 36 N.T. 17. 37 N.T. 83, 222. 38 N.T. 89. 39 N.T. 71, 84-85,206. 40 N.T. 90-91. 8 support order to provide through his employment, to lapse without telling the mother, who was then forced to secure state-funded insurance and ultimately to obtain better insurance for the child through new employment.4~ Numerous difficulties with respect to custody and the parents' relationship were caused by the father's secretiveness about his telephone number,42 his anger at being asked for information about the child by the mother,43 his resistance to practical advice such as a suggestion that he obtain a carseat for his vehicle for the child,44 his demand that baby shower gifts from his family be returned by the mother (they were),45 his failure to attend scheduled counseling sessions,46 his insistence that the mother supply him with food and diapers when he received custody of the child because "that's where his support was going to,''47 and the adverse effect which his frequent changes of employment had upon the custody schedule.48 One of the residences of the father and his girlfriend, to which the child was subjected, was undesirable49 and was shared with two roommates under the age of 21 who were disrespectful to the child.5° Although the father was extremely critical of the mother's unwillingness at times to deviate from the court order as to custody, the evidence showed that he made a practice of refusing to proceed with exchanges of custody until the exact moment provided for in the order.~ Similarly, although the father chastised the 4~ N.T. 80-81. 4: N.T. 75, 176-77. 43 N.T. 205. 44 N.T. 24. 45 N.T. 62. 46 N.T. 62-63. 47 N.T. 205. 48 N.T. 78. 49 N.T. 82-83. 5° N.T. 81, 190. 5~ N.T. 207, 215. 9 mother for failing to promptly consult him about the child's medical circumstances, the evidence revealed that he had scheduled the child for elective surgery without informing the mother,s2 A petition for contempt filed by the father against the mother was based, in the court's view, upon incidents in which the mother had clearly acted in the child's best interest--e.g., by following a doctor's advice that the child, who had contracted an illness, not be exposed to the elements,s3 With no hint of irony, the father urged the court at the custody hearing to order the mother to undergo counseling,s4 The initial custody order in this case, issued pursuant to an agreement of the parties on June 3, 2002, awarded primary physical custody of the child to the mother and included no overnight custodial periods for the father,ss The second custody order, entered on September 10, 2002, was the product of a recommendation of the custody conciliator, following a conciliation conference, and provided for the mother to have primary physical custody and the father to have temporary or partial physical custody on alternating weekends for one or two days, and for brief periods on three weekdays,s6 The third custody order, issued on March 28, 2003, was the result of an agreement of the parties at a custody conciliation conference whereby the father was to have temporary or partial physical custody on alternating weekends,s7 inter alia. The agreement collapsed over details following the conference,s8 and the 52 N.T. 53 N.T. 54 N.T. 55 N.T. 56 N.T. 57 N.T. 58 N.T. 183-84. 39, 153-61,208-12. 55. 7; Order of Court, June 3, 2002. 8; Order of Court, September 10, 2002. 8-9. 8-9; Custody Conciliator Summary Report, March 24, 2003. 10 order which was entered by the court pursuant to the conciliator's recommendation included a provision for a hearing before the court. The fourth custody order, issued by the court on an interim basis on July 1, 2003, following a contentious hearing in June, 2003, in which both parties testified, provided for primary physical custody in the mother, temporary or partial physical custody in the father on alternating weekends, for a week at Christmas, on Thanksgiving, and, in the summer, for one out of every three weeks.59 Upon implementation, this order worked well from the child's standpoint.® Following a second day of hearing at which the parties both testified again, at which additional witnesses were called, and at which Plaintiff's counsel complained of the lack of accommodation provided in the interim order for Plaintiff's National Guard duty,61 the custody order from which Plaintiff father has appealed (as modified by a clarifying order issued at Plaintiff's request62) was entered: AND NOW, this 29th day of September, 2003, upon consideration of (a) Plaintiff's Custody Complaint with respect to the parties' daughter, Madison C. Seitz (d.o.b. March 25, 2002), (b) Plaintiff' s Petition for Contempt, and (c) Defendant's Counterclaim for Modification of the existing custody order, and following a hearing held on June 30, 2003, and September 25, 2003, it is ordered and directed as follows: 1. Legal custody of the child shall be shared by the parties. 2. Primary physical custody of the child shall be in Defendant, the mother. 3. Temporary or partial physical custody of the child shall be in Plaintiff, the father, at the following times: a. From September through May 59 Order of Court, July 1, 2003. 60 N.T. 147. 61 N.T. 140, 169. 6: See Order of Court, October 2, 2003. 11 (1) On alternating weekends, from Friday at 5:00 p.m. until Sunday at 5:00 p.m., provided, that on such weekends where the following Monday is a federal holiday Plaintiff' s periods of temporary or partial physical custody shall extend to Monday at 5:00 p.m.; (2) From Christmas Day at 2:00 p.m. until December 31 at 2:00 p.m.; (3) On Thanksgiving Day, from 2:00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m.; and b. From June through August, for one week out of every three weeks. 4. Notwithstanding any of the terms of paragraph 3, Plaintiff shall not exercise temporary or partial physical custody while he is on National Guard Duty; provided that, where a period of temporary or partial physical custody is missed by Plaintiff because of National Guard Duty, it shall be promptly made up at a time agreed upon between the parties, or, in the event of an inability of the parties to agree, at a time selected by Plaintiff upon five days' written notice to Defendant. 5. Neither party shall secrete the location of the child from the other party. 6. Transportation for exchanges of custody shall be the responsibility of the party receiving custody. 7. Nothing herein is intended to preclude the parties from deviating from the terms of this order by mutual agreement. 8. All other relief requested by either party is denied. 9. This order supersedes all prior custody orders.63 In fashioning this order, which (a) expanded the father's periods of temporary or partial custody from the prior interim order to accommodate his National Guard duty, (b) provided for a summer schedule which would permit vacation weeks with the child by each parent, (c) afforded the father Christmas 63 Order of Court, September 29, 2003 (emphasis added); Order of Court, October 2, 2003. 12 and Thanksgiving custodial periods as well as three-day holiday weekends as dictated by the calendar, and (d) otherwise afforded the father alternating weekends, commencing on Friday and ending on Sunday, the court attempted to reconcile the interest of the child in maintaining a good relationship with her father with her interest in taking advantage of the superior qualities of the mother as a parent. DISCUSSION With respect to custody, it has been said that "the guiding polestar in a custody matter is what is in the best interests of the child." Frank & Gale, Pennsylvania Family Practice Manual §9.02(B), at 328 (1990). One of the important factors to be considered in such a case is who has been the child's primary caretaker. Id §9.02(B)(2) at 334. Although shared physical custody (as advocated by the father in the present case) is appropriate under certain circumstances, there is no presumption in favor of shared custody merely because neither parent is totally unfit. See Smith v. Smith, 307 Pa. Super. 544, 549, 453 A.2d 1020, 1023 (1982). Shared physical custody may be ordered where both parents are fit, both parents evidence a continuing desire for active involvement in the child's life, both parents are recognized by the child as sources of security and love, and a minimal degree of cooperation between the parents is possible. Andrews v. Andrews, 411 Pa. Super. 286, 291,601 A.2d 352, 354 (1991). In making an assessment of the parents in the present case which favored the mother, the court was influenced by a number of evidentiary factors. First, as has been previously noted, the father basically ceded initial primary caretaker status to the mother after the child was born, by disappointing expectations as to his involvement with the baby, declining to learn how to operate the child's heart/breathing rate monitor, refusing a recommended CPR course, and agreeing to an initial order providing for extremely limited contact with the child on his part. Second, the mother's care of the child in that role has been extremely good 13 under very difficult circumstances, including the child's life-threatening health condition and the father's hypercritical attitude toward her. Third, while the father undoubtedly is interested in the child, his conduct has not been nearly so mature and responsible as the mother's in terms of parenting. Without reiteration of the entire history of the case, several examples may be mentioned: his overly-critical attitude toward the mother's endeavors, his refusal to take certain measures in the interest of the child's health,64 the lapse of health insurance without notification of the mother, and the arrearage on his support obligation. Furthermore, in the court's view it was not coincidental that the father's custody complaint was filed on the same day a child support order was entered against him. The disparity in the parental advantages offered to the child by the parties, and the extreme antagonism of the father toward the mother, led the court to reject a shared physical custody arrangement in favor of an arrangement whereby the parties would have joint legal custody, the mother would have primary physical custody, and the father would have liberal periods of temporary or partial physical custody. The court did not, as suggested by the statement of matters complained of on appeal by Plaintiff's counsel, apply a presumption in favor of the mother, attempt to precisely replicate the status quo, fail to consider Plaintiff' s allegations that the mother's performance as a parent was derelict, disregard "substantial evidence of the fitness of the Plaintiff," or adjudicate the case on the basis of a principle other than the best interests of the child. The summer schedule, as provided for in the order appealed from, was intended to make available vacation periods for the parents with the children. The order did not, as Plaintiff's counsel suggests, deprive Plaintiff of holidays; to the contrary, it afforded him custodial periods of a week during the Christmas season, 64 A legitimate disagreement did exist between the parties as to whether it would be in the child's best interest to have tubes placed in her ears. See N.T. 45, 47, 99, 137, 142, 182. In the absence 14 a portion of the Thanksgiving holiday, and extended weekends where federal holidays fell on the following Mondays; it may also be noted that, for a two-year- old child, the significance of a given holiday other than Christmas and Thanksgiving is somewhat conjectural. For the foregoing reasons, it is believed that the custody order from which Plaintiff has appealed was appropriate. BY THE COURT, Barbara Sumple-Sullivan, Esq. Plaintiff's Counsel J. Paul Helvy, Esq. Defendant's Counsel J. Wesley Oler, Jr., J. of medical testimony on the issue, the court was not in a position to adopt an opinion on the matter. 15